creighton0123 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I don't get this and find it to be a major turn off. Has anyone had experience dating an extremely sarcastic individual? Every joke is the same. You can't tell whether the person is being genuine or sarcastic... Out of the last four dates I've had, two of them have been very, very sarcastic. I don't get it. Are some people turned on by that? 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I don't get this and find it to be a major turn off. Has anyone had experience dating an extremely sarcastic individual? Every joke is the same. You can't tell whether the person is being genuine or sarcastic... Out of the last four dates I've had, two of them have been very, very sarcastic. I don't get it. Are some people turned on by that? I LOVE sarcastic guys and I am sarcastic myself. The worst it when the other person doesn't get it and is butt hurt by a joke 3
tbf Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Sarcasm can be entertaining, reliant on delivery, content and context. 1
happykat Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I'm sarcastic too... used to try and tone it down, but I am who I am, so f*ck em if they can't take a joke..
carhill Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 If they have the talent to poke such sarcasm at themselves in a humorous way, especially with someone with whom they have not developed sufficient rapport to 'get' their sarcasm, then it's possible for me to grow that. My male friends and I are typical blue collar guys who love drinking beer and taking jabs at each other. The key is we're friends and pretty tight at that. There's an entrance fee to that club. While nice, breasts don't gain immediate admittance. It takes time and interaction and 'style' which is synergistic. Hence, 'dating', or getting to know, or becoming good friends, if platonic. I can appreciate your more 'literal' perspective. When in doubt, polite usually works well. Rarely go wrong with that. With sarcasm, it's a crap shoot sometimes. Literally
mortensorchid Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Can I have an example of it? Maybe me and others here need some clarification. But I can tell you about the most sarcastic person I have ever met, and he was just plain annoying and boarderline psychotic. He was a coworker who worked next to me for years. He would never say "good morning" when he walked in. Then, later in the day, you'd be sitting there doing something other than working and he would stand up out of nowhere and address you. He'd have this goofy grin on his face and say "Peanut butter and jelly today?" when I was sitting there eating a sandwich. If you responded with something equally as obnoxious he would get really angry with you and curse you out. The only way I could deal with him would be to say something to confuse him completely. Once he stood up while I was reading something and he said "Looking at the Avon catalogue today?" I said "No, actually these are the liner notes in this surf music box set that I just bought. There are some fascinating stories here about the origin of LesPaul guitars and how DIck Dale came up with that unique sound. Do you know the story? He would sit on the porch of his house and behind him he would play a vynal record of some big band drums, which was the up tempo, then the descending would be the wave outside on the beach..." He would look confused, as I don't think he had any idea what I was talking about nor why I would share this information. THen again I had no idea why it is he wanted to engage me or anyone else in conversation.
tbf Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 While nice, breasts don't gain immediate admittance. It's unfortunate that elderly men are ruled out of your exclusive club. 2
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Depends. Is it playful, self-deprecating, and directed at themselves or the environment? Or is it primarily focused on putting others down? The first two can be hilarious, fun and thoroughly enjoyable, especially in the appropriate context and if you play off each other. The third is a turn-off and, if significant, can even be a sign of insecurity.
MrCastle Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I'm very sarcastic but I'm playful with it. Yes I sometimes use it to tease girls but it is obviously playful when I do it. I don't use it to insult them. I also poke fun at myself from time to time. I need a girl who is equally sarcastic. That's the sass part in my "class, sass, and ass" requirement for women. 2
Author creighton0123 Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 I LOVE sarcastic guys and I am sarcastic myself. The worst it when the other person doesn't get it and is butt hurt by a joke This type of statement. I have encountered a few people who, in discussion, follow everything with a sarcastic remark about other people to the point where they are of the opinion that you are "too serious" if you don't find them funny. I was on this date and we ended up at a bar and club after dinner. We were sitting at a table in the corner and he quite literally made negative, sarcastic comments about otherwise normal people who were walking by us. He might have been trying to come off as funny, but ended up coming off as negative, cynical, and mean. In my mind, the occasional use of sarcasm can be funny... but I'm left feeling that sarcasm in excess is not funny or witty. I suppose it is rough. I do not appreciate sarcasm, but so many people in today's society use it as a primary form of humor when there is a better option: positive fun.
