KatZee Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I'm honestly confused as to why you're still even in this relationship. And don't give me that copout answer of "because I love her." Where are your balls? She's lied. There are TREMENDOUS trust issues here, no communication, an inability for either of you to solve problems... fights just lead to splits... It's already proven that on/off relationships do NOT go the distance, nor do they work out in the long run. All this shows is dysfunction. She's going on a vacation and instead of wishing her a great time, you're on here with severe anxiety, paranoia, thoughts of her cheating... I mean what exactly is so great about the relationship with this person? There is no foundation here. There is no base for a feeling of security. Why drag on such a toxic, dysfunctional, and unhealthy relationship? A mere year and a half together and it's so rocky and fragile and stormy??? You're going through way too much drama for only a year and a half. First year+ is the honeymoon. Why are you dragging out the inevitable?
Author airwave2010 Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 I'm honestly confused as to why you're still even in this relationship. And don't give me that copout answer of "because I love her." Where are your balls? She's lied. There are TREMENDOUS trust issues here, no communication, an inability for either of you to solve problems... fights just lead to splits... It's already proven that on/off relationships do NOT go the distance, nor do they work out in the long run. All this shows is dysfunction. She's going on a vacation and instead of wishing her a great time, you're on here with severe anxiety, paranoia, thoughts of her cheating... I mean what exactly is so great about the relationship with this person? There is no foundation here. There is no base for a feeling of security. Why drag on such a toxic, dysfunctional, and unhealthy relationship? A mere year and a half together and it's so rocky and fragile and stormy??? You're going through way too much drama for only a year and a half. First year+ is the honeymoon. Why are you dragging out the inevitable? i hear what you are saying & i have to agree to some point, that the relationship has been dysfunctional.... partly my fault & partly her fault. but recently it has been mostly her fault.... we decided to get back together this time & really try to get past our problems & try to build a positive foundation & leave our past issues behind us. wether this works out or not, i really don't know!!! what am i supposed to do now... just give up on her, while she is on holiday & end it with her..... i can't do that... and yes i do love her.... i just need to get through this week, without panicking too much, and in the hope, that she will not cheat on me i guess i will have to put my trust in her!
Author airwave2010 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 (edited) guys i have seriously taken your advice... i have took a step back, i have not been constantly texting her or ringing her... she has been texting me mostly & even ringing me.... but i do have to say...... her behaviour seems so very strange right now!!! i mean seriously, she is acting sooooo nice towards me for some reason, and she is never usually like that nice.... she keeps wanting re assurances from me, about wanting to meet my family when she gets back, and all the fun things we will do, when she gets back... and how she wants to be with me forever & ever & i am her man!!!!! and i am such an amazing guy blah blah it just feels so put on to me... it's like she is making sure, she has a relationship to comeback to.... even if she cops off with another man over here she is checking that i am still waiting for her & her future is safe with me. i don't know.... my gut tells me, something is wrong... her behaviour is odd Edited March 19, 2013 by airwave2010
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