maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Okay this guy is really good looking tall funny what not. And he told me that he recently broke up with his long time gf, and he is attracted to me. We are not seriously dating or anything yet but we know we are both interested in each other. But he never texts me on the weekends. Once I have initated the contact and he would respond once but did not seem to want to continue the conversation. So I didn't push any further. Is that supposed to raise a red flag? Or is he just trying to take things slowly? Any suggestions as to how I should act? Or does it seem like just too much hassel that I should just forget about figuring it all out and run?
Author maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 First date very recently. We've been texting for about a month but he kept pushing back actual date because he wants to take things slow.
phineas Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 First date very recently. We've been texting for about a month but he kept pushing back actual date because he wants to take things slow. So let's see, if he tries to get in your pants ASAP he's a player. If he doesn't try to get into your pants ASAP he's a player. See where i'm going here?
todreaminblue Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 some guys like to take it slow,but maybe you should just ask hi straight up whats going on if you are feeling insecure abotu why he doesnt text on weekends.......you have only had one date he has just broken up with his girlfriend...i think slow and steady is a good idea....deb
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 He isn't very interested is what it sounds like. You could just be a time waster... doesn't mean hes a player... at least if you aren't looking for anything serious. One date isn't much though, and from my personal experiences... if he WAS interested. He would have contacted you already on his own.
neveragain34 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 If he texts you a lot during the week and disappears on the weekends, I'd definitely be suspicious. He could still be seeing the ex or never even broke up with her. Go with your gut; it's usually right. 2
Author maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 So let's see, if he tries to get in your pants ASAP he's a player. If he doesn't try to get into your pants ASAP he's a player. See where i'm going here? I do but I am also interested in hearing some more elaboration on this point. What made you conclude so? And what should a girl do in this situation then?
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I do but I am also interested in hearing some more elaboration on this point. What made you conclude so? And what should a girl do in this situation then? Move on. Easy. It was only one date. You shouldn't be so attached already.
Author maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 He isn't very interested is what it sounds like. You could just be a time waster... doesn't mean hes a player... at least if you aren't looking for anything serious. One date isn't much though, and from my personal experiences... if he WAS interested. He would have contacted you already on his own. I have a bit of trouble understanding your second sentence. But he does contact me, just not on the weekends.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I have a bit of trouble understanding your second sentence. But he does contact me, just not on the weekends. Time waster? He is interested but not seriously. Same with me, texted them when I was bored, ignored them when I wasn't. One date darling. One date is nothing.
Author maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 It was only one date. You shouldn't be so attached already. That is a really really good point. Just curious, although not applicable in this situation, if you have been dating a guy for a few weeks, and you want to stop seeing him, would you tell the guy the reason and that you want to stop it all or would you just stop talking to him without telling him why etc?
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 That is a really really good point. Just curious, although not applicable in this situation, if you have been dating a guy for a few weeks, and you want to stop seeing him, would you tell the guy the reason and that you want to stop it all or would you just stop talking to him without telling him why etc? He is the one not keeping contact with you. Just stop. There is no investment or relationship. Just leave it be.
Author maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 He is the one not keeping contact with you. Just stop. There is no investment or relationship. Just leave it be. This is not about this guy, but someone else... I was just wondering if I should speak up for myself when I feel wronged/disrepected, or just drop it all without even saying a word for I no longer intend to see him anyway.
todreaminblue Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 This is not about this guy, but someone else... I was just wondering if I should speak up for myself when I feel wronged/disrepected, or just drop it all without even saying a word for I no longer intend to see him anyway. if you fee disrespected you should say as much, because it may not have been his intention fro you to feel that way....deb
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 This is not about this guy, but someone else... I was just wondering if I should speak up for myself when I feel wronged/disrepected, or just drop it all without even saying a word for I no longer intend to see him anyway. Wait... this is a different guy now? Not the one you had only one date with? Why do you feel wronged/disrespected?
rana-rana Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 First date very recently. We've been texting for about a month but he kept pushing back actual date because he wants to take things slow. he has another gf on the side mami trust. if he liked u like that he woulda already be coming at u and let u be the one to slow it down. men arent suppose to slow it down. thats our job.
