thtguy24 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 hey guys im new to this forum but definitely looking for some advice. so to begin with im in college and theres this girl id seen around campus forever but never had a class with. Now I finally met her in a class and we go out to dinner every week with a group of friends after class. I feel like we have a good vibe so I finally work up the courage to ask her out when were alone one night after class. she smiles and says shes thought about it too but shes not really looking to date at the moment (coming off a longg term relationship that ended badly) but that we can talk about it over the weekend when we were supposed to hang out. fast forward to the weekend I bring dating up again and she says shes "not looking for anything right now" now if she had just told me that I would consider it game over and that shes not interested in me. but for her to say shes thought about it too throws me off completely. So people what do you think? what should be the game plan? Im I out? Thanks for the advice in advance
MrCastle Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I don't know how "I thought about it" makes it any better. That means she gave it thought and her answer was still no. "Not looking for anything" almost always means "with you". We're all looking for something 3
Author thtguy24 Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 I don't know how "I thought about it" makes it any better. That means she gave it thought and her answer was still no. "Not looking for anything" almost always means "with you". We're all looking for something Yea I would generally agree its just the manner with which she said it. it wasnt like yea i thought about it but im not lookin for anything. it was more in the realm of I thought about it but im still really messed up from my last relationship. In either case its not like im gonna stop seeing her since we have class together. I just dont know if there is an alternate move to make or if im outta luck
Imajerk17 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 (edited) Date other women. If anything will make someone come around, it is you moving on to someone else. Then she might wonder what she is missing... Edited March 18, 2013 by Imajerk17 1
Author thtguy24 Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 i agree with imajerk, start looking at other women. Dont crowd her, if she comes around then she does. But by you looking at other women, it will boost your chances if she does decide to come around. Im just not sure what coming around would be. We see eachother every week as it is and we always go out to dinner as a group. Idk if i should date others and then ask her again at some point
grkBoy Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 She was just being nice. If she considered you, then she would have tried a date. Move on. I speak from experience BTW. I've had many women tell me variations of that song and dance...then I see her 2 weeks to 2 months later with some guy she instantly said "yes" to and now she's calling him "boyfriend". "not looking for anything right now" = "not into you" or "not into you and not seeking a guy until Mr Amazing comes up and asks me out"
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