mortensorchid Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 It is rather disconcerting to meet a man with an MO (that's "motus operendi" to those who don't know what an MO is). I happened to be doing a few searches and came across a blog from a while back belonging to a man who wouldn't stop bothering me for a while. I didn't know the blog existed, but seeing his picture again jogged a memory. Long story short, in the MySpace days, this man connected with me through there and we ended up going out a few times. His true colors began to show themselves through a few IM chats. He came off as an arrogant sociopath who liked to chip away at others' self esteem. I had asked him if he had a lot of friends or things that he did, he said no, all he needed was a gf and that was all the social life he needed. I decided that was a red flag and backed off, because if you get involved with someone who doesn't have a social life they will do nothing but rip yours apart and you find out why they don't have one. Needless to say, this guy posted some emails verbatum that he had exchanged with some other woman that he had met online. He asked if relationships take work or not. I said "Yes, I think so." He asked if I think it's best that one should take the time to get to know a person first before meeting face to face, I said "I ... Never really thought about it." He then asked if I had any interests that were nerdy, I said "I'm not sure how nerdy you mean. Do you mean like Star Trek nerdy or intellectual nerdy or something else?" Then he asked if I approved of people spending a lot on weddings. I said I never really thought about it, which was the truth, I hadn't really. He asked why my last serious relationship ended. I said we were not right for one another, end of story. He wanted more. I said that was all I was giving. FOr about a year after I decided to cut him off, he would send a text or IM, telling me he had had a really bad date or he was lonely, etc. I found him annoying and wondered why he was telling me these things. It also lead me to believe that he was also in contact with other women besides me who he had also had a bad encounter with who he hoped would bend and come back to him. I think what was so scary was the fact that he is/was telling other women the same things that he was telling me. What a creep. This is probably the oddest MO I had ever heard in my life.
Author mortensorchid Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 He was looking for a very specific type of woman, and I did not fit said mode for him. I doubt any other woman would be the same for him.
Sanitarium Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 OP's post sounds kinda like the intro to a horror movie 1
Star Gazer Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 He was looking for a very specific type of woman, and I did not fit said mode for him. I doubt any other woman would be the same for him. You're using MO in the wrong context. An MO is a method of operating, not one's preferences in something. His MO was to ask questions to collect information. There's nothing too bizarre about how he did that, is there? 2
Sivok Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I don't know about an MO, but coming from someone who used to play alot of online games back in my day, I've known ALOT of guys who come across like your guy here. He is far from a manipulative sociopath - infact he is more than likely quite the opposite: a socially awkward loner that would've been a sweaty, stuttering mess had you met him in person. If he was a sociopath, your story wold be more about how you guys met, you fell in love with him, and him being emotional vacant and manipulative. This guy on the otherhand just sounds like he got extremely attached to you due to extreme loneliness, and his openness about his depressing life to multiple women is just an extension of his poor social skills
StanMusial Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I don't know about an MO, but coming from someone who used to play alot of online games back in my day, I've known ALOT of guys who come across like your guy here. He is far from a manipulative sociopath - infact he is more than likely quite the opposite: a socially awkward loner that would've been a sweaty, stuttering mess had you met him in person. If he was a sociopath, your story wold be more about how you guys met, you fell in love with him, and him being emotional vacant and manipulative. This guy on the otherhand just sounds like he got extremely attached to you due to extreme loneliness, and his openness about his depressing life to multiple women is just an extension of his poor social skills I opened this thread hoping for an entertaining story about some smooth operator with a slick routine for scamming on chicks. I agree with the other posters. The guy you described is just another typical loser with no social skills who may or may not have nefarious intentions.
MrCastle Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I opened this thread hoping for an entertaining story about some smooth operator with a slick routine for scamming on chicks. I agree with the other posters. The guy you described is just another typical loser with no social skills who may or may not have nefarious intentions. That's why I came in here. To talk about my experiences. Ahh well. Someday I guess.
Object_a Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 The guy sounds like he's been reading PUA books. All the weird questions are supposed to give them an idea of your personal qualities, like if you are introverted or extroverted and how keen you are to be in a relationship. If you expose what they think is a possible weakness like low confidence or 'neediness' they will move on to 'negging' and all that stuff. These guys are creeps who prey on your vulnerabilities. If a guy has a list of weird questions, run a mile, basically.
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