LoverOfDance Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I have these two friends. One stares at me every now and then and says nothing. One time, I simply entered the room and he screamed my name and was really excited that I had come into the room. It was really funny. Everyone noticed it and wondered what the excitement was about. This other guy stares at me a lot. When I look at him, he makes funny faces. Sometimes it's like he's trying to say something to me with his eyes. I can never understand what he's trying to say though so I just make a funny face. The other time I think he was trying to say bye but he only stared at me as he left the room so I didn't get it. Why do u think these two guys stare at me? I wish I knew why so I'm wondering if u guys know...?
ltjg45 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 It's hard to say, really. I stare a lot because I'm physically attracted to the female but there is something else that keeps me away from approaching her such as the setting, the people around her, and whether or not she has that vibe that tells me she is approachable. Smoking, being rude to others, and other such things also come into play. Those 2 may be staring at you because they like your body and the way you look but they could also be thinking that you are not physically attracted to them or you already have a boyfriend. If you do have any attraction to them, you need to show that to them and see if they are willing to approach you then. Otherwise, they may be content just staring at you.
Bengal Tiger Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 They like you and think you're attractive and they don't know what to say and they fear rejection. I've been guilty of this many times. I keep hoping she'll look back and smile or flick her hair or wink or some other positive body language to indicate she's friendly towards meeting me. I know a couple who started out this way. Dude was shy but kept staring at this girl. She knew what was up so she went over and talked to him and left her number. She even made a joke about it like "are you just going to keep looking forever or are you going to buy me lunch?". (in college)
carhill Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 IME, I tend to 'stare' if a lady is either immediately attractive to me in the sexual sense (rare) or if she, either her mannerisms or appearance, reminds me of someone I know or recognize. The 'staring', in the latter case, is processing for comparison to memory. Most young guys will 'stare' when sexually attracted, in the visual sense, to a lady's appearance. It's a nearly involuntary response. I noted this in myself this past week at the beach when encountering young ladies in quite skimpy attire. Of course, they were young enough to be a daughter or granddaughter so I just laughed it off as remembering I'm old, not dead If the young men are sufficiently attracted, presuming the actions are a result of that, they will approach you if you signal them it is OK to do so. Some guys are shy about that but, sufficiently attracted, it can override their shyness. You can facilitate that with your behavior, presuming you wish to get to know them in that sense. Good luck.
Soxfaninfl Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Pretty simple.... Romantic Interest. It's pretty much cut and dry why a man usually stares. He's attracted to you and find you beautiful.
Author LoverOfDance Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 If they actually like me, why don't they say something? Will they ever say or do anything about it? If they're not saying anything then I'm thinking they probably don't really like me that much.
Author LoverOfDance Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 The first one has been staring at me for 5 months every now and then. The second one has actually been staring at me for two years every now and then as well. Will they stare at me forever?
rocketman122 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I stare, if you want to call it that. but im just observing. but when I see a nice piece of azz, I wonder what she tastes and smells like.
Soxfaninfl Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 If they actually like me, why don't they say something? Will they ever say or do anything about it? If they're not saying anything then I'm thinking they probably don't really like me that much. I stare a women that I'm attracted too, but try not to make it too obvious. I'm shy, so I will never approach a women.
ltjg45 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 The first one has been staring at me for 5 months every now and then. The second one has actually been staring at me for two years every now and then as well. Will they stare at me forever? If they don't feel that they can't approach you without being questioned for doing so, they will continue to stare and be content with it. You could be the sexiest creature on the face of the world in my eyes but if you don't look like you want to be approached, I'm not going to do it. In fact, if I actually do think that way, I wonder how many other males out there who thinks the same way. With that said, I have too much competition to even think about keeping your attention so it's best not to bother. 1
Author LoverOfDance Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 They are checking you out. Bit, if you know they are looking it means YOU are looking too. If you were not looking you would never know they were staring at you.:D I don't stare at guys I'm attracted to and I don't stare at guys I'm not attracted to either so u can never tell whether I'm attracted or not. I only stare when I'm lost in thought. I can see them from the corner of my eyes. That's how I know they're staring. When I notice the second guy is staring, I look directly at him and we just make funny faces at eachother. Sometimes I just ignore him tho cause I don't know what to do.
Author LoverOfDance Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 If they don't feel that they can't approach you without being questioned for doing so, they will continue to stare and be content with it. You could be the sexiest creature on the face of the world in my eyes but if you don't look like you want to be approached, I'm not going to do it. In fact, if I actually do think that way, I wonder how many other males out there who thinks the same way. With that said, I have too much competition to even think about keeping your attention so it's best not to bother. What would make u feel a girl is not approachable? What is it exactly that she does that makes u feel this way?
ltjg45 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I don't stare at guys I'm attracted to and I don't stare at guys I'm not attracted to either so u can never tell whether I'm attracted or not. I only stare when I'm lost in thought. I can see them from the corner of my eyes. That's how I know they're staring. When I notice the second guy is staring, I look directly at him and we just make funny faces at eachother. Sometimes I just ignore him tho cause I don't know what to do. It's weird though. You two making funny faces would tell me that you are willing to be approached so I don't know what's stopping him.....unless he's thinks you are funny and just likes doing it. I don't know about the other guy. Perhaps you need to send a stronger signal to him and see what happens. Or, better yet, be direct. I really don't know why women don't be direct more often. If there is any gender that doesn't know what kind of message women is trying to send, it's males.
ltjg45 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 What would make u feel a girl is not approachable? What is it exactly that she does that makes u feel this way? She has a serious face. (This is the biggest one right there.) She always looks forward. She doesn't look around. She is walking as if the vibe tells me she is busy or she is in a rush. She is strictly minding her own business (like reading a book or listening to music). She has a few people around her. Doesn't matter if it's males (due to one of them being a possible boyfriend) or females (just out and about enjoying her among her gender). She is doing something and focusing on it. It's these things that tells me, "No, she doesn't want to be bothered by random strangers". I respect that and move on, even if I'm attracted to her. Regardless of my interest, I'm not going to be a jerk and interrupt her for my benefit.
Sivok Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I really don't know why women don't be direct more often. If there is any gender that doesn't know what kind of message women is trying to send, it's males.Because fear of rejection goes both ways, and since it's usually traditional for the guy to do the approaching, women would rather not deal with that. As for me, I stare to try and make eye contact - solely for the purpose of strengthening my eye contact. I do this with both guys and girls in passing, and if a particular girl catches my eye I'll smile and gauge her reaction. Like others said, these guys are interested, but are scared to make a move
ltjg45 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Because fear of rejection goes both ways, and since it's usually traditional for the guy to do the approaching, women would rather not deal with that. That is true. However, in this case, the 2 males is interested as they have been staring at her for months but they have no clue what she thinks of them. They don't want to approach her because they do feel they will get rejected. So, really, this one is more under her control. If she has initial interest in them and they are showing interest in her, she needs to break the ice and let them know. Unfortunately, males is terrible at reading subtle hints that females like to do so it is best to be direct in this scenario and leave all doubt out the door.
Djz05 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I admit im guilty in doing this. When Im in a room where someone catches my eye, I cant help myself from staring. The funny thing is if its a stranger and she catches me looking I just smile at her and never think too much about it. But if its someone I knew and liked, I'd get all embarrased and pretend I was looking at something else or just busy. Then when shes not looking, I end up staring again. Its embarrasing haha. I cant even think of approaching them since I get all clumsy and shy.
PogoStick Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 He's trying to say, "I wonder how you look naked?"
chex Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Sometimes i just space out and happen to be looking in someone's direction :c
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