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DISCLAIMER: I know there are no hard and fast rules, but typically a guy waits at least 3 days before calling 1. to keep the girl wondering/interested and 2. So we don't look desperate. On the other hand, some girls say calling the next day is not desperate, others think waiting 3+ days is too long. So, this "survey" is aimed to narrow down a better span of how long a guy should wait before calling.

 

So its time to put this "How long should I wait to call before..." bulls*** to rest...

 

Ok girls, to keep things simple, select one of the answers for the questions I post:

 

1. How long should a guy wait before he calls after first getting your number?

A. 1 Day

B. 2-3 Days

C. 4-5 Days

D. 5+ Days

 

2. He hasn't called by day X, and you are losing interest (but would still be willing to go out with him if he called). When Does this happen...

A. Day 1

B. Day 2

C. Day 3

D. Day 4

E. Day 5

F. 6+ Days

 

3. He hasn't called by day X and now even if he does call you will not go out with him.

A. Day 1

B. Day 2

C. Day 3

D. Day 4

E. Day 5

F. 6+ Days

 

4. I think it looks desperate if he calls on:

A. Day 1

B. Day 2

C. Day 3

D. Day 4

E. Day 5

F. 6+ Days

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1-A (life is short why wait 2-3 days?)

 

2-D (sometimes people get busy and can't call for real so it's ok if they haven't called in like 4-5 days. They are probably waiting for Friday so when they call they can just ask the person to hang out)

 

3-F (if he hasn't called in 6+ days something is wrong. I would think he wasn't interested and move on)

 

4-Like 1 minute after I give him my number...

 

I don't think a guy looks desperate when he calls a girl. She obviously gave you her number so that you would call her. So why would you look desperate?

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1. How long should a guy wait before he calls after first getting your number?

 

A. 1 Day

or

B. 2-3 Days <--- leaning closer to this one

 

 

2. He hasn't called by day X, and you are losing interest (but would still be willing to go out with him if he called). When Does this happen...

 

D. Day 4

 

 

3. He hasn't called by day X and now even if he does call you will not go out with him.

 

E. Day 5

 

 

4. I think it looks desperate if he calls on:

 

A. Day 1

 

^ ^ ^ there weren't many options there. As long as he doesn't call me immediately after giving him my number (had that happen).

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1. How long should a guy wait before he calls after first getting your number?

 

B. 2-3 Days

 

Otherwise, I will assume he is not interested and promptly forget about him.

 

2. He hasn't called by day X, and you are losing interest (but would still be willing to go out with him if he called). When Does this happen...

 

C. Day 3

 

I have a short attention span. LOL. Also, I sort of use this to gauge how interested he is in me. If he calls after 1 day, I know he's into me. If he waits awhile, I tend to wonder what else is on his priority list.

 

3. He hasn't called by day X and now even if he does call you will not go out with him.

 

E. Day 5

 

Screw that! LOL. I'd likely have another man by that point! I went through guys like toilet paper before I met W.

 

4. I think it looks desperate if he calls on:

 

F. 6+ Days

 

Yeah, if he calls at this point, I look at it as he's looking to use me for back up, and he's pushing to see if I'll put up with his stupid boy booty-call crap, which I won't. It would make me feel like I was last on the list, and I'll not tolerate that.

 

eh um... I was a princess in a past life, I think.

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1. A- I hate all the BS that it will make a guy look desperate if he calls the next day. The way you talk to the girl will show her if you are desperate or not.

 

2. D - Maybe he was busy.

 

3. F - Obviously he was not that interested!

 

4. No applicable answer; only by talking to him will I know if he's desperate. Unless of course he calls me within a few minutes from getting my number, I admit I will be scared :eek:

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1. How long should a guy wait before he calls after first getting your number?

A. 1 Day

or i would have probably already forgot about him and not care

 

2. He hasn't called by day X, and you are losing interest (but would still be willing to go out with him if he called). When Does this happen...

B. Day 2

I don't like waiting.. and if he didn't call me the first day he wasn't interested.. by day two we could be friends..

