Angel Lady Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 There's this bartender, let's call him Bob and Bob is 23. Let's refer to myself as M and I am 19. I've liked Bob for quite a while, truth be told I got him hired and so he owes me big time haha (: My mother recently bought the restaurant that me and Bob work at. Bob is a great employee and embodies what my mother calls "the ideal employee" and he got promoted to being the manager and we share this role. He does certain jobs like dealing with customers and the staff and I deal with the technical aspects of the job. I've just come to realize that in the 8 months that we've worked with each other, my feelings for him haven't changed. It's quite scary dreaming about him which happens frequently. Our "partnership" has been growing or I guess has been more prominent lately. My question is this: Do you happen to think that he might have some feelings for me? What's going through his mind? Here's just a few gestures that Ive noticed that goes on in a daily basis at work. We always eat dinner together He always eats my food, and since I give up fighting about it, we share dinners now Whenever Im sad he cheers me up and when Im happy he always teases/bug me Usually when we're working the restaurant together and our eyes meet, we always smile charmingly at each other across the room A few times he'd give me a hug from behind and wrap his arms around me He always buys me coffee just the way I like it And sometimes when customers aren't looking and Im sitting at the bar eating, I'd feed him some of my food... He even bought me a little cheesecake for my birthday, something I didn't expect There are moments where our eyes lock and we both wont look away from each other. It's as if there's something in his eyes trying to tell me something but he always turns away... Yet at the same time he comes off as one of those flirtatious type of guys and he takes things very light heartedly. I just wanna know how to interpret his actions
Eggplant Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I'm not a guy, so I don't know what men think lol. But here is my opinion. Your crush has all the green flags from you, and yet he hasn't asked you out. If he felt how you did, he would find a way. Be friendly and flirt with him, but meet some other people. Don't tie up your love life for a man who's not interested enough to ask you out.
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Don't laugh- this is a serious question: Is there a chance he may actually be gay? This is almost precisely how one of my ex-employees used to behave towards me when I ran an Italian Delicatessen. Almost precisely. Except the food bit. But other than that - it's very, very similar. And it turned out he was very, very gay. He didn't display any of the traits or characteristics of a gay man. He was more Rock Hudson than Liberace, if you get my drift....
Krieger Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 why not ask him out then you know for sure ? or maybe he does not dip his pen in company ink ?
Author Angel Lady Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 Eggplant I think that's the situation right now, just some restaurant flirting and what not. I'll be sure to keep my eyes out for other guys but pay attention to him from time to time! TaraMaiden It's very hard not to laugh but I did smile at the thought. He is very much straight. His ex girlfriend is gorgeous but she embodies the whole bad girl look that's very different from me. Blond hair, large breast, tattoo, body piercing, athletic/toned body, sarcastic, and is very outgoing. Somewhat opposite of me. I have black hair, above average breast size, no tattoos, no piercing, hourglass/pear shape body, emotional, and very home bound. Krieger I would ask him but since we collaborate and work with each other all the time, I don't want my curiosity to ruin our professional relationship since we both share the managerial job. I really appreciate all of the insight everyone posted!
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