stevie_23 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 GOOD!!! SO good!!! While I was reading your post, I had a thought that if at all possible, anger doesn't necessarily NEED to drive a wedge between the two people involved. If it IS possible, it could be really helpful (to you AND him, which ultimately helps you even MORE) if you try to include him IN your anger. Meaning you don't automatically feel, when you get angry about something, that you're alone in that feeling; that it's something AGAINST him. Maybe try and view it more as something that exists AROUND you both as a couple, and AROUND you as an individual, and you work together WITH him to help that anger dissipate from the atmosphere AROUND you. Does that make sense?
jnel921 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 It takes years.... Learned that the first time with my first husband. This time with my second husband, although I agreed to make our marriage work I still get upset and will say things that hurt him because I am still so very hurt. it's normal. He knows I need to do that and he takes it and will wait until I cool down to tell me how much he loves me even though I just called him or treated him like crap. It's been 5 months for me since DDay. It's tough but you have to beleive your H is there with you because he wants to be.
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