happykat Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 We were sitting at a table in the corner and he quite literally made negative, sarcastic comments about otherwise normal people who were walking by us. I think that's different and totally obnoxious .. not all sarcasm as to be about insults and put downs.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 This type of statement. I have encountered a few people who, in discussion, follow everything with a sarcastic remark about other people to the point where they are of the opinion that you are "too serious" if you don't find them funny. I was on this date and we ended up at a bar and club after dinner. We were sitting at a table in the corner and he quite literally made negative, sarcastic comments about otherwise normal people who were walking by us. He might have been trying to come off as funny, but ended up coming off as negative, cynical, and mean. In my mind, the occasional use of sarcasm can be funny... but I'm left feeling that sarcasm in excess is not funny or witty. I suppose it is rough. I do not appreciate sarcasm, but so many people in today's society use it as a primary form of humor when there is a better option: positive fun. I am negative and cynical too but wouldn't say mean. It can be funny to the right people. I think it's one of the important traits for couples to share: similar sense of humor. 1
ThaWholigan Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I don't always get sarcasm so it would be funny sometimes and annoying the other half of the time, then me pretending that I got the joke initially .....
SpiralOut Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Sarcasm is okay if he knows how to use it well. I can be sarcastic myself at times. Normally I am not put off by it, but the last date went too far. Most of his sarcasm was directed at me. I don't think he poked fun at himself at all.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 That's how I know Castle and me would get along 1
MrCastle Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 That's how I know Castle and me would get along In more ways than one. :bunny: 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 In more ways than one. :bunny: I think I know where this is going smooooch 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 OP, these four guys didn't work for you. That's really all that matters. Don't second-guess yourself. Just keep looking until you find someone who "does" it for you.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 My ex husband. After we got married the cuteness of it wore off REAL fast. It was no longer being sarcastic... it was being an *******. 1
Hopeful30 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I don't know about being turned on, but I know several people who are extremely sarcastic and it's usually to hide their insecurity or anxiety in being in social settings. Very sarcastic people are usually very insecure people. 1
MrCastle Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Very sarcastic people are usually very insecure people. You don't say.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I don't know about being turned on, but I know several people who are extremely sarcastic and it's usually to hide their insecurity or anxiety in being in social settings. Very sarcastic people are usually very insecure people. They say that sarcasm is the most intelligent type of humor. 2
tbf Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I don't know about being turned on, but I know several people who are extremely sarcastic and it's usually to hide their insecurity or anxiety in being in social settings. Very sarcastic people are usually very insecure people.Using humour to defray stressful or tense situations? How shockingly insecure! 1
tuxedo cat Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I'm not a huge fan of sarcasm. It can be OK in moderation but I prefer other kinds of humor and I think of it as a low form of humor, like bad puns. Often very sarcastic people are deeply bitter and mean in my experience. 1
Star Gazer Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 This type of statement. I have encountered a few people who, in discussion, follow everything with a sarcastic remark about other people to the point where they are of the opinion that you are "too serious" if you don't find them funny. I was on this date and we ended up at a bar and club after dinner. We were sitting at a table in the corner and he quite literally made negative, sarcastic comments about otherwise normal people who were walking by us. He might have been trying to come off as funny, but ended up coming off as negative, cynical, and mean. In my mind, the occasional use of sarcasm can be funny... but I'm left feeling that sarcasm in excess is not funny or witty. I suppose it is rough. I do not appreciate sarcasm, but so many people in today's society use it as a primary form of humor when there is a better option: positive fun. Eh, that doesn't sound like sarcasm so much as just straight up mean-spirited "humor."
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