PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 "I:m super excited to meet you face to face next week" That means she is going into this with all these high expectations which is not the way to approach a first face to face meeting. So now I will have a anxiety attack right before the date all because of how excited she is. Do you think she was supposed to tell her girlfriends that instead of me?
Keenly Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Ask your doctor if Xanax is right for you. Don't mess this time. There are no high expectations. Only anticipation. Stop building so much resentment in the beginning. 7
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Ask your doctor if Xanax is right for you. Don't mess this time. There are no high expectations. Only anticipation. Stop building so much resentment in the beginning. I know but it's such a BIG BLOW if it doesn't lead to a 2nd date. The last girl I met and we hit it off there was none of this type of talk.
Robman9911 Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Have you ever thought of a mail order bride? Less pressure, and you can avoid the dating crap. You seem to over analyze every thing a girl does or says. I would be flattered a girl is excited to meet me, but I guess im odd. 2
Keenly Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I know but it's such a BIG BLOW if it doesn't lead to a 2nd date. The last girl I met and we hit it off there was none of this type of talk. And my last ex and I talked about rape fantasies for an hour on our first date. Every interaction you ever have with another human being will always be different. Hop aboard a flotation device let lifestyle river flow through the canyons of time. Enjoy the ride. 3
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Have you ever thought of a mail order bride? Less pressure, and you can avoid the dating crap. You seem to over analyze every thing a girl does or says. I would be flattered a girl is excited to meet me, but I guess im odd. I am flattered but I just know it means that she has HIGH EXPECTATIONS and expects the date to go well which creates a "pressure situation"
MrCasanova Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 "I:m super excited to meet you face to face next week" That means she is going into this with all these high expectations which is not the way to approach a first face to face meeting. So now I will have a anxiety attack right before the date all because of how excited she is. Do you think she was supposed to tell her girlfriends that instead of me? She simply wants to meet you in person. Let's leave it at that for now. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 She simply wants to meet you in person. Let's leave it at that for now. Yeah I will save all that mental energy for next saturday
pyramid Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I know but it's such a BIG BLOW if it doesn't lead to a 2nd date. Chill! If there is no second date, there's no second date, and you move on. It's not the end of the world. It's actually a good thing. Leaves the door open to meet someone that's a better fit. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Chill! If there is no second date, there's no second date, and you move on. It's not the end of the world. It's actually a good thing. Leaves the door open to meet someone that's a better fit. It's a BIG BLOW because I don't meet women who are attractive and childless who are younger than me too often. So if it doesn't work out with one I have no idea how long it will take for me to meet the next one.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 So the pressure is already there, from you, not from her. It wasn't really any pressure until I got her text saying how super excited she was to meet me Especially since it's not until next saturday lol
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 So the pressure is already there, from you, not from her. I guess because she is saying it and the date is not until next saturday. Maybe if she had said it on friday then I would feel the pressue
aussietigerwolf Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Omg.... Seriously? The girl sends an innocent text that means nothing beyond "I want to meet you" and you're doing this? 2
KatZee Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 PhillyDude, you need medication. Seriously. You should be THRILLED that she's excited to see you. Instead you come and post yet another BS thread over analyzing every. single. little. thing. How do you even live on a day to day basis with so much obsession, paranoia, anxiety? Seek help! Would you rather a girl who said, "Oh... we're meeting? Yeah, totally forgot. Not really too interested either. But whatevs I guess I'll go." 1
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Omg.... Seriously? The girl sends an innocent text that means nothing beyond "I want to meet you" and you're doing this? Probably because I haven't had anyone this excited to meet me in a long time
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 PhillyDude, you need medication. Seriously. You should be THRILLED that she's excited to see you. Instead you come and post yet another BS thread over analyzing every. single. little. thing. How do you even live on a day to day basis with so much obsession, paranoia, anxiety? Seek help! Would you rather a girl who said, "Oh... we're meeting? Yeah, totally forgot. Not really too interested either. But whatevs I guess I'll go." I didn't say it was a problem, just that it means she will have HIGH EXPECTATIONS for the date. Am I inaccurate in stating that?
aussietigerwolf Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I didn't say it was a problem, just that it means she will have HIGH EXPECTATIONS for the date. Am I inaccurate in stating that? Hell yes! I doubt she has any expectations, let alone high ones
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Hell yes! I doubt she has any expectations, let alone high ones So let me get this straight, when someone is excited to meet a person online it doesn't meet they have high expectations for the date?
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 It doesn't mean she has high expectations, it means that she is excited to meet you because umm some how you somehow made a good impression. That is how people express themselves. If she didn't say anthing at all, would you still be a nervous wreck, or would you find something else to nitpick about ? I guess we connected because have a lot in common She moved in march and i will be moving May along both having linkedin profiles and being childless and in our 30's.
apple OR orange Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 i would think the same, she is placing alot of information in looks, seen this many times with women under 25, normally never ends well to be honest
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Ok so you have a lot in common. What is the problem? She is excited to meet you ? If this online dating you are talking about it VERY hard to connect with someone normal. You should be thankful and not having panic attacks. She stood out on POF because she had a normal looking profile
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 So I don't get what your major malfunction is. She is looking forward to meeting you ? What is the problem ? Are you scared to meet her ? Not at all but I just don't like to be reminded that our meeting is a ALL or NOTHING type of situation. I mean we all know that going into the date but try not to think about it
Author PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 If you equate a young lady saying she is excited to meet you with - it is all or nothing, I seriously think you need Dr. Phil. That way of thinking is bat chit crazy. Well this time next saturday I will be out with her lol
Star Gazer Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I have a date tomorrow night, and just tested this out. I texted the guy and told him I'm excited about our date. His response? "Me too :)" Expectations? Nah. But if I wasn't looking forward to it, I wouldn't be going.
outsidethebox Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 She obviously doesn't read your threads here. I'm starting to think your threads are a world in your brain.
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