westjames111 Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I have posted on here before about my situation so I wont re write that. I am two months out and I am doing better but I am still having some problems. For some reason she is still the first thing that I think about when I wake up. I always feel a little down and then as my day goes on I start to feel better again. Is this normal? Also, I began the no contact 8 days ago. She is blocked on all social media, I haven't text, and I even take different routes while driving to avoid driving by her place so I don't see her or him. I am worried about is her breaking the no contact. She hasnt done anything in a week but as recent as last week she showed up at my place and told me she loved me and regretted everything and wanted me not him. She also said she got a dog because she was lonely and it belonged to one of my friends and she felt like it was connected to me. She said she was having a really hard time and even had to go on depression medicine because if it, and she didn't mean for it happen with him but it just did. She then wanted me to go on a walk and talk to her about it and I refused and went back inside. It was so hard to turn her down but I just knew I couldn't do that to myself. I guess what I need to know is what do I do if she shows up again, or contacts me? Just ignore her, or try to act like I am happy? I don't want her to think she is still tearing me down because I know that is what she wants to do. She wants me to be there on the side in case this new fling doesn't work out, and she is enjoying making me jealous. I hope she doesn't contact me but I need to prepare in case it happens.
OwlSoul Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 For some reason she is still the first thing that I think about when I wake up. I think it is just your mind is confused by your body reaction. When I wake up, my heart beats faster than usual, so I start feeling sad and connect it to my ex. I always feel a little down and then as my day goes on I start to feel better again. Is this normal? Yes, cheer up. Especially with NC. I guess what I need to know is what do I do if she shows up again, or contacts me? Just ignore her, or try to act like I am happy? Just be natural I guess. If you do not want to do whatever she asks, just say 'no' politely and cold. Faking happiness is a bad way showing her that she is still occupying your mind (maybe ignoring her makes the same effect, showing you're hurt). 1
crimsoncurrent Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Seems like you're doing really well so far, especially with her seeking you out. I'm two months into NC, but again, even though its really difficult, it's a hell of a lot easier maintaining NC with the other person doesn't want anything to do with you. You're doing great! 1
Author westjames111 Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Seems like you're doing really well so far, especially with her seeking you out. I'm two months into NC, but again, even though its really difficult, it's a hell of a lot easier maintaining NC with the other person doesn't want anything to do with you. You're doing great! Thank you! and most of the time she doesn't want anything to with me which is good, but its just these random times every few weeks she pulls these things. Confuses me so much.
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