missjones4812 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 This weekend has been full of ups and downs, just as the last month since my sons father left wirh no warning and moved in with a 23 year old (he is 32) co worker of his and they started a relatioship. He had been cheating on me for 2 weeks. I have been crying all day. Can't seem to get off the couch and play with my son and just feel so full of despair. I think the catslyst was last night I was told through a mutual friend and without asking that he and his new gf went to Niagra Falls for the weekend. It hurts so much to know that he has already moved on and is going on these weekend trips, as I sit at home with our son grieving the loss of the life we had and could have had together. Not to mention that he made no contact with me informing me that he would not be seeing his son this weekend. That just makes this so much harder. That his son cones 2nd and 3rd to what he wants. He made that apparent when he walked out of our door and uprooted our life without any warning. He never told me he was unhappy. I am just so hurt and the pain is tearing me apart. He left me shattered and with the responsibility to be a single mother, a job that I would never give up but feel like I am not doing the best because of how I feel. I don't know what to do?? Please help me...
Compromize Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 This weekend has been full of ups and downs, just as the last month since my sons father left wirh no warning and moved in with a 23 year old (he is 32) co worker of his and they started a relatioship. He had been cheating on me for 2 weeks. I have been crying all day. Can't seem to get off the couch and play with my son and just feel so full of despair. I think the catslyst was last night I was told through a mutual friend and without asking that he and his new gf went to Niagra Falls for the weekend. It hurts so much to know that he has already moved on and is going on these weekend trips, as I sit at home with our son grieving the loss of the life we had and could have had together. Not to mention that he made no contact with me informing me that he would not be seeing his son this weekend. That just makes this so much harder. That his son cones 2nd and 3rd to what he wants. He made that apparent when he walked out of our door and uprooted our life without any warning. He never told me he was unhappy. I am just so hurt and the pain is tearing me apart. He left me shattered and with the responsibility to be a single mother, a job that I would never give up but feel like I am not doing the best because of how I feel. I don't know what to do?? Please help me... missjones, my heart goes out to you. What a complete AS**OLE! I am always astounded by the amount of complete and utter disregard shown by people that supposedly love each other. I know it's hard but just know that you will always have the unconditional love of your wonderful son. You need to be strong for him. If he never told you he was unhappy, he never really wanted to fix the situation. Be thankful for that. He at least didn't lead you on with any false hope. I was in a 14 year relationship, 7 year marriage and told her for years what we needed to work on. Turns out that we were just incompatible from the beginning and I knew that going in, just thought I was doing the right thing. I made a lot of mistakes in my marriage and in my last relationship but did try to work on them and through them. A man that is worth your time and love would do the same for you, this one was clearly not worth your time or love! I will tell you that being a single parent is a tough job. Believe me I know. It's way more important than being in a relationship and more rewarding. Your son comes first. Put him first. Be the strong, reliable one in his life. That is what I am for my kids. Relationships come and go but our kids are forever.
Foxy Brown Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I know you feel low right now, but sitting around and concentrating on how you feel isn't going to help. Take a look at that beautiful boy you have, who loves you unconditionally and needs you. Why not take him to the park or go play outside somewhere? This will provide you with some outside stimulation and distraction from your feelings. I wish I could give you some comforting words, but all I can say is keep yourself busy. Concentrating on your feelings is only going to make things worse. Spend some time with your son. I've always enjoyed how children can be amazed by the simplest things, those which we take for granted. Perhaps your son can help you to remember this. Your son's father probably isn't moping around and crying over you, so don't waste any more tears on him. Remember, it's not always going to be like this. Good luck and I hope you feel better.
Author missjones4812 Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 Things have gotten a little better since this post. I still hurt everyday, but am realizing that we are better off than with a man who places so little value on his family. I just wish he would realize what he has done and what he has given up. I don't really know what that will do for me, but I feel that it may help me in some way. He may never come to that realization though. Thank you for your input, advice and consideration. It helps knowing that people care and have gotten through tough times themselves!
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