What the hell does my dumper want?

[Rocky road]

After approx 5 years she moved away for a job and left things open. A few months later after I confronted her on what was going on she dumped me out of the blue. She is still texting once every few days, saying she misses me, and blah blah but is clear to me she just cares about me thats it. It is a long story and I recently moved as well but she would not come. I honestly want her back as this was only a month ago or so. She texted me to something around a level 1 on as far as caring at all and I have not responded. I have had no contact for a week now and her texts are special torture. Is there anything other than no contact I can do? I mean, when I am ready can I just tell her to leave me alone forever? I know this is someone I can never be friends with now and that is why I am having such a hard time as well as the duration of our relationship, which was real good 4 of the 5 years, the last year was just kinda boring to her I think. I am not in a good space now and it is screwing up my work.

[january2011]

No response ever is the best reponse.

 

In answer to your thread title, she wants to feed her ego regardless of the pain it causes you.

 

You can say, "no."

 

In the haze/shock/confusion of the aftermath, I think many dumpees forget this.

[TaraMaiden]

After approx 5 years she moved away for a job and left things open. A few months later after I confronted her on what was going on she dumped me out of the blue. She is still texting once every few days, saying she misses me, and blah blah .... I have had no contact for a week now and her texts are special torture. Is there anything other than no contact I can do?

 

Yes.

Change your 'phone number.

 

Please don't say you can't, because of special contacts.

you can. I did.

I had to alert all my required contacts, of course i did.

But it was easy.

 

I transferred all contacts to my new phone, deleted the ones i didn't want, then sent out a mssg to all other contacts. Sorted.

[na49]

You probably won't do it because you want to keep the doors open for reconciliation but block her number or change your number. If the texts are torture and you know they are torture, it would be silly for you to not block them.