londonlad Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 There's a girl who's sort of on the edge of my life. We are sort of semi friends. I say semi because we, went on a couple of dates nothing (no sex) came of it really. After woods I planned to move on as I always do when a girl is not interested. But I found I couldn't I kept thinking about her and feeling things were unfinished. I assumed that I just really wanted to do her and that the next girl would wash that away. It didn't happen. Without boring people with the details, we now hang out now and again at the mo. But I'd drop all the other girls I'm seeing in a second for just a chance at something more between us. I must stress I'm not seeking advice. So no BS about the friend zone etc. I'm just looking for stories of people's experiences of that tricky customer, the one you drop your pride for. The one who makes you break your own rules even though you know you're doing it. Preferably success stories guys.
MrCastle Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Everytime I've broken my own rules for someone I've gotten burned. The levels of the burn vary, but I get burned nonetheless. Sorry, no success stories to be had here.
nessaaa Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Hoo oo oly shizzy.hehhe woods. But i dont like when people break rules for me because they hold it against you.
nessaaa Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Someone was suppose to go for training for the military but didnt end up doing it because of me. Now when i *** up i have to hear about the stupid military. ***a you
nessaaa Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Dont get mad if you cant stick to your own rules ya know. dont blame the other person if your weak.
NeoGen85 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Everytime I've broken my own rules for someone I've gotten burned. The levels of the burn vary, but I get burned nonetheless. Sorry, no success stories to be had here. Agree. I have one girl I broke the rule for. And she gets me every single time! I always get that text after 9PM. Nothing ever comes from it.
iKING Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 The girl you break your own rules for, is the girl that's probably going to break your heart. 1
Fitnerd Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 The girl you break your own rules for, is the girl that's probably going to break your heart. This!!! A thousand times this!
Author londonlad Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 The girl you break your own rules for, is the girl that's probably going to break your heart. ****. Thought so. When I say break the rules for I mainly mean just being persistent and not giving up even if she seems not that into me. I'm seeing many other girls. But this one is the only one I really want for more than one thing.
MYCluciferase Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Have to say that if you're so keen for her and she's casual about it, that puts you at a relationship disadvantage. I've been in that situation a couple of times, and persisted both times. One was successful and she grew to like me - ended up being a nice time, although it didn't last. In the other case the woman treated me in a very offhand way, and I called time on things... So 50:50 for me - I wouldn't say no, but it's a risk. Maybe she'll show more interest when you show how much you like her. (I've also missed a relationship because the woman I liked seemed to be playing it cool so I did too, only to find out later from mutual friends that she was crazy for me at the time, but wanted me to really chase after her. By the time I found out, she was over me and seeing someone else.)
Bengal Tiger Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 (edited) The number one rule: Don't fall in love at the Jersey Shore. Edited March 20, 2013 by Bengal Tiger
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Yeah...breaking your "rules" or normal etiquette/behavior usually results in disaster. It's like coming out from underneath cover only to be ripped to shreds. I have no idea why it works that way, it's the funniest shet that when you try the least as a man, you succeed the most...but when you put your neck on the line for someone you really are making an honest attempt to be with and put first, and just forget everything you know and learned, you just get destroyed for some reason. It's only happened to me a few times and they were situational, meaning out of the ordinary context...but it's definitely life-changing because you can succeed otherwise and then fail with that person. It definitely makes you take a hit to the confidence and humbles you back to where you feel a bit vulnerable again. I think personally I probably need that wake-up call every once in a great while...I can get a bit arrogant. I can't give you any positive feedback or success stories on this other than it's something that happens, and I'm generally "successful" in my romantic endeavors...it's the one thing I do have a consistent amount of luck in...however the few times you get burned...they stick with ya. Realize however, you are idealizing this woman and such as well...it's a bit of a fantasy, because relationships really do take work. I know one occasion for me was just the fact that I was into her more than she seemed into me (only met her once but it was steamy)...which was a shocker for me, but then again I was under A LOT of emotional duress that put me in that situation in the first place (not to disregard the facts, I got burned, I burned myself with stupid mistakes). I realized later that was really just my personal state, not really much about her...but at the time it hurt like a sonvabeatch. I think you had your chance already to make that impression...at this point you've got to walk away or go all in, in which will likely result in you getting toasted like a burnt marshmallow.
ja123 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 If you have to break your own rules for someone then it's because your feelings are much greater than hers. You've idealized her. It's always bound to fail. But isn't there pleasure in the pain of unrequited love?
gaius Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I swore I would never message a girl more than twice without getting a response. Once in a while with my girlfriend I slip and message her three times. It's working out fine so far. 1
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