biggysmilez Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 i was doing so great for a few days. and now, on day 17 of NC, i'm crying all day and not eating or sleeping like it is day 1 all over again. i have this inability to be alone, overwhelming grief, and anxiety. and i'm checking my email non-stop again like the first week to see if he's contacted me. is this normal? i felt so much better a few days ago. what happened?
JTG Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Hello there! Sorry to hear you're upset. There will be peaks and valleys with NC, but you need to stick with it. Try to go for a walk or do cardio or something. This will get your blood pumping and also releases feel good brain chemicals (neurotransmitters and endorphin). Try to stay busy as you can, get out of the house and go for a walk or jog, get away from any places that you all frequented, and if you have a thought that is bad, acknowledge it and get your mind on something in the surroundings. Exercise is great for you and also when you get your heart beat up, it makes you feel good too if you find your self trying to look at your email, do something else immediately.
Betterman31 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Just let your emotions flow. Im currently on day 20 NC and i feel exaclty the same way. When my days are full and I excercise either football or gym i feel good and im fine but on days where I have spare time I feel miserable and like theres a hole in my life. Like you i tend to have a few good days then a bad few hours where ill feel soooo down, usually i just put on a song which reminds me of her or my situation and just open the flood gates. Once the song is over i feel a million times better and i just carry on and the periods between these bad times are getting longer U need to feel your pain or else you won't process the hurt your going through. Its all part of the grieving process and sadly it isnt a linear progression!
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