ataloss8270 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 OK so here is a short background, I've been somewhat seeing this woman for about 3 weeks or so. I am about 6 months out of a 5 year marriage with 2 kids. No ones filed yet but its going to happen, because even if she wanted to come back I'm not going to do it again. and she's about 6 weeks out of a 1 year relationship and has no kids. OK so today we were texting back and forth, and everything was fine. I asked her if we were still on for tomarrow and she said "I don't know yet". I joking said "OK, just let me know, its OK to say no I'm a big boy I can handle it lol". And she sent back " I just feel like it's going fast, I just got out of a relationship and your not even divorced yet, yes she's (my STBX) already with someone but you're better man than that and I'm not ready for a relationship". I told her I understand all of that, and reassured her there's no chance in hell I will ever get back with my ex, that I understand she needs time for her heart to heal and is enjoying her freedom of being single and that I'm willing to take things slow and spend time with her to really get to know one another and see where things may go. And she said" I don't know I need time". I told her "I can understand that" and that was the end of the conversation. Her sister tell me that she really likes me and talks about me all the time. And she tells me about how her sister tells her how great of a guy I am and thinks we should be together. So here are my questions, - Does she really need time to think or did I just get dumped? - If she does just need time should I go NC till she contacts me, or should I wait a few days and say hi. Because she said she need time not space. I don't know I'm confused right now. Like my name says I'm at a loss. Seems to be where I'm always at with the opposite sex lol.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Sounds to me like you just got dumped. Either she isnt over her exhusband, or she doesnt dig you after 3 weeks. So I'd consider it dumped, and goNC. Shes way too wishy washy to be bothered with.
Author ataloss8270 Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 Sounds to me like you just got dumped. Either she isnt over her exhusband, or she doesnt dig you after 3 weeks. So I'd consider it dumped, and goNC. Shes way too wishy washy to be bothered with. Yeah that's what I was thinking. I guess I was hoping someone would say she is actually just thinking. I do really like her and I thought she liked me but oh well. Like the Sinatra song "that's life" lol. Time to keep enjoying the little things in life and see what comes my way
apple OR orange Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 "i need time", "yeah i will think about it".... all means "no"... sure you can work out the rest.
Star Gazer Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 If you were in an articulated, exclusive relationship, then yes, you got dumped. If you had not had an actual official/exclusive talk, then no, you haven't been dumped. She's clearly trying to pump the brakes though. She's telling you explicitly that she's not ready for a relationship. But given that she's just out of a relationship, I don't think it would be wise to wait around, as you're just setting yourself up to be her long-term rebound.
Apolodor Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I fully agree with has already beeen said. Several years ago I was in a similar situation, I dated a young woman who was just out of a relationship. Everything was fine for a few weeks until sudddenly she said that things were going too fast, that she was unsure, etc. I kept waiting like a fool, but I never heard from her again. Move on as soon as you can, it's not worth waiting around for her to make up her mind. You've got to live your own life......
SJC2008 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I'm not ready for a relationship + going on dates= I need attention and sex (if yall are active).
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