Put Your Number In My Phone?

[ThaWholigan]

If we were talking, and I liked you, then I might... but some random guy just approaching me and wanting my number? I don't think so.

Yeah I hear that. I'm not saying all girls lie about it - hell, some girls will straight up walk past a guy like that with a straight face (seen it).

[MrCastle]

Probably works for picking up marginally sane women who you can easily f*ck. If that is your demographic, then go for it.

 

That is my demographic. So this works for me.

[CarrieT]

That is the most lame thing I have ever seen.

 

I would be offended and think the guys' stances are bad - they are wearing glasses and don't look directly at the girls (or they turn away) and are completely laid back in their approach, not appearing to care about the girl or not.

 

Total player vibe that is creepy at best.

 

I would give a bad phone number, if any...

[Imajerk17]

I've met a lot of girls via cold "daytime" approach. While I don't claim to be a master of it (whatever that means), I have had some success.

 

(1) There's getting a girl to put *a* number in your phone.

(2) Then there's getting a girl to put *her* number in your phone.

(3) Then there's getting a girl to actually answer.

 

I can tell you from experience that (2) is actually pretty easy. It's (3) that's much harder.

 

 

Anyway, it always concerns me whenever I see newbies watching these crazy PUA videos and thinking that is how you meet women. These videos impress GUYS. Anyway, the guys' boldness is awesome, but unless the guy sticks around after he gets her number to vibe with her so that she feels comfortable she probably won't be answering his texts or calls.

 

This is what I would advise for you: Go up and talk to her, express some direct interest, and if she is interested she will talk to you. Then have a conversation with her. If that goes well (it might not--I sometimes was feeling it and she wasn't and vice versa), or and you're still interested then ask for the number. With SOME luck (there are no guarantees by any means here) if you call you might get to see her again.

[MrCastle]

That is the most lame thing I have ever seen.

 

I would be offended and think the guys' stances are bad - they are wearing glasses and don't look directly at the girls (or they turn away) and are completely laid back in their approach, not appearing to care about the girl or not.

 

Total player vibe that is creepy at best.

 

I would give a bad phone number, if any...

 

I don't totally agree with their body language and it's kind of try hard, as in they appear to be trying too hard to be cool, but if the person was friendlier and had a warmer stance in terms of body language--fake number or real number?

[RedRobin]

That is my demographic. So this works for me.

 

thought so......

[CarrieT]

I don't totally agree with their body language and it's kind of try hard, as in they appear to be trying too hard to be cool, but if the person was friendlier and had a warmer stance in terms of body language--fake number or real number?

 

Fake. Fake, fake, fake.

 

Do you want random pick-ups with people you don't know and may have nothing in common with? I certainly wouldn't...

[StanMusial]

It would be hilarious if one of the girls would take the phone, turn and run the other way as fast as she could.

[MrCastle]

I've met a lot of girls via cold "daytime" approach. While I don't claim to be a master of it (whatever that means), I have had some success.

 

(1) There's getting a girl to put *a* number in your phone.

(2) Then there's getting a girl to put *her* number in your phone.

(3) Then there's getting a girl to actually answer.

 

I can tell you from experience that (2) is actually pretty easy. It's (3) that's much harder.

 

 

Anyway, it always concerns me whenever I see newbies watching these crazy PUA videos and thinking that is how you meet women. These videos impress GUYS. Anyway, the guys' boldness is awesome, but unless the guy sticks around after he gets her number to vibe with her so that she feels comfortable she probably won't be answering his texts or calls.

 

This is what I would advise for you: Go up and talk to her, express some direct interest, and if she is interested she will talk to you. Then have a conversation with her. If that goes well (it might not--I sometimes was feeling it and she wasn't and vice versa), or and you're still interested then ask for the number. With SOME luck (there are no guarantees by any means here) if you call you might get to see her again.

 

Agreed. I've always say do whatever works for you, although I've always questioned the success rate of cold approaching, as most guys who do it admit most of the time it doesn't lead to much, sometimes not even a call or text back. What I take from this though is, if there are girls out there willing to give you their number just because you asked--there is probably a larger number who would do it if you individualize your approach and spend some time talking to them.

 

All the men in real life I know, have never cold approached, and whenever I'm in public--the mall, on campus, whatever, I've never seen a cold approach.

 

I think that gives me somewhat of an edge because so few men have the guts to approach a woman like that, and I do think some women would like men to approach them.

 

I'm gonna tinker over this and come up with a game plan of my own.

[RedRobin]

It would be hilarious if one of the girls would take the phone, turn and run the other way as fast as she could.

 

Love that!!!!

 

even better... she takes the phone, then calls all the people in his phone posing as someone from the local STD clinic informing them he has AIDS.

