PogoStick Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 We all want to be with someone attractive. Some people are just hot and it's no contest. Sometimes I'll meet a girl and think she's cute. Then another time I don't feel it so much, or I see a FB picture and it's not so flattering. I'm left wondering was it just the makeup, lighting or something? Who has experienced this? How do you handle the situation? At least once I was with a girl I felt was fairly average but I found her more attractive as I became emotionally connected. Maybe it's deciding to focus on the good things instead of searching for flaws? A counter view might be that you should only go for someone that is clearly attractive to you. If the attraction is not strong, that could be a sign to just keep looking. Stronger attraction = stronger drive and passion. Being only half in with someone could even be considered cruel. 1
ThaWholigan Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Me personally, I don't feel unsure if I'm attracted to someone. If I'm attracted even remotely, it is strong. I like many things about women's bodies so it is not difficult for me. Ironically though, I have experienced this once where someones pics really belied their true appearance but in the sense that they were far better looking in person than on picture. 2
somedude81 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Once a girl's cute to me, she's always cute. I don't care if other people think she's attractive or not. 4
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Huh? Outside of the "universally gorgeous" people, attractiveness is subjective. If YOU are attracted, what else matters? 4
MrCastle Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 To answer your question seriously, yes I've felt that way before. I chalk it up to individual scenarios though. Like maybe one day she wore her hair in a new way and it looked terrible. I'm like "wtf," but I don't lose attraction. I just tell myself it was an isolated incident and keep moving. Same with pictures. Everybody takes bad pictures. People can't objectively look at a picture of themselves, which is why I think it's a good idea to have a friend of the opposite sex pick out your OLD pics for you, but I digress.
sweetkiwi Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Once a girl's cute to me, she's always cute. I don't care if other people think she's attractive or not. Pure genius. I've been with, and loved, people who others said weren't attractive or good enough or blah blah but being attracted to someone is more than skin deep. 2
SteveC80 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Im a hard marker unless im extremely attracted to a women i cant get it going so to speak Its also fluid in that i can a lose attraction from a bad haircut weight gain hairs growing etc Everyhting needs to be right from head to toe
Author PogoStick Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 What about the great body, but her face... Face is #1 don't you think? Easier to overlook some extra weight. Do women feel the same way about men?
todreaminblue Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 We all want to be with someone attractive. Some people are just hot and it's no contest. Sometimes I'll meet a girl and think she's cute. Then another time I don't feel it so much, or I see a FB picture and it's not so flattering. I'm left wondering was it just the makeup, lighting or something? Who has experienced this? How do you handle the situation? At least once I was with a girl I felt was fairly average but I found her more attractive as I became emotionally connected. Maybe it's deciding to focus on the good things instead of searching for flaws? A counter view might be that you should only go for someone that is clearly attractive to you. If the attraction is not strong, that could be a sign to just keep looking. Stronger attraction = stronger drive and passion. Being only half in with someone could even be considered cruel. i get attracted to men rarely, so when i do feel attraction its all or nothing,i have a had a fair few male friends over the years,never felt attraction and they have remained platonic or faded off after i have said no sorry......i have become attracted to men after getting to know them....recently though i am attracted to someone and it was pretty fast for me .......doesnt normally happen like this, nto fro me, i am super guarded and not really prone to any infatuation regarding men ...i dont believe that being half in with someone is a bad thing its a place to start fi there is something there because love can grow from people being completely opposite...... i dont think its cruel.... I have two guys in my life at the moment, one who is attracted to me who i hav ea fair bit in common with, nice looking guy loves kids, loves similar music,lifestyles are different, he can talk to me and we have long conversations when i dont hide out....... the other guy i am head over heels for, love everything about him am highly attracted to him, and we have similar beliefs values ideals and yep he loves kids..i still see he isnt perfect what really isnt good is he doesnt like me..so i dont think it would be cruel to go out with the guy i am not really attracted to as i could develop feelings........it might just take me longer.......deb 1
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