Author promises Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 Good for you for not showing emotion or care in this highly awkward and unpleasant situation. Good for you for still having your dinner there and not leaving. Good for you for not changing or adjusting your life for that relationship anymore. Are you slightly relieved you're not entangled in their relationship / with him anymore? Any issues they had after they went home that night are nothing to do with you and you don't have to worry about what's going on anymore! I am relieved. And my stance and gumption at that moment compared to his told a thousand words. I now know (via mutual friends) that they indeed stayed and had dinner there as well that night. I'm not surprised. I also want out completely and you are right- their issues are their issues.
awkward Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I also want out completely and you are right- their issues are their issues. You are well on your way to healing. Be proud of yourself today. 1
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I am relieved. And my stance and gumption at that moment compared to his told a thousand words. I now know (via mutual friends) that they indeed stayed and had dinner there as well that night. I'm not surprised. I also want out completely and you are right- their issues are their issues. He’s weak. He may ALWAYS be weak and need someone (and for the moment, it’s kind of still you) to make him “ok”. But he may never really be ok. And yes, their issues are their issues. And they have a LOT of issues because HE has a lot of issues and I have no idea about her but she probably has a lot of issues too. You don’t need or want that kind of stress. In a way, it feels as if they’re 2 kids in a playground, squabbling and being immature and you are the adult who just walks away, disinterested and above their immaturity. 2
Author promises Posted March 18, 2013 Author Posted March 18, 2013 He’s weak. He may ALWAYS be weak and need someone (and for the moment, it’s kind of still you) to make him “ok”. But he may never really be ok. And yes, their issues are their issues. And they have a LOT of issues because HE has a lot of issues and I have no idea about her but she probably has a lot of issues too. You don’t need or want that kind of stress. In a way, it feels as if they’re 2 kids in a playground, squabbling and being immature and you are the adult who just walks away, disinterested and above their immaturity. Thank you, Stevie.
stevie_23 Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 I am happy for you that at least you’re moving towards the point where you will be happier without him than with him. Mentally you’ve already been there for a while, and emotionally you’re feeling it more and more I think. The couple of emotional hiccups you’ve experienced aren’t regressions or set backs, they just show even more that you’re moving forward. I am proud of you. I don’t know how I’d have reacted in the same situation.
stevie_23 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Heheh yes, I can see why this would provide some satisfaction for Promises, but really, it'd just be detrimental and it'd be dragging her backwards I think. She doesn't need to do something like that. She is above it. She is above him and above their relationship issues. 2
Washingmachine1980 Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Our kids are in the same activity together. Didn't know that until he said his kid was in this now. Mine had already been in for a year and I already paid all the fees for the year. Never said a word about it. The A ended a few days later. A year passes and his wife and I end up in the same room together for two days. Our families even sat beside each other the first day. I thought it was some sort of joke but, neither of our spouses knew so it was just a consequence they sitting beside one another. He wasn't there until the next night and didn't see me until we were leaving. He just stared a me and then started looking at my boobs. I gave him a f@@@ off look. His wife never noticed. She was too busy drinking and dancing. Three weeks later he texts me saying he is sorry and blah, blah. Got my opportunity to tell him what a POS he is. After our A I found out what a sick, nasty person he is. Thought he removed his kid from the activity but found out today they are enrolled this year. One of these days our kids may end on the same team or go at the same time. Sure hope not but, I have so much on him that he will definitely keep his mouth shut and not make any scene or spread rumors.
georgia girl Posted March 19, 2013 Posted March 19, 2013 Promises, You are a strong woman. Remember that. You survived this with grace and dignity - not just for yourself, but for them as well. Keep your head high and realize that you just proved to the entire world what a survivor you are... and a classy one at that! Keep moving on to the next chapter of your life where love and happiness will definitely find you. My best wishes. 2
Author promises Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 Promises, You are a strong woman. Remember that. You survived this with grace and dignity - not just for yourself, but for them as well. Keep your head high and realize that you just proved to the entire world what a survivor you are... and a classy one at that! Keep moving on to the next chapter of your life where love and happiness will definitely find you. My best wishes. so very sweet, georgia girl. thank you, dear.
White Flower Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Promises, nice way to handle your situation. I'm curious, too, as to whether you'd ever gone to this restaurant with xMM before. I've steered clear of xMM's city let alone any favorite places of ours. I don't know what I'd do if I ran into them unexpectedly but I'd hope to have enough composure to handle it the way you did.
Author promises Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 Promises, nice way to handle your situation. I'm curious, too, as to whether you'd ever gone to this restaurant with xMM before. I've steered clear of xMM's city let alone any favorite places of ours. I don't know what I'd do if I ran into them unexpectedly but I'd hope to have enough composure to handle it the way you did. No, in fact I'd never been to that restaurant. And, never with him.
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