MrLovaLova Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 I found the profile of an old college friend of mine on POF and decided to message her just to say whats up. Its her first time using online dating and I was surprised when she told me she cant keep up with the messages. No offense to her, but in my view shes a 5...maybe a 6 at best. Thats if I had to use the number system. If I had to articulate it, Id say that I wouldnt sleep with her even if I was tipsy. Shes a great gal, but not someone I find attractive. That being said, it appears people are right when saying a girl can be super plain or not all that attractive and get loads of attention online. Its amazing how OLD turns the dating world on its head. Seems guys just message any girl. Christ...if dudes actually showed some selective-ness itd solve the problem most of them have with OLD. Online Dating can work for guys too. Have you tried some of the pay sites? It brings a different type of woman into the mix. What are you looking for? A relationship or a hook up? If you are looking for a relationship, try a pay site for awhile to see if it works better. I haven't tried OKC, but I have had some luck for getting ONS on POF. . Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 CRAIGSLIST is still number 1 to me Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 OLD has definitely destroyed whatever was left of my confidence. I thought it would do the opposite, but I was very wrong... Link to post Share on other sites
MrLovaLova Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 CRAIGSLIST is still number 1 to me Is Craigslist safe? Are you paying for these women? Are they actually cops running a string? I don't know but, Craigslist seems like a huge risk just get laid. . Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Is Craigslist safe? Are you paying for these women? Are they actually cops running a string? I don't know but, Craigslist seems like a huge risk just get laid. . Yes, if you post a regular sincere ad you get will a response from a regular woman Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaylan Posted March 16, 2013 Author Share Posted March 16, 2013 CRAIGSLIST is still number 1 to me Ive found CL to have worse quality than POF. It can be downright nasty sometimes. Maybe Im picky =/ Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Ive found CL to have worse quality than POF. It can be downright nasty sometimes. Maybe Im picky =/ Maybe because i use CL right way? Just a guess Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 I responded to an ad once on craigslist. I was 19 and somewhat naive I suppose. She sounded cool and everything and she looked cute based on her pic. Never got a response. Looking back now, 6 years later, I assume it was a fake ad. But who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 I responded to an ad once on craigslist. I was 19 and somewhat naive I suppose. She sounded cool and everything and she looked cute based on her pic. Never got a response. Looking back now, 6 years later, I assume it was a fake ad. But who knows. Guys are not supposed to respond to CL ads. You are suppose to create your ad and wait for a reply. Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Guys are not supposed to respond to CL ads. You are suppose to create your ad and wait for a reply. Well I obviously didn't know that then. Doesn't matter though, I'm still not going back there. I don't want my bones made into wind chimes by some serial killer trolling for victims... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaylan Posted March 16, 2013 Author Share Posted March 16, 2013 Online Dating can work for guys too. Have you tried some of the pay sites? It brings a different type of woman into the mix. What are you looking for? A relationship or a hook up? If you are looking for a relationship, try a pay site for awhile to see if it works better. I haven't tried OKC, but I have had some luck for getting ONS on POF. . I know that paid sites tend to work better, since people wont waste their time with something they spend money on. I just cant see myself spending money just to meet women right now. I mean, Ive heard of guys spending the money and still running into issues...so Id rather wait it out with the free sites a little longer. Im not specifically looking for a relationship, but Im very open to one. Itd be nice to meet a girl I really, really click with for once. I dont want a ONS. Not my thing as they make me paranoid and feel weird. I kinda just wanna date around some and see if I can find a really cool girl. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Well I obviously didn't know that then. Doesn't matter though, I'm still not going back there. I don't want my bones made into wind chimes by some serial killer trolling for victims... Oh Please, I have met woman off CL who are lawyers school teachers doctors And they all came to my place and we had a relaxing evening Link to post Share on other sites
