PogoStick Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I finally just got direct with this girl I've been taking my time with because she hasn't shown strong signals. She said maybe it's because she's "not good at saying no" and in the past Aholes took advantage of that. Why would a girl reveal that? Is this a shy girl's way of saying "go for it"? It wasn't a flirty, suggestive conversation, just to the point of, hey what are you feeling. I'm getting ready to leave she says something like, now you're going home all worked up. Which I think actually meant she was worked up. I feel like an idiot because these are probably really obvious hints for women. Guess I'm being overly concerned and respectful of her time and sleep. Maybe I'm doing push/pull without even realizing it and she's enjoying the game. Of course, I'm torn the entire time trying to resist my own temptation. Then the smallest of moments that tip the scales; my thumb barely grazes the skin above her belt and she accuses me of teasing her. Ok FINE! Hit me over the head with a frying pan will you?
Keenly Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I think what she means is kind of like a problem I have. I have a problem saying no to my significant other, which can lead to problems down the road. It's a tactic to avoid confrontation or disagreement completely, but it causes more problems than it solves. Example : She wants chinese, you want pizza, but when you ask if pizza is cool she will say sure, even though that's not what she actually wants Or am I missing what you are saying
ascendotum Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 "not good at saying no" + I'm getting ready to leave she says something like, now you're going home all worked up + my thumb barely grazes the skin above her belt and she accuses me of teasing her. Yep she is throwing out subtle signals, that you could have leveraged off and ramped up the flirting with. "she's "not good at saying no" and in the past Aholes took advantage of that"....Its just not the best thing to say to a guy imo that would make them see her in a more favorable light as gf material.
Author PogoStick Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 "not good at saying no" + I'm getting ready to leave she says something like, now you're going home all worked up + my thumb barely grazes the skin above her belt and she accuses me of teasing her. Yep she is throwing out subtle signals, that you could have leveraged off and ramped up the flirting with. "she's "not good at saying no" and in the past Aholes took advantage of that"....Its just not the best thing to say to a guy imo that would make them see her in a more favorable light as gf material. Yea it made me wonder, will I be considered another jerk if I do make a move? I was a minute from walking out the door when she made the teasing comment. That's when I decided I wasn't good at saying no either. That's where I'm trying to decide is that what she wanted or did she just acquiesce.
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