NotCamelot Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 This Sunday night will be the first anniversay of the start of the worst period of my life. It was March 24th last year that my W told me that I did not love her. Then a few days later started the A with the scum from her past. I know that I am going to have a lot of emotional crap to deal with in my head over the next 6 weeks. Even though we are indeed happy again, and things are going really well, I feel like when those dates and times come around I will be thinking, "she did --------- last year at this moment". We are taking off this Saturday for a vacation. I specifically wanted this time period to be away from work to concentrate on us. And, we plan to renew our wedding vows too. This was planned last summer....I did not just decide to do it... I want to create new good memories to replace the bad ones. I think this is a good idea. Now, I wonder, for those that have made it through R and got to the other side, how did you handle that stuff......especially on the first anniversary of it?
Owl Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 It's ok to acknowledge to yourself that you're triggering on some rough memories due to the date. But...keep it in focus that it's the PAST...it's not the "right now"...and it's the right now that matters. So focus on what's better and right now, rather than keep looking at what was wrong then. It'll get easier as time goes by. 2
Author NotCamelot Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 It'll get easier as time goes by. That's what I keep praying for. Yesterday, a movie came on cable.....the same movie I paid to see last year.....she sat to watch it with me last year and minutes after got up and went to his house for their first encounter. As soon as the movie came on yesterday, I felt the pain and changed the channel immediately. She said, "I thought you liked that movie." I just said, "Yeah." I don't know if she knows why I changed it......she does not remember things like that as well as I do. That movie NEVER comes on...ever....why now? The next 6 weeks are going to be mentally rough for me.
Spark1111 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I had to do MANY things differently on holidays and anniversaries for quite a few years....until I was no longer affected by it. Whatever it takes NC......it's ok. 1
Author NotCamelot Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 And Dday was on my dad's Bday, 2 weeks to the day after our wedding anniversary. Mine was 8 days after wedding anniversary.......
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