Pompeii Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 One of my friends who is very successful with women said that online dating is not the way to go. Not only do women get messaged quite frequently but their criteria out of what they want in a partner borders on the impossible. Whereas if you approached the same woman in real life, you would get a much higher conversion rate. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaylan Posted March 16, 2013 Author Share Posted March 16, 2013 Maybe because i use CL right way? Just a guess Sounds like an STD waiting to happen though. Doesnt matter though seeing as people dont really use CL for dating where I live. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Speaking of paid sites. On match most of the women were way out of my league and the rest were way below not to sound mean. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 OLD doesn't work for UGLY DUDES. Why am I largely successful in real life but not at all in OLD? Can you explain the disparity? Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 (edited) OLD doesn't work for UGLY DUDES. Wrong. I'm good looking and get TONS of girls IRL. Every time I go out, at least one girl calls me "hot." I get very little on OLD, while I have friends that are worse looking than me that do well. Edited March 16, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaylan Posted March 16, 2013 Author Share Posted March 16, 2013 (edited) Wrong. I'm good looking and get TONS of girls IRL. Every time I go out, at least one girl calls me "hot." I get very little on OLD, while I have friends that are worse looking than me that do well. Do explain why they succeed where you fail Edited March 16, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Do explain why they succeed where you fail LOL if I know that, then I'd be succeeding too. I have met a few girls from OLD. ALL of them messaged me and they were pretty average....and very dtf. Not nearly the quality I'm used to getting IRL. My friends have actually met hot girls from there. I'm not sure where the discrepency is. Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Why am I largely successful in real life but not at all in OLD? Can you explain the disparity? Boring profile? Corny messages? I have no idea Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Do explain why they succeed where you fail My reasoning is all the stuff those bitter guys talk about (race, height, etc) plays a significant role in OLD. As said many times, not many chicks leave their house hoping a 5'7 hispanic who weighs 150 lbs comes to sweep them off their feet. I mean that is the reality. But in real life, you're only options are the ones around you. I just make myself better than the men around men. I dress great, I'm a smooth talker, etc. My personality wins them over. In OLD, this doesn't transfer over. Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 My reasoning is all the stuff those bitter guys talk about (race, height, etc) plays a significant role in OLD. As said many times, not many chicks leave their house hoping a 5'7 hispanic who weighs 150 lbs comes to sweep them off their feet. I mean that is the reality. But in real life, you're only options are the ones around you. I just make myself better than the men around men. I dress great, I'm a smooth talker, etc. My personality wins them over. In OLD, this doesn't transfer over. Nah, it's not height. I changed my height to 6 feet and added pics that made me look tall. It didn't change my results at all. I even took pics of my friends (the ones that are doing well) and posted them on my page....still nothing. Our online game must suck lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Boring profile? Corny messages? I have no idea Doubt it's that. I'm a creative writer, as well as a photographer. Taking pictures and writing are two of my passions and strengths. I think they see think see things like my height and other stats that don't appeal to them and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanitarium Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 My reasoning is all the stuff those bitter guys talk about (race, height, etc) plays a significant role in OLD. As said many times, not many chicks leave their house hoping a 5'7 hispanic who weighs 150 lbs comes to sweep them off their feet. I mean that is the reality. But in real life, you're only options are the ones around you. I just make myself better than the men around men. I dress great, I'm a smooth talker, etc. My personality wins them over. In OLD, this doesn't transfer over. The reason is because your charisma and energy in real life makes you very effective. In online dating, charisma and energy are non existant because there is no person to person interaction like in real life. You either have to be very good looking and/or do the "dancing clown" routine where you entertain her like crazy. The same simple approach in real life doesn't work in OLD 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaylan Posted March 16, 2013 Author Share Posted March 16, 2013 My reasoning is all the stuff those bitter guys talk about (race, height, etc) plays a significant role in OLD. As said many times, not many chicks leave their house hoping a 5'7 hispanic who weighs 150 lbs comes to sweep them off their feet. I mean that is the reality. But in real life, you're only options are the ones around you. I just make myself better than the men around men. I dress great, I'm a smooth talker, etc. My personality wins them over. In OLD, this doesn't transfer over.I never thought my being 5'9 hurt me...though Im sure it could when it comes to girls who want 6 ft guys...but those girls who say that in their profile arent too common in my searches. I know that my being chocolate plays a factor though. Link to post Share on other sites
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