Author maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 Wait... this is a different guy now? Not the one you had only one date with? Why do you feel wronged/disrespected? I mean .. to be honest, he once turned me down at the very beginning because he thought I was going too fast? (and I don't think I was. trust me.) And then in the mean time, another guy asked me out on a date so we've been on a couple of dates. I feel disrespected because he never tells me his plan ahead of time but will just go MIA for a bit and then tell me after he gets back - I'm just getting back from XX. And he has all his life planned out and I'm definitely not in the picture.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I mean .. to be honest, he once turned me down at the very beginning because he thought I was going too fast? (and I don't think I was. trust me.) And then in the mean time, another guy asked me out on a date so we've been on a couple of dates. I feel disrespected because he never tells me his plan ahead of time but will just go MIA for a bit and then tell me after he gets back - I'm just getting back from XX. And he has all his life planned out and I'm definitely not in the picture. Couple meaning... 3? You are confusing me... are you dating 2 guys? Why are you asking about the 1st if you are already dating someone else? Of course the second guy isn't putting you in the pictures... just because he went on a few dates with you doesn't mean he is obligated to tell you what he does all the time. Another classic situation. My advice. Don't base your life around your dates. The key to dating is to have your life and let the dates be the icing on the cake.
ja123 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 He may or may not be a player, but one thing is for sure: he's not that into you. If he texts you again, don't bother writing back. It sucks when you're interested in someone but they are not feeling it with you. Best thing to do is to move on.
Keenly Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 It's more than possible that this guy has just been hurt before and he wants to make sure it doesn't happen again. Hence the desire to go slow.
Author maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 Couple meaning... 3? You are confusing me... are you dating 2 guys? Why are you asking about the 1st if you are already dating someone else? Of course the second guy isn't putting you in the pictures... just because he went on a few dates with you doesn't mean he is obligated to tell you what he does all the time. Another classic situation. My advice. Don't base your life around your dates. The key to dating is to have your life and let the dates be the icing on the cake. No - no- I was not "dating" two guys at the same time. 1st guy sort of rejected me, so I moved on. Then while I was going on dates with the 2nd guy, the 1st guy reinitiated the conversation. We never dated during this period but only texted. Then I stopped dating this 2nd guy. And then went on the first date with the 1st guy. Then my question about the 1st guy was - he seems like a player or has someone else on the side. And my question about the 2nd guy is - if you "stop dating," does someone must say it out aloud to make it offically "stop dating"? or do people just stop dating without saying anything?
Author maestrok Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 He may or may not be a player, but one thing is for sure: he's not that into you. If he texts you again, don't bother writing back. It sucks when you're interested in someone but they are not feeling it with you. Best thing to do is to move on. If you did not respond, and if he asks you why you are not responding or acting all weird, should you tell him why?
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 No - no- I was not "dating" two guys at the same time. 1st guy sort of rejected me, so I moved on. Then while I was going on dates with the 2nd guy, the 1st guy reinitiated the conversation. We never dated during this period but only texted. Then I stopped dating this 2nd guy. And then went on the first date with the 1st guy. Then my question about the 1st guy was - he seems like a player or has someone else on the side. And my question about the 2nd guy is - if you "stop dating," does someone must say it out aloud to make it offically "stop dating"? or do people just stop dating without saying anything? You still didn't answer how many dates. You technically are multidating, no biggy though. Question 1: He doesn't seem like either, and it is unfair of you to assume so just because he didn't text you that much. Question 2: Just stop dating without saying anything.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 If you did not respond, and if he asks you why you are not responding or acting all weird, should you tell him why? NO. My god woman. The point is to just stop. You don't have to explain yourself. 1
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