linguist500 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Ok, here's the story. My "wife" of 2 long horrendous years decides she wants to leave me in my sleep. Makes me feel like everything between us was cheap. If she can just throw away the marriage like that I wonder what else she was doing behind my back. I let her talk me out of jobs and i found out way later. It was because she didn't want anyone to do any better than her in life. She's on disability and even got me on disability. I really needed it to be honest and so did she, or at least i think she did. When things were at the worst she was cold toward me. Kept telling me that it wasn't going to happen. Then I met someone else and suddenly she realized what a treasure i was and was all sad and was going to kill herself and all this drama. August of last year i had a suicide attempt from drinking too much and swallowing 40 xanax. I had a fifth of vodka. I have that same brand of vodka in my posession and am angry. Very angry. I'm angry at her for hurting me and my family, i'm angry at her for screwing her daughter out of a stable father figure. She won't even let me be a part of my little girl's life anymore and i'm sorry but it's probably best that things are as they are. She needs her mom and i'm never going to be ok with her mom and that's probably going to be hard on her to see two people fighting. There are 3 people on my flaming hot hate list and she's right in there. She's an idiot and I don't know what i was thinking. She's got this boyfriend now who's so annoying he makes me want to cut off my ears with a dull razor every time i hear his voice. I could care less that she's dating him, it's all about him being an annoying little imp. He has to yak his jaws every second when there is silence. God I HATE those people. And on top of it all he's turned her into a drunk he says. Funny how that was part of the marriage deal was that I would stay sober. She drank during the marriage and I wasn't allowed to. The only reason i quit smoking pot was because there was a child involved. She made me change for her to be in a relationship with her. I absolutely couldn't drink, and i absolutely couldn't smoke weed and if i moved into this apartment i was thinking of moving into with a friend of mine then it would be over between me and her. Anything to control a situation right? So...I don't really think there's any question as to how I feel. My girlfriend makes me happy now but when I think of how my wife has screwed me over it makes me want to just...spit nails i guess we'll call it in order to keep it clean. Anyway, that's my story. I'd welcome yours.
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 The only point I would comment on is that you need to do everything within your power to be a good, upright and beneficial father to your daughter. Everything else.... I dunno. I'm not prepared to comment other than to say choices are always available and it's up to us to make the right ones. At every turn, you had choices. It seems you've accepted the choice to not fight for contact with your own daughter. That, to me, is simply unacceptable. Good luck. 2
Author linguist500 Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 she won't let me see her. She's just like that one "person" that had my kid and pushed me out of his life too. Had men call my number threatening to kill me if i talked to "their bitch". What it is now is that my wife has this boyfriend and she's trying to make HIM the daddy to my little girl instead of me. She wants HIM to be a family with them. There's no room for me. Not anymore. So before you say something is "unacceptable" get all the facts first.
revitup Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Angry,drunken man takes 40 Xanex....yup sounds stable to me? Chief, you are in a state of mind that will get very bad results if continued. Maybe this is a wake up call to make some changes as to how you react under stressful situations.We all hurt and think about stupid things,we just don't do them,most of the time anyway. Slow it down for a minute and let this Vodka and Rx stuff get out of your system.Then someone here can better talk with you,instead of the drama of it all. I wish you the best. REVITUP
Mr. Lucky Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 My girlfriend makes me happy now but when I think of how my wife has screwed me over it makes me want to just...spit nails i guess we'll call it in order to keep it clean. i'm angry at her for screwing her daughter out of a stable father figure. Pretty confusing. Is this your daughter or stepdaughter? Do you have other children? Are you still married? Might help if you tell your story in a more linear fashion... Mr. Lucky
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 she won't let me see her. She's just like that one "person" that had my kid and pushed me out of his life too. Had men call my number threatening to kill me if i talked to "their bitch". What it is now is that my wife has this boyfriend and she's trying to make HIM the daddy to my little girl instead of me. She wants HIM to be a family with them. There's no room for me. Not anymore. So before you say something is "unacceptable" get all the facts first. Well if you GAVE us all the facts instead of ranting in an aggressive resentful manner, and quit venting and start communicating - we might be able to help more. Isn't that why you're here? To seek a solution to a problem? Or are you just up for a good ol' bitch.....? Just asking so's I know how much to commit, here..... 1
Minnie09 Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Sounds like you dodged a bullet. And congratulations on your new, better relationship. I hope it lasts, I hope you are able to master all difficult times and enjoy happy times and you're both committed to the relationship. I think counseling would be in order to help you process your past relationship and also your internal struggles. Get your life in order and get help. Then, focus in your child. There's no excuse for not being in her life. Try to have a civil relationship with your ex for the sake of your dd and focus on proper co-parenting. Everything else will fall into the right place if you take the first steps.
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