mala08 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 hey guys i need help :/ im 22 shes 26 with a 8 year old son! i love them n miss them both a lot! we lived together the whole time we were together (1 year) she would tell me everyday how much she loved me. when she would go to work i would wake up every morning to morning texts saying i love you miss you. I DONT KNOW HOW SHE CAN JUST STOP N FORGET ABOUT ME LIKE THAT! before we broke up we had a fight about her past, so i went to my friends house. i went home n she wouldnt talk to me n told me she would talk wens shes ready.. i then went away to my sisters. This is when she rang me n told me she "needed space, an doesnt know what she wants but she still loves me" im trying n/c when i break she doesnt reply back i know shes still hurting. Ive seen her out a couple of times @ the local club. n she just watches me! The whole time we dated i wasn't allowed out or she didnt like my friends every time she sees them she gives them dirty looks! :/ shes made up lies about me to one of our close friend, she rights status about me. it hurts so much i don't understand why shes so nasty she broke up with me? I'm at the stage were i just want to be in her life so i can see the boy. its just so hard will she ever talk to me?? any advise would be good:)
SimonSerenade Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 She will talk to you again and I doubt she's just up and forgotten you although at the bottom of your heart it feels like that now, some women, not all women but independent women like to take a few days away from a situation and think about what's going on, sounds to me like that's what she's doing. I know how you feel though man, me and my recent ex have been fighting about her past too, I think this really messes with there mind, like your punishing them for the past and hating on them for it, I doubt that's the way it was, you were probably sincere about it but they don't view it like that. At the moment she's going to do whatever she wants and you got to give her the freedom to do that, it's a bit messed up how your losing out on your friends by being in a relationship with her but if your comfortable with that then by all means, don't mess up and go hanging out with them again. Right now you got to be a saint and you got be a solitary man, maybe send her a nice message and say your sorry, tell her how you really feel about her past, keep harsh words out of it and tell her you miss her and the kid, maybe she'll read it over and see your a good guy, I hope so. I'm sorry I can't give you much advice dude, I'm going through the exact same thing right now and all you can have is patience and in the time without her, just focus on yourself, have a real long hard think about where you might of gone wrong, work out, do something productive, just be patient and hope things work out for the best.
Author mala08 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 hey man thanks for getting back to me, ive tryed texting her but she wont contact me back, its been 3 months now! as soon as i think im moving on i see her or she has a depressing fb status that makes contact her n im back a square one. but yeah thanks again!
MsIndependent1 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 As a woman speaking, I do believe she may respond to you in time. However, you have to do your best to not contact her and go about your life. If she really wants you in her life she will do what's necessary to get it back. Try your best not to feed into the sad fb statuses and anything she may post. It's just validating the fact that you still care and that's all she needs to re-fuel her and keep on. 1
SimonSerenade Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 You need to break the habit man, your feeding her by just contacting her when she's down, she thinks she can have the best of you whenever she wants without ever having to work for it, preferably get of Facebook all together for now and she'll start to wonder where you've gone, your only going to hurt yourself seeing her on Facebook all the time, if she comes back she'll do it on her own terms, nothing you do now is going to bring her back, all you can do is save yourself some pain and get out of there, good luck man, I really feel you here. 1
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