VolsGuy Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I have another thread entitled read... Didn't get much feedback. Find myself reading this allot, seems to help. Long end of it. I have always been the playboy type, last gf was younger still in college a good ways away from me. I ended it over nothing big and regret it now. Hate all you want on me, but at least I've come to terms. I quit drinking and sobriety has made me realize Ives love the love of my life. We been broke up 2 1/2 myths now she begged me back said she would wait for me. 1 mth later she has a serious bf. my question is this... I tried to get her back with no success and I finally wrote a closure letter with little response other than thank u. I know she's happy with the new guy and me being far away I'm sure helps, but does she at least still care or maybe think of me. My closure letter explained my regret and how I would give her the world given the opportunity. I'm very successful in Buisness and that's allowed me take her places she nvr got to go, not that that matters. But after my closure letter I know the man in me will nvr allow myself to contact her again. The pain is to much. I know if she saw me in person she would maybe think differently but that's not an option. The only thing I question is if she really is over me or just hurt by my actions and not trusting that I'm sincere. Ladies can you really not love someone you loved tremendously 2 mths prior just because I got scared and a new guy just happen to be there. He probably was already around trying convince her get over me when all this happened. I don't want pity... I am letting her go and have no qualms that she will ever want me back. But does she care at all? Question her decision? Wonder what I'm doing? I'm moving away in 3 days to get my head clear and she'll have no way to ever contact me again. I'm just wanting to leave knowing that I'm leaving to help her be happy. Thanks all
singme2sleep Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Well the new guy is obviously a rebound and she would prob rather be with someone new than deal with the pain of your breakup. This is not healthy because when the rebound falls apart, she will have to acknowledge her hurt that resulted from your relationship ending. You said you emailed her, did she respond at all?
Author VolsGuy Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 It said thank you. She hurts knowing I hurt and that I had taught her allot of life lessons. In previous contact she said that all I was saying was all she ever wanted to hear while we were together but so much had changed since. I know this guy is filling the void she has, but I also believe with me pouring my heart out even as much as she loved me shes done. Just wanna know she still cares and thinks about me occasionally.
Damaged23 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Why do you want to know she still thinks about you!? I mean, i get it, it gives you, us, some sort of satisfaction, but what good is it doing? You guys aren't a couple and she's still dating someone else. Friend, count your loses, and let this girl go. It hurts, it hurts like hell, but whats there left to do? Nothing, but move on. Some day you'll find the right person. Have faith 1
lovelifexx Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I would never say it's "obviously" a rebound. I have gotten in relationships soon after a break up and don't feel like it was a "rebound". Yes, it is possible at her age that she could have moved on so quickly. I could at that age, but not now. If you really hurt her by breaking up with her and then she meets a really great guy who treats her well, well it would be easy for me to let go of that person that hurt me so bad and move on and be with someone new. But I really emphasize that I could do that when I was younger. Now, it really takes me a long time to develop feelings for someone and to get close to them. It also takes me a really really long time to get over heartbreak. That is because I have had my heartbroken really bad in the past and I am a lot more guarded now.
destroyed4sho Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 It depends on the guy she met. If he is 'rocking her world' she is probably not.even thinking of you much. I remember long ago when an ex dumped.me i met someone the week after. I totally forgot about my ex and the grieving I was doing for the week prior. I never gave her a second thought, in fact when she called back and i ended up seeing her I wanted.to.run away as quickly as possible. If it is a rebound she is thinking of you plenty. I am sure when /if this guy disappoints she will be calling you.
lonewalker Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Hate to say thism. But serve u right for dumping her over nothing serious. ******* like u never learn to know how much itbhurts when someone else gave u their whole heart.
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