mega325 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Let's refer to her as K. We're currently seniors We were best friends since 8th grade but during junior year we stopped talking because she was upset at me and how I was spending too much time with another girl. A couple months ago I called her asking why we stopped talking, she was in tears and sobbing saying that I was mean and the reason she's crying was that I was her "first crush." She says that she doesn't want to be friends with me again. Last month she asked me to the Sadie Hawkins dance where the girl asks the guy. We had a great time, held hands, and slow danced. Afterwards we started texting and chatting with each other again. Problem is that I'm usually the one initiating all of the conversations, texting first, making the calls, etc. Meanwhile with her friends and her one best guy friend, she's usual starts the convo. I'm the jealous type and the fact that she spends so much time with her best guy friend, who's a sophmore, is driving me mad/jealous. I've been making efforts to hangout with her but she's been quite busy. Everytime we hangout though we always have fun, we hold each other's eye gazes, smile, and flirt with each other. But i'm still unsure of what her feelings are because she's so hard to read. Sources say that if I asked her to prom it would be a definitive yes and that she likes me, but other sources states that I might just be a friend. Recently, she's been hanging out with her best guy friend thats a sophomore at a ridiculous rate. They've been hanging out alot after school. I texted her yesterday asking how her speech competition went but she didn't reply. I called her tonight and she was talking to him on the phone during that time. what are her feelings for me?
Emissary Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 (edited) To be honest, I wouldn't care much what her feelings were if I were you. Ditch her, she's not making an effort so she's not worth it. Don't text or call her for a while, if she honestly doesn't find a reason to contact you within a week, then it's a worthless venture going for her. You haven't really described the sophomore guy, but at each relative age, he's almost certainly pursuing her romantically, and honestly, he's got the advantage over you. Girls want a seemingly more mature guy, especially in high school, or whatever it is you're in, I don't really understand the American schooling system. I wouldn't consider her worth it, but if you want her, you should just man up and make a go for it. If she's uncertain, give her the above mentioned silent treatment. Keep in mind though, you're not ignoring her if you stop texting her for a while, if she texts or calls you, feel free to reply. Though, don't reply right away unless you feel what she's said is worth an immediate response, wait a few hours at least. EDIT: Also if the guy is a douche, maybe consider sabotaging his efforts. Spread rumours about him, or maybe put some effort into creating a fake female Facebook account, fire away a bunch of friend requests to make the account seem legit, post some status updates, and within a few weeks, write on his wall about the "good time" you had with him the other night, maybe hoping it's not a one night stand. If she's into him, chances are she's going to be following his Facebook closely. There's nothing wrong with underhanded efforts so long as you don't get caught, or maybe I'm just a sociopath, who knows. Edited March 18, 2013 by Emissary
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