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What do others do when you have a long wait between when you've asked somebody out online and the actual meeting? I'm meeting a girl 9 days after I asked her out. I tend to move very quickly so the gap seems unnaturally long. I believe you should get a number and ask them out within 5 messages. I don't see the point in dragging things out. Problem is she's running the LA marathon this weekend so she's not available until mid-next week. I've already made plans Wed-Thu so I had push to Friday.

 

I'm thinking of just giving her a call early next week to see how the marathon went. I generally don't believe in excessive contact once they've accepted because the only thing you can do is ruin good chemistry with an awkward conversation. At the same time, to not contact at all for 9 days would seem like I was just trying to get her #, ask her out, and then ignore her until the date. Thoughts?

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I say go ahead and ask her how the marathon went and that you are looking forward to seeing her.

 

No harm, no foul.

 

Good luck!

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I have a long-distance race this weekend too, and for that reason am resting and not going out on dates from yesterday though probably Wednesday of next week (I'd like to be able to walk normally and will be re-hydrating with just water until then), so it makes sense it would take a week or longer to get together if someone had asked me out in the past few days. Kinda awkward timing, but it is what it is. If you're interested enough, and she is too, it won't be an issue. :)

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I just wouldn't get involved in situations like those in the first place.

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This is nuts. So she cancelled a date we had on the 21st because she got the flu - seemed legit as it was going around and she is a 2nd grade teacher. We rescheduled for the 28th but she postpones again because she was driving back from Vegas and wasn't going to get back in time. I was really considering blowing her off but she's been texting me all the while. So we rescheduled one more time for tomorrow night. This is by far the longest I've ever had a first date get strung out. 21 days since I asked her out and she agreed...

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