18Years2Late Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 So in S's case, she may feel better knowing MM threw her under the bus than she might if he wrote this himself? Aren't both just as bad? In fact I would think the latter would be preferable, based on what he wrote. The writer here is clearly hurting and it seems that S made him feel like less of a man. It seems he's lashing back because she, intentionally or not, hurt him. The former (being thrown under the bus) just says "well it was fun but my 'real' life means so much more, so to hell with you". You're saying that my line of thinking is way off the mark? Nope...I wrote my take on it...your take is good too...
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 If my ex-MM’s wife wrote that to me, I’d feel less bad than if HE wrote it. Even if it meant being thrown under the bus. My ex-MM already threw me under the bus anyway by leaving and then never talking to me again, so what difference does it make? I know his wife knows about me from before as well. So if his wife wrote that, he’d be shocked at it (he wouldn’t know if she had, until she told him she’d sent it, IF she told him) and would not do or say anything to reassure me, because we’re NC now, but he wouldn’t be happy with his wife for doing it. And that means a small something…
Lillyfree Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 sorry you're on the receiving end of that ridiculous behaviour. use it as a positive - he's shown how low he can be, so it should be easier for you to get over him - do you really want someone capable of that in your life? good riddance.
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 sorry you're on the receiving end of that ridiculous behaviour. use it as a positive - he's shown how low he can be, so it should be easier for you to get over him - do you really want someone capable of that in your life? good riddance. SO TRUE! Would you ever want someone like THAT in your life?!
spice4life Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 SO TRUE! Would you ever want someone like THAT in your life?! I certainly wouldn't. No way would I let someone treat me that way now. Sarabi, you dodged a bullet!
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Yeah! If my ex-MM did that, as I said I'd have been shocked. Like...how DARE he say that to me!? NOBODY talks to me like that!
Author Sarabi Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 See, to me his texts read like this: Text 1: S, please come and kick me in the n*ts as hard as you can. Text 2: Oh, and be sure to wear steel-toed shoes. Don't give me ideas lol... I have "diamond" heel encrusted stilettos(they are sparkly and pretty). Those should do the trick 1
Lillyfree Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Don't give me ideas lol... I have "diamond" heel encrusted stilettos(they are sparkly and pretty). Those should do the trick nooooo! you might ruin them! don't waste pretty shoes on bad rubbish - invest in a pair of steel-capped doc martens 2
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Yeah, don't soil your beautiful shoes on him!! They'd be contaminated then! lol 1
Author Sarabi Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 What's wrong with this guy? He's obsessed with race, more so than anything else. What a string of stupidity he sent. I would guess you made him feel like nothing he did was right or good enough. I say that because he keeps mentioning how you treat men, that he offered blah blah blah and you were critical, etc. I think you somehow insulted 'his manhood' in his eyes. He sounds very immature and insecure. I mentioned in another thread that on Valentines day you two parted under less than desirable terms. Was that still your last interaction with him? Does that give you any insight into what sparked this tirade from him? I know you're hurt by his words, but please don't be. He's not worth it. Do you want him out of your life permanently, or are you hoping that he'll come around and things between the two of you will go back to how they were before. This all came without warning. Last week(well two weeks ago now) I saw him three times. The night before the outburst we had been texting a little talking of his friend who he wants to see happy and settled. All day monday I hear nothing until the evening and I get that. After valentines day we started texting again and met up... Everything was perfectly fine before that text. Oh no. The attention is nice but I don't need him to come around. I want him to be happy...he won't be if he constantly has two women to try to please. We need to nip it in the bud so he can be there for his family and leave me to move on to an available (and hopefully not liable to cheating) man
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I actually have doubts he can ever be happy at ALL because he seems to have a lot of anger directed at himself and he's not even aware of it because he's expressing it outwardly. Also you say "we" need to nip it in the bud. Nope. HE needs to nip it in the bud. Not you. You have nothing to do with any of that anymore. I also don't think THIS kind of attention is "nice" at all! It's ridiculous. It's like he has a form of Tourettes Syndrome right now!