 

3. He hasn't called by day X and now even if he does call you will not go out with him.

D. Day 4

I probably wouldn't pick up the phone because i already forgot about him

 

4. I think it looks desperate if he calls on:

the next day is fine.. but if i met him at night and he calls at 8am .. he's deperate.. if he waits around 24 hours perfect

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I don't think there should be any rules. If a guy called me a day after I gave him my phone number I would be flattered. If he waited too long I would probably feel bad.

Posted
Originally posted by honey2005

I don't think there should be any rules. If a guy called me a day after I gave him my phone number I would be flattered. If he waited too long I would probably feel bad.

 

I like that giblit. Nice eptl (work).

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Ok girls, to keep things simple, select one of the answers for the questions I post:

 

1. How long should a guy wait before he calls after first getting your number?

A. 1 Day … you wanted my number, that tells me you are interested in getting in touch with me!

B. 2-3 Days

C. 4-5 Days

D. 5+ Days

 

2. He hasn't called by day X, and you are losing interest (but would still be willing to go out with him if he called). When Does this happen...

A. Day 1

B. Day 2

C. Day 3

D. Day 4 … I'll give him a couple of days' grace period, in the event that he honestly couldn't get hold of me right away, that something came up or that he misplaced my number. But by Day 4, I'll already have convinced myself that he's just not interested

E. Day 5

F. 6+ Days

 

3. He hasn't called by day X and now even if he does call you will not go out with him.

A. Day 1

B. Day 2

C. Day 3

D. Day 4

E. Day 5

F. 6+ Days … he's got the benefit of the doubt if he's calling on Day 4 or even Day 5, but if he's waited a week, I *know* he's not interested. Unless there's a good reason, like having to leave town on an emergency or having amnesia!!!

 

4. I think it looks desperate if he calls on:

A. Day 1

B. Day 2

C. Day 3

D. Day 4

E. Day 5

F. 6+ Days … not really desperate, but I've definitely interpreted his non-attempts to call as "not interested"

 

Good rule of thumb: if you're going to ask for her number, call or contact her within a decent reason of time (from 1-4 days). Calling the next day isn't desperate -- I will assume that if you wanted my number, you'll want to call me. Desperate is calling and calling and calling and calling after the first attempt fails; because ours is such a communications driven era, one voice mail or text message will do!

Posted
Originally posted by honey2005

I don't think there should be any rules. If a guy called me a day after I gave him my phone number I would be flattered. If he waited too long I would probably feel bad.

 

 

Ditto

Posted
Originally posted by gd1039

1. How long should a guy wait before he calls after first getting your number?

A. 1 Day

:rolleyes: I don't know why they wait any longer.....it always makes em look as if they're trying some system.

 

2. He hasn't called by day X, and you are losing interest (but would still be willing to go out with him if he called). When Does this happen...

F. 6+ Days

Never know what happened to him, he could've been in an accident etc. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

3. He hasn't called by day X and now even if he does call you will not go out with him.

F. 6+ Days

See above.

 

4. I think it looks desperate if he calls on:

C. Day 3

... Again, if no accident and he's still intact, this one and B look like he's playing by the "rules."

Posted
Originally posted by tikibrandy

1^ ^ ^ there weren't many options there. As long as he doesn't call me immediately after giving him my number (had that happen).

 

 

 

Me too- but when he did it - I thought it was cute. I gave him my cel # at a bar and he called me in the parking lot to say he didn't want to stop talking to me- could I meet him at Denny's. Now if he had called to say he just wanted to make sure I gave him a real #- or he wasn't done seeing me - could I meet him in his bed- yeah- we'd have a prob :laugh:

 

 

Other than that- I think you look desperate if you wait til the last min to call and make plans- like you couldn't find someone else (that's not just desperate- it's rude!)

 

After 4 days- I'd think he lost interest unless he had an excuse (If you call me after a week and say your Mom had surgery - I'm gonna be OK w/it...unless I meet your Mom and she says you are a lying sack of ......)

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Yeah!

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:o

 

 

I just think games are silly...

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