Gottabestrong Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 A few months ago I was on a dating website and started talking to this one guy, we exchanged numbers, but nothing ever came out of of it and we stopped talking. Two weeks ago he suddenly started texting me again. He said that he had been busy and stressed with work but would like to reconnect. I told him that I had been dating someone and that just ended recently and am not looking for a new relationship right now, he said that he understood and we could just be friends. Since then he has been texting me a few times per day and we talk about all kinds of things, which is really nice, but he never asks to meet in person. Is it me, or is that weird? I mean, even if we just want to be friends, wouldn't you want to meet your friend in person? Our texts are strictly platonic, but I wonder if he might be having a girlfriend or wife and is 'cheating emotionally' though the nature of our texts really is not like that. Ideally, he is dating other people, but for some reason really interested in being friends with me, but is that likely? I mean, we never even met and our texts could not be called exciting conversation or anything like that. It's mostly like: 'Hey, what are you you up to? How was work?' Like you would text a friend. I am torn on what to do, on the one hand I don't have any friends here and it is nice to have someone to talk to. On the other hand, it feels weird to develop a friendship with someone I have never even met. Any Thoughts?
CryForNoOne Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Talk about mixed signals. Of course he hasn't asked to meet you. You told him you're not looking for a relationship right now and he's respecting that. Sounds like you want to meet him. Why not drop hints or just ask him...
soccerrprp Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 My first thought is that he's tethering you along. In other words, keeping your thoughts on him to keep you interested until he's ready to take the next step to asking you out. He doesn't really want to be just friends. Either that or he has a very anti-social view of what friends are. You did tell him that you were not ready for a relationship, so he's keeping you as an option until you are. Do you want to meet him? Why not ask to meet, but reiterate that you are not ready for another relationship? If he does, good. If not, well, there's more going on here and it may not be good.
Object_a Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 I agree with Soccerrprp. It sounds like he's hedging his bets. He's keeping you on the back burner in case his other dates don't work out. I'd be very sceptical about him only wanting to be friends.
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