BUBS Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 It's been a little over 5 months since we broke up. I seem to be getting worse this month and I'm not sure if it has something to do with the fact that it was the month we got engaged. Last night I went out with some friends as the designated driver. I met a guy at the bar that was mutual friends with the people I was with and he asked me out on a date. Later that evening I drove him home, and he invited me in. I dozed off on his bed I guess and I woke up around 5am and he had his arm around me while he was sleeping, and out of nowhere I got insanely sick to my stomach. I rushed out of the house and started throwing up from the stress. I haven't woken up to someone holding me like that since my ex, and I NEVER would have expected a reaction like that. I didn't think that I was that bad off, I've gone on dates a few times, never really gotten physical but I did sleep with my other ex since the break up, but I left afterwards. I know that reacting that terribly to the point where I'm physically ill if I wake up with someone touching me that it cannot be normal... can it?! I think I may be worse off than I assumed. New low.
asdfasdf1234 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 It's been a little over 5 months since we broke up. I seem to be getting worse this month and I'm not sure if it has something to do with the fact that it was the month we got engaged. Last night I went out with some friends as the designated driver. I met a guy at the bar that was mutual friends with the people I was with and he asked me out on a date. Later that evening I drove him home, and he invited me in. I dozed off on his bed I guess and I woke up around 5am and he had his arm around me while he was sleeping, and out of nowhere I got insanely sick to my stomach. I rushed out of the house and started throwing up from the stress. I haven't woken up to someone holding me like that since my ex, and I NEVER would have expected a reaction like that. I didn't think that I was that bad off, I've gone on dates a few times, never really gotten physical but I did sleep with my other ex since the break up, but I left afterwards. I know that reacting that terribly to the point where I'm physically ill if I wake up with someone touching me that it cannot be normal... can it?! I think I may be worse off than I assumed. New low. If you had been drinking the night before then yes that is rather odd. However I think only you know whether or not you need therapy.
Damaged23 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I think you would know. If I were 5 months into the BU, and still felt how I feel now, 5 days into the BU, I would definitely search professional help, therapy. It is up you, though. Best of luck!
flitzanu Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 It's been a little over 5 months since we broke up. I seem to be getting worse this month and I'm not sure if it has something to do with the fact that it was the month we got engaged. Last night I went out with some friends as the designated driver. I met a guy at the bar that was mutual friends with the people I was with and he asked me out on a date. Later that evening I drove him home, and he invited me in. I dozed off on his bed I guess and I woke up around 5am and he had his arm around me while he was sleeping, and out of nowhere I got insanely sick to my stomach. I rushed out of the house and started throwing up from the stress. I haven't woken up to someone holding me like that since my ex, and I NEVER would have expected a reaction like that. I didn't think that I was that bad off, I've gone on dates a few times, never really gotten physical but I did sleep with my other ex since the break up, but I left afterwards. I know that reacting that terribly to the point where I'm physically ill if I wake up with someone touching me that it cannot be normal... can it?! I think I may be worse off than I assumed. New low. if i went home with someone i just met that night, fell asleep, and woke up with their arm around me, i'd probably throw up too, because it's a little creepy. 1
destroyed4sho Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Sounds pretty normal to me. You dont need therapy over this...its strange being in someone elses arms if you still have feelings for someone else. It feels like it is really over with the ex right? So you panicked and threw up. Normal.
Author BUBS Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 Yea it's just odd this far off. All I want to do is move on, and in my circumstances I feel like this a pending issue that needs to be taken care of. I don't know if it contributes to the lack of progress I've made. He has my dog and a lot of my things, I'm 2000 miles away staying with family so I can't have those things yet. We arranged during the break up that when I got on my feet financially I would come and get them... and its been scaring the **** out of me thinking about having to ever see him again now that I realize there is no chance of reconciliation and how badly it will hurt. Last night his friend tagged me in a photo of my dog and said "my new dog" on it, he thought it would be funny to mess with me because lately I've been afraid that if too much time passed I would have an issue getting him back. I feel like I can't properly move on knowing that he still has every piece of me and my life even the things I had before him.
Star Gazer Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 Everyone can benefit from therapy, even folks who think they're chugging along just fine. There's always room for intrapersonal improvement. 1
Recommended Posts