Driftking102 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Hey gals. I have a question. Do you let your man drink around you? My girlfriend is very specific about this and has told me she doesn't care where/when i drink as long as its not around her. I can't even be around her when she drinks with her girlfriends. I don't act like an idiot unless I get super wasted and that usually never happens. I am just wondering how many other women set rules for their guys to follow saying they can't drink around them? Also note: My girlfriendnever drinks around any of her guy friends. Her girlfriends are the only ones she drinks with. I am new to the whole relationship scene so just want to know if this is normal. I guess she really thinks I am special and doesn't want to act like an idiot while she is drunk around me? We hangout pretty much 24/7 and talk and text on the phone. She only drinks around her girlfriends which i dont care about. I would like to have one beer with her one of these days. Is she being old fashioned? So far everything I have done with her is because she was raised on old fashioned customs which is cool. I am just curious on your opinions.
Krieger Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 her dad or someone in her family might be a drunk and does not want you to be drunk around her . 1
123321 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Sorry, I was mistaken in thinking it was a man we were talking about here.
Author Driftking102 Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 I am a man, but my girl doesnt like me drink around her.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Hmm, I guess you could say she is VERY old fashioned. My boyfriend doesn't drink but I've never dated someone that I told couldn't drink around me. Infact, it's good to see how those you are dating hold their liquor.
MaybeMilitary Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 My partner and I drink around each other and with each other. I would be pretty unhappy if we couldnt share a wine over dinner together! (unless he didnt drink at all which is different). I guess she doesn't want to make a fool of herself at the begining of the relationship?? my mother never drinks with people she doesn't know as she gets rather tipsy from just one glass.. . . might be something similar?
veggirl Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 No that's really weird. I would ask her motivation behind this. It seems like a control thing...I mean she drinks so she doesn't object to you drinking, but just around her? Weird. You never asked why? 1
dj572 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Hmmm that seems odd. I don't drink myself and I don't like to be around people drinking but you said your girlfriend drinks so I am puzzled. I personally don't like to be around people drinking because they annoy me so I avoid it altogether. If your girlfriend didn't drink I could understand but since she drinks you might have to ask her why.
Lani Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I think this is strange.. I'd never impose that rule on anyone, but I guess she has her reasons. Like Krieger said, she may have had issues in the past with the men in her life drinking and it being an issue. I'd talk to her about it and try and find the motivation behind things. If you stay together, do you really think this is something you can keep up? What about your wedding?
Minnie09 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 That's weird. Some people make bad choices when they drink and do stupid, irresponsible things, and maybe she doesn't want you to be around her because she knows she's one of them?*
Author Driftking102 Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 Personally I think its a stupid rule. She says she does not want to make a fool of herself around me and I told her no matter what side I see, I am always going to like her for the way she is. It's pretty stupid.
Estate Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Hey gals. I have a question. Do you let your man drink around you? My girlfriend is very specific about this and has told me she doesn't care where/when i drink as long as its not around her. I can't even be around her when she drinks with her girlfriends. I don't act like an idiot unless I get super wasted and that usually never happens. I am just wondering how many other women set rules for their guys to follow saying they can't drink around them? Also note: My girlfriendnever drinks around any of her guy friends. Her girlfriends are the only ones she drinks with. I am new to the whole relationship scene so just want to know if this is normal. I guess she really thinks I am special and doesn't want to act like an idiot while she is drunk around me? We hangout pretty much 24/7 and talk and text on the phone. She only drinks around her girlfriends which i dont care about. I would like to have one beer with her one of these days. Is she being old fashioned? So far everything I have done with her is because she was raised on old fashioned customs which is cool. I am just curious on your opinions. It's not normal at all. Sounds very controlling. If you want to drink, then drink and if she has a problem with you doing ANYTHING you want to do then you need to find a girl more in sync with hat you like to do. 1
Addison312 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 You need to ask why. This seems odd. I enjoy having a couple of drinks with the person I'm dating, especially in the beginning when people have their guard up.
KatZee Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I didn't like when my ex drank around me but my case was entirely different than yours. My ex was a sloppy, aggressive, and obnoxious drunk. He's been thrown out of bars, and has been held back on occasion by his friends for starting fights. He would drink to the point of black out, and he was an embarrassment to be around. He would grope me in public, scream obscene things, run into people. I remember a couple of occasions he called black people (n****rs), and he ran into a woman and almost fell into the subway tracks. I actually put my hand over his mouth when he was ranting and he actually BIT my finger. I had teeth marks. He would say things like, "you can drink tonight when we go out and I'll drive" and then he'd get to the bar, proceed to pound back 4 beers in a matter of 30 minutes and do shots and be so s.hithoused that I'd have to stay sober and then drive him AND his friends home at the end of the night. I told him that he wasn't allowed to disrespect me like that and if he continued to behave that way around me, he was done. He'd then wake up the next morning and be like... "I feel like I did something bad... but I can't remember the night. What did I do?" I'm all for having fun, and partying and drinking. But when you become Mr. Hyde, I'm sorry it's not cute and it's extremely immature. If you're not doing those things, I don't get what the problem is though.
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