quietGuy13 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 First i want to say. I have no real experience dating with females. And as for female friends, i have not really had any except short temporary ones and online friends. But i've tried making friends with women in public places by just saying hi and conversing little and then asking for their phone number. Thing is They give it to me. Phone or Email. But thing is, they don't ever contact me after that. And yet they say they will. This has happened various times including recently. Even online in email women lie. Saying things like they're interested in being friends but then never ever contact you. Seems it's really the truth that Women just want the ideal perfect guy, WHICH I"M NOT. ANd that is why i keep being ignored and lied to. I'm a man in my 30s Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 They are trying to spare your feelings as opposed to coming out and saying flat out they don't like you. As a man (hell; as a person) you have to realize that you judge people by actions not words. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CryForNoOne Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 They are not really lying. They are white lies to spare your feelings or to avoid an uncomfortable situation. I wouldn't consider women who do that "liars" or "dishonest" which is what your attitude is implying. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 First of all, I'm amazed that you approach unknown women in public places, try to chat with them and ask them for their phone number, and then expect the women to call you? And you complain about it? That is beyond bizarre. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Wesker Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 "Everybody lies" -House Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 "Everybody lies" -House Ooh now when House says that, it's sexy. But when others say that.... My H has been likened to House 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted March 17, 2013 Share Posted March 17, 2013 First i want to say. I have no real experience dating with females. And as for female friends, i have not really had any except short temporary ones and online friends. But i've tried making friends with women in public places by just saying hi and conversing little and then asking for their phone number. Thing is They give it to me. Phone or Email. But thing is, they don't ever contact me after that. And yet they say they will. This has happened various times including recently. Even online in email women lie. Saying things like they're interested in being friends but then never ever contact you. Seems it's really the truth that Women just want the ideal perfect guy, WHICH I"M NOT. ANd that is why i keep being ignored and lied to. I'm a man in my 30s If you're the person I believe I'm thinking of, aren't you the guy who doesn't have friends? You're a man in your 30's who to me, sounds socially awkward. It's an uncomfortable situation. These aren't so much liars more so that they are trying to be nice without directly hurting your feelings. Meeting someone for a few minutes and asking for a number ISN'T going to get them to call you. It's just not. I've had people give me their numbers and I'm just polite and then I go about my life. Instead of calling women liars because no one calls you, or has any interest in being your friend, look in the mirror and try to see what you're doing to put these women off. ALL women can't be liars. The only common denominator in all of these situations is *you* 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Krieger Posted March 17, 2013 Share Posted March 17, 2013 most woman unless famous and rich will not just give you there number if she does not know you. It is like building a house you cant put the roof on until you lay the ground work and pore the concrete and so on. Link to post Share on other sites
turt Posted March 17, 2013 Share Posted March 17, 2013 Call them first. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted March 17, 2013 Share Posted March 17, 2013 Call them first. I'm still trying to figure out why ask for their number if not to call them. Plus I don't believe all these random women gave him their phone number AND promised to call him. What kind of fantasy world is that? If they gave him anything it was not their phone number, guaranteed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author quietGuy13 Posted March 17, 2013 Author Share Posted March 17, 2013 You are a man in your 30's yet you are judging a gender based upon a paultry few negative experiences you have had ? Lieing is not a gender based, it is a character/personality flaw. Men and women lie. Have you ever came to the conclusion that you maybe infact socially awkward ? And that turns people off ? I actually know i'm awkward, I'm mentally ill. But what? i'm not gonna magically be normal. so i have to try to make friends the way i can. Link to post Share on other sites
abcxyz Posted March 17, 2013 Share Posted March 17, 2013 I can't tell if they're not calling you or you're not calling them... If a guy gives me his number/card, I probably won't call him unless I'm really interested and I make it known before we part ways. If women are giving you their number, you call, and they don't respond, I think that is wrong...it's leading someone on. And why give out your personal number to people you don't want to hear from? As for saying it's ok to do this because people don't want to hurt their feelings, I think it's obvious that this does hurt them, it only saves the person doing the lying. People can say no thanks respectfully...it beats thinking you have a chance. As for the OP, join some groups you're interested in, it's a lot easier to get used to being sociable that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Truthsayer Posted March 17, 2013 Share Posted March 17, 2013 They are trying to spare your feelings as opposed to coming out and saying flat out they don't like you. As a man (hell; as a person) you have to realize that you judge people by actions not words. I think it would be more humane to just tell somebody flat out that your not interested. They are not really lying. They are white lies to spare your feelings or to avoid an uncomfortable situation. I wouldn't consider women who do that "liars" or "dishonest" which is what your attitude is implying. Haha. If your lying you are being dishonest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author quietGuy13 Posted March 17, 2013 Author Share Posted March 17, 2013 I can't tell if they're not calling you or you're not calling them... If a guy gives me his number/card, I probably won't call him unless I'm really interested and I make it known before we part ways. If women are giving you their number, you call, and they don't respond, I think that is wrong...it's leading someone on. And why give out your personal number to people you don't want to hear from? As for saying it's ok to do this because people don't want to hurt their feelings, I think it's obvious that this does hurt them, it only saves the person doing the lying. People can say no thanks respectfully...it beats thinking you have a chance. As for the OP, join some groups you're interested in, it's a lot easier to get used to being sociable that way. I call them. Well we don't exchange phone numbers. WE exchange email addresses. so I email them the same day when we met, and then they don't answer ever. Link to post Share on other sites
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