Author Sarabi Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 I actually have doubts he can ever be happy at ALL because he seems to have a lot of anger directed at himself and he's not even aware of it because he's expressing it outwardly. I also don't think THIS kind of attention is "nice" at all! It's ridiculous. It's like he has a form of Tourettes Syndrome right now! Totally came from nowhere. Anger directed at himself...could be. I never went out of my way to say funny things to him about his intelligence or about race. I was never aware of anything I did that made him feel less of a man I think rather than working on resolving it, it will stay pent up until he explodes at someone else again. Shame
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 The anger is definitely directed at his own self. What have YOU done lately to cause that? Absolutely nothing. So it’s at himself. And the race thing, that’s obviously some deep seated hang up he’s got as well. Maybe he was drunk or something when he texted…
awkward Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Sarabi that is just awful. Try to let it roll of your shoulders and if you can't, then throw it off. He doesn't deserve one minute of your time or thoughts.
Author Sarabi Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 The anger is definitely directed at his own self. What have YOU done lately to cause that? Absolutely nothing. So it’s at himself. And the race thing, that’s obviously some deep seated hang up he’s got as well. Maybe he was drunk or something when he texted… I really don't get the race thing...well maybe I kinda do but at the same time I don't lol. Maybe he thinks I should be jealous of he and his wife(I am not and I can assure you that even if I had not been involved with him I wouldn't be). Aren't these things funny? If I were jealous, I would be jealous of what I think they have...without being a witness to all that happens between them I can only speculate. But being a somewhat far removed fly on the wall I doubt there is much to be jealous of lol 1
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Well, you certainly can’t be jealous of HER because she’s still with him, the wacko. And you can’t be jealous of HIM because he IS the wacko. And you definitely can’t be jealous of his incredibly articulate and impressive writing skills, eh? LOL
Catplates Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Sarabi, He has done you the greatest favour he could. He has shown you his true colours. How would you like to be his wife. Imagine what abuse he might be hurling at her? Let it be and feel free, Cat 1
Author Sarabi Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 Sarabi, He has done you the greatest favour he could. He has shown you his true colours. How would you like to be his wife. Imagine what abuse he might be hurling at her? Let it be and feel free, Cat Really hope and pray he doesn't do anything of the kind... I know we don't know what happens behind closed doors but I hope they are both safe and well.
Author Sarabi Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 I hate to use people in the media as an example, but remember last November when Rob Kardashian split with Rita Ora and he posted his nasty thoughts about her on his Twitter for millions to see? After the drama settled, months later, he admitted he said those nasty things about her so he or she would not be tempted to come back & restart the relationship as it was painful for him. He wanted it to be done and he knew if he said those nasty things, she would never want to come back. Another poster on here said that a few months back her mm wished a deathly illness on her, then she posted again months later saying he broke NC, and texted her out of nowhere wanting a ride. If I was her, I would've responded with, "sorry, I can't give you a ride I'm on my deathbed right now with my deathly illness you wished upon me, have a nice life." Your ex-mm is just angry & like another poster said, it could be his wife telling him what to say to you. Don't jump to any conclusions just yet & don't let it get to you. When someone says things like this, whether it's him or the wife, they are just trying to make you hurt as they are hurting right now. So if they want to be mean and nasty, that is on them. You obviously got under their skin meaning you have the upper hand. Now just sit back and let them handle their own hell. Cuz trust me, if they are typing things like that, they are in their own hell right now. Do you for now. The dust & anger will eventually settle & I'm sure he'll be fishing for your attention months down the road. Make sure you are doing things to boost your self esteem & making your life better so when this does happen, you can respond with, "SORRY I'M NOT INTERESTED, I'M STICKING TO MY OWN RACE, SOMETHING YOU TAUGHT ME HOW TO DO, REMEMBER?" :p:p:sick::bunny::p:p Hey thanks for your post! The only conclusion I jumped to is that he wrote it. Shame he is angry and I hope that no one else was on the receiving end of it. I really don't know why he let rip with that outburst but anyway...let him be. I was speaking to a friend and thinking one day I will look back and realise the things he said will be one of the biggest laughs of 2013; a cheating husband telling a single woman she will never be a good enough wife or girlfriend for anyone. lol
georgia girl Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Sarabi, I'm tempted to offer you my congratulations, because you've made the luckiest escape ever. Any man who could talk to you like that after you gave him comfort is not worth another second of your time. No one ever deserves to be talked to like that. Go live well. It's the best revenge. 1
Author Sarabi Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 Sarabi, I'm tempted to offer you my congratulations, because you've made the luckiest escape ever. Any man who could talk to you like that after you gave him comfort is not worth another second of your time. No one ever deserves to be talked to like that. Go live well. It's the best revenge. Awwww thank you! I'll admit, I'll need the comfort and support of you lovely Loveshackers from time to time...but beyond that, I absolutely intend to do my very best to live well 2
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