dirtysweet Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 What do you do about an internet crush? Especially if the guy lives in another country....? I have a crush on a man, and I'm sort of embarrassed I even have the crush because I doubt he'd like me back like that. Then there's the thing about him living in another country. He and I cybered the other night and I haven't heard from him except when I messaged him. I don't want to look clingy already. Jeeze it's like waiting for a real life dude to call you.
RyanBear Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Dont get too attached unless you know for sure he likes you the same way. Think about how much commitment and effort will both of you put into the relationship. If you guys do start dating how will you close the distance. I say give it time and see if he reciprocates the same feelings towards you. Honestly, i running into problems myself because i have been in ldr for 5 months and i am only 18. Think what you are getting yourself into if you plan on dating him.
Author dirtysweet Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 I've been in LDRs before, but like I said this guy lives in another country.
ses Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I've been in your shoes before. I dated a guy that I met online for 2 months. We broke up recently but distance wasn't really the issue. I would definitely recommend that you get to know him better. I communicated with my ex by Skype (video/chat). Make sure that you know with whom you're having an intimate relationship. We never had the opportunity to meet in person but we had discussed it. As another poster already said, it's important that you consider the inevitable possibility of relocating to another country if and when it becomes serious. Cultural issues can be a factor as well so you have to be committed. LDRs can be a pain but are worth it if you meet the right person.
justwhoiam Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 What do you do about an internet crush? Nothing? Especially if the guy lives in another country....? What country? I have a crush on a man, and I'm sort of embarrassed I even have the crush because I doubt he'd like me back like that. Then there's the thing about him living in another country. He and I cybered the other night and I haven't heard from him except when I messaged him. You mean you had cyber sex with him? Are you used to having cyber sex with strangers? Would you have a one-night stand IRL?
Els Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 How old are you? I'm not being snarky, it's quite an important factor.
Els Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 why wud age be an important factor in this? How old are YOU? Yes, this time I'm being snarky. 1
Els Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I said I was being... okay, never mind. In all seriousness, the reason age matters is because of maturity/experience, and more importantly, the ability to be financially capable of visits and relocation. Yes, I know every 18 year old and her twin sister believes themselves to be mature for their age. And they may well be. But it doesn't change the fact that a college student is going to find it very difficult to afford regular international flights and relocation is going to be out of the question without severely impacting their future. Not to mention the fact that I have serious doubts about the wisdom of cybersexing a dude that you have not even met.
todreaminblue Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 What do you do about an internet crush? Especially if the guy lives in another country....? I have a crush on a man, and I'm sort of embarrassed I even have the crush because I doubt he'd like me back like that. Then there's the thing about him living in another country. He and I cybered the other night and I haven't heard from him except when I messaged him. I don't want to look clingy already. Jeeze it's like waiting for a real life dude to call you. i had this mad crush on a poet called juan........he could write like you wouldnt believe..he wrote me poetry .....never cybered or anything it was more an emotional connection....sexual to me needs to be with someone up close and personal who i am attracted to and be able to touch them or have them touching me......its the only way i bond sexually intimately and that doesnt happen straight away i think it is really hard to do the online thing....too many possibilities of fraud, and not knowing who you are talking to really...i think cyber sex is whack.....and something that could never satisfy me...make me laugh most likely.......i am a physical person who likes sensuality keyboards and mouses are not sensual .....i dont know what i can say....have you actually spent anytime in real time like skype isnt it? or webcam.......or did the cyber happen through an instant messenger do you really think anything can happen if he lives in another country...do you ever think you will actually meet ....deb
Els Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 i dont suppose u done the long distance online thing before? if u have could u poss read my thread? I'm not sure which of us you're talking to. If it's both of us; well, I tried to read your thread, honestly, and gave up at line #3. I'm not saying this to be mean, but a bit of proper punctuation and spelling will make it much easier for people to read you, and consequently to answer you. Try it next time?
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