sugar32288 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 My ex and I dated for 6 months. He pursued me so much in the beginning and moved very quickly, introducing me to his parents after 1 month and making me a staple in his life. He was a great boyfriend and we are really compatible. Things went very very well until he started working 7 days a week. Our communication skills weren't good and he broke up with me, telling me he wasn't sure if he was in love with me or not. I think he is pretty emotionally immature and he told me if a relationship required work, it isn't meant to be. I was floored when he said that. However, he couldn't let me go. He asked me for time to figure things out, and I said OK. We were exclusive and I agreed to not talk about our issues for a while so he could sort things out. For the next 4 months, we would still text every other day and spend 1-2 days a week with each other, going on dates and still sleeping together. If I didn't call him, he would get upset. If I tried to play hard-to-get and said I couldn't meet him, he got upset. After 4 months of this pseudo-relationship, I asked him if had a clearer idea of what he wanted. He said he had very strong feelings for me but wasn't sure what love was. I know I gave him way too much time to figure stuff out and I should just move on (should've right when he broke up with me), but I have so much faith and hope. We never fought while dating and we both let the spark die out, but I believe it could easily be resurrected. A month ago, I told him we shouldn't talk anymore because he has no incentive to actually be in a relationship with me since I am there, when he wants me. I said maybe actual time apart will help him figure things out. It's now been about a month and it's so hard. I miss him so much. He sent me an article he thought I would like, and I emailed him about an episode of a TV show. Besides that, no contact. I really don't want to move on. I see so much hope. It's all I can think about and I know I need to be stronger, but it's so difficult.
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