MaddieKay Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I had an affair a few years ago, and I remember feeling the ups and downs of guilt and shame, along with lust and excitement. I justified my actions because I was truly in love. Somehow affairs can dumb us down and throw away any integrity we had at one time. The definition of integrity (IMO) is doing the right thing when no one is looking. I believe that when we lose our integrit, it chips away at our happiness and contentment. Our character is altered. You can justify something all you want, but if what you are doing isn't something you can hold your high in front of your loved ones, your friends, your children, how can you possibly be happy with yourself? We tend to romance the heck out of situations. "How can anything that feels this good be wrong?" I'm sure the crackhead says the the same about crack. For those of you currently in affairs, don't you deserve more? Don't you deserve a real relationship or a real life without deceit. In an affair, Either you are deceiving someone or you are helping to deceive someone. It's a lose, lose situation. Being in love is not an excuse to act like a fool. I say this with compassion because I've lived it and I've paid a high price. Nothing feels better than to wake up in the morning knowing you are who everyone thinks you are, and knowing you have nothing to hide. 6
New_to_this Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Well said! I think I was naively (is that a word?) on the verge of getting involved in one (see my post, Suggestions...) and I am thankful that I got on here when I did. I think I was one that was in the process of "dumbing myself down" a bit. 1
GreyhoundtoNowhere Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 thank you for the reminder. if only you (and your words) could follow me around. sigh.
Act Two Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Great post! I've never done drugs, but having an affair made me feel like a drug addict. Feels so good, but the damage!!
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