Neenee Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Long story cut incredibly short!.. I got to know this guy for 2 years seeing each other on and off it turned into dating I was head over heels his dad is a boxing coach so he was pretty much busy all the time with that & he was working at the same time he always said he didn't have time for a gf but I ignored that remark a year after that we became an "item" i got a job by luck no stalker thing lol across from where he worked an d he made time for me as much as he could sexual tension was there we could have a laugh and go serious we just clicked months later we argued he ended it he causes the argument and even swore at me daft b**** ! i gave as gud as i got still I was heart broken seriously nearly 3 years later and I get this he said he didn't want to be with me anymore and people were causing problems they were but I never cared I said ok I walked around like a zombie for weeks till I'd had enough & I asked him again for a reason he told me he had to concentrate on his career & his job him wanting to become a boxer which I knew about I left it few months later he said he wanted to meet up I agreed he didn't turn up i just felt used! I had enough I figured I wasn't good enough and left it the way it was I had to see him everyday and learn about his success him leaving work because the boxing was working out! I know it all comes across as immature but I was so hurt I thought he was the one . I still can't look at another guy i still can't stop loving him I can't go back my prides too hurt I just need some advice was there love there & what went wrong I've gone over it too many times in my head ;/ thanks xxx I wish to this day things could have been diffrent but oh well us girls are fighters I know that much x
AwptiK Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Nothing went wrong that you could change, but I wouldn't doubt you could have avoided the pain. "he always said he didn't have time for a gf but I ignored that remark" He left you because is career is what's important to him right now. It's just not the right time in his life for a relationship. Doesn't mean what you two had wasn't real when it lasted, but it's not meant to be right now. I know it hurts, but definitely accept that you didn't do anything and you couldn't have done anything to change the outcome. When it comes to careers/school/etc, I find that breakups for those reasons are simply understood by accepting "I may or may not be present in their future 10 years from now. BUT, that career or that degree that will get them on track to their career will be their future and they need to focus on that." I hope you start to feel better. I myself just got out of a relationship that I was dumped in, from a single mother who needs her spare time for her nursing degree. It took her saying, "This is my future" for me to understand how realistic we should think about these things. If what you had was real love and he felt the same, he may come back in due time when his career is on track with boxing. But do NOT dwell on such thoughts. Nothing you think, do, or say can change the course time will take on his career or his heart.
Author Neenee Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 Thank you for replying & yes that's what everyone says his career was more important that still kind of makes me feel like ****! But hey I'll get over it. I don't see him anymore as or left work and I don't have any contact with him so I should be over him soon if in 2 3 years time he does come back and claim things are diffrent they won't be for me. Yeah I feel your pain I've decided im not moving on physically because I can't deal with it all again but emotionally I'm done if you understand me since he left I've been through a lot to losing my Job & a close family member passing away then I was I'll couldn't walk for 6 months piled on so much now my target is lose the weight an sort my life out you know a dominoes effect lol that's the effect his had on my life! Little bit of advice for you.if they left you they were never worth it in the first place & I bet they regret it when they are done with their career well I hope :/ xx nikki
Amelie1980 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I'm not convinced of this career thing. When I was at uni I met medical students who managed to have relationships, ditto junior doctors who work incredibly long hours. Imo if you want it to.work, career or.not, you make it.work.and don't let.someone go. 3
destroyed4sho Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Yep, I second that...I feel the whole career/im too busy thing is an excuse or a cover up to what is really going on...like he met someone else or he was never really that into you in the first place and needs an out. If you.really want to be with someone you find a way. It may not be the perfect circumstances but there is always a way.
Author Neenee Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 Thank you neither was I my girlfriends told me if someone loves u you make time for them! & he couldn't so nothing more needs to be said! On the other hand I know how much his career meant to Him at gym morning noon & night never even had any time for his friends I don't know maybe he is completely and utterly devoted to his career or maybe he just didn't love me hey never going to know now am I lol thanks so much for replying btw xx
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