Ruck Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Six months ago I decided to ruin a 6 1/2 year relationship by having midnight talks with my ex girlfriends friend. I flirted a tremendous amount over those few nights. Yes I know I feel like the scum of the earth. You don't have to tell me. Thinking back I don't know why I did it. We never kissed or even met up. But doing this showed my ex how dishonest I was. I try calling and texting leaving long sorry messages. She hardly will answer back. I'm happy she is a strong person because I know now she wouldn't take any guys crap, but why did I have to be that guy? Am I out of luck or is there a chance for me to make things right and what should I do?
ls32ssibm Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Yes, move on. This is a case where it's better to leave the glass broken than cutting yourself trying to put it back together. 1
pbjbear Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 If shes smart she wont take you back. I had a guy do this to me once and sent me a bunch of love letters saying the things you said and more, and after a few more months he went right back to his old self... You either have low self esteem or an ego (as to reasons why you did it)
TouchedByViolet Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 6 years is a long time for a relationship, and even though what you did was very dishonest it doesn't necessarily warrant breaking up from that one event alone. Maybe there were other underlying issues that lead you to begin emotionally cheating on your gf. What are your desires?
Clep Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 My husband and I both cheated on each other. Our actions were not a reflection of how we felt about each other, but what was lacking in each of us personally. Reconciliation will never be successful if you haven't obtained within yourself what you were seeking outside of yourself with the woman you were flirting with. I would spend some time working on my own personal development if I were you and let her know that intention, then actively work on yourself and allow her to see the changes in your for herself. It is possible, as my husband and I separated three times in seven years for a year each time before we got it together. It took a year of intense therapy for us both and two years of therapy together to create a relationship that is happy, healthy and committed. It was worth it though for us both and our son who has his mom and dad in love.
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