keyanasmommy Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Me and my boyfriend have been dating a month at first things was great but one night he got told that his ex cheated on him he was devastated about it he said they broke up in December. After that night he found out things have gotten not so good. Before we started dating he told me that he would commit to me and wouldn't cheat. But since he found out about his ex he's a completely different person we've had a few issues one was I had my friend message him on fb and give him her number well he texted her and I told her to ask if he was single and he said yes that he was. He told me today that since everything has gone down hill since the night he found out his ex cheated on him that we should end things. I asked him why he has changed and he said because he lost focused on everything. He told me that he scared to get as close to me as he is to my daughter because he's scared that I'll cheat on him and hurt him. I also think that he can be faithful he's just scared that I'll cheat on him and hurt him so maybe he talks and hangout out with other girls in case I ever do cheat on him he'll have another girl there so it won't hurt as bad. I know this sounds crazy and everyone is probably thinking wtf are you with this guy. But it seems like me and him have more things in common then we think. Every guy I've dated has cheated on me and i'm terrified to get cheated on. I could be wrong about all this. But I'm sure I'm a 100% positive I'm right. Before he found out about his ex he would cuddle with me, we would go places, we would do fun things. When he left he would text me, he would send me good morning texts and good night texts. But after he found out about his ex he isn't like that anymore. Could I be right? Is this even fixable, instead of breaking up should we consider counseling?
Krieger Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 (edited) should we consider counseling? only if it is stopping you from feeling and giving love then I would it might be nice to make sure every thing OK. I would take things slow and do not rush into any thing right away. It can work but if your do all the work to make it work it is time to move on. Edited March 17, 2013 by Krieger
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