[Imajerk17]

Agreed. I've always say do whatever works for you, although I've always questioned the success rate of cold approaching, as most guys who do it admit most of the time it doesn't lead to much, sometimes not even a call or text back. What I take from this though is, if there are girls out there willing to give you their number just because you asked--there is probably a larger number who would do it if you individualize your approach and spend some time talking to them.

 

All the men in real life I know, have never cold approached, and whenever I'm in public--the mall, on campus, whatever, I've never seen a cold approach.

 

I think that gives me somewhat of an edge because so few men have the guts to approach a woman like that, and I do think some women would like men to approach them.

 

I'm gonna tinker over this and come up with a game plan of my own.

 

The goal is to come across as a cool guy the girl can relate to and feel comfortable around. The goal is NOT to come across as some brass-balls ninja. The former actually gets girls to meet up, the latter ends up filming PUA videos.

[MrCastle]

What are most women in here saying? That they would be against the specific approach shown in the OP? Because it now seems like the tide is turning to where they're not down for cold approaches period. In any form.

[MrCastle]

The goal is to come across as a cool guy the girl can relate to and feel comfortable around. The goal is NOT to come across as some brass-balls ninja. The former actually gets girls to meet up, the latter ends up filming PUA videos.

 

That's why I think what I've done in the past works better. I don't go out and say okay today I'm gonna approach 50 women. And then just have it and see what sticks.

 

I talk to a girl if I have an in. It could be as simple as waiting on line at an ice cream place and the girl is in front of me ordering the same flavor and I'll say "good choice, I'm getting the same thing" and that's enough of a window for me to work myself in.

 

But I must say in recent days, this idea of approaching bulk numbers of women and seeing what sticks is tickling my fancy.

[ThaWholigan]

What are most women in here saying? That they would be against the specific approach shown in the OP? Because it now seems like the tide is turning to where they're not down for cold approaches period. In any form.

So? You won't be dating them (well, unless you fly to Australia ).

 

There are lots of women who like being cold-approached. It may not work most of the time, but it's still one way of doing things.

[MrCastle]

So? You won't be dating them (well, unless you fly to Australia ).

 

There are lots of women who like being cold-approached. It may not work most of the time, but it's still one way of doing things.

 

The only thing I give CA vs social circle is that social circle is more of a slow burner. You have to get to know the girl in class, get the number, start developing a rapport, then make the move when enough signs of interest are there.

 

CA is very efficient. Do you like me or not? That's pretty much what it comes down to. No time is wasted.

[RedRobin]

What are most women in here saying? That they would be against the specific approach shown in the OP? Because it now seems like the tide is turning to where they're not down for cold approaches period. In any form.

 

I've been cold approached and ended up dating him for awhile... however, context is important.

 

Being approached at a political fundraiser that costs $100/person and knowing someone to get into is different than being cold approached at the local Starbucks or gas station.

 

I always tell people that your best bet for cold approaches is when they have SOME kind of frame of reference... or price of entry. Price meaning, social filters, location (university, for instance), or yes, $$.

[sweetkiwi]

I expect the success rate to be 100%

 

As a chick who asks for numbers you can bet your biscuits it isn't 100%. Men make up strange excuses just like women.

[MrCastle]

As a chick who asks for numbers you can bet your biscuits it isn't 100%. Men make up strange excuses just like women.

 

I wouldn't turn you down sweetkiwi. Well, maybe if you approached me in a spike bra and had a whip in your hand

[JourneyLady]

I'd put in my google voice number. Then I'd wait for a message. If attracted to him and I was not spoken for, I'd call back. If not attracted and/or turned off by creepiness, I'd block the number...

 

I'm just not confrontational. But I doubt it would ever happen to me like that, so moot point.

[PogoStick]

That video is the extreme but it shows potential. I think you could do a quick convo to assess some compatibility and interest.

 

However, one of the things that PUA guys made clear is that getting a number really doesn't mean much. The real question is how many of those will actually turn into a future date? That's where your 10 minute convo is important to develop some interest.

 

I think the best thing is to always have events planned with some friends. Then you spend the week inviting cold approaches. It's really low pressure to tell a girl, I'm going to check out this local band with some guys on Friday, you should come. In the summer, hey we're having a BBQ at the park on Sunday. Not only will some girls come, they're going to bring friends. Now you have social proof and multiple girls actually competing for you.

[StanMusial]

The problem with the method in the video would be remembering who was who if someone did answer the phone. Make sure you have someone filming so you can go back to the tape and determine exactly who it is you are calling.

[dasein]

I think the obnoxious body language, shades was part of the point, to see how far they could go and still get a reasonable success rate. I used to ask for lots of numbers they would put in my phone add their name, and they would answer, but the convo would always be the same.

 

"What is your emergency?"

 

"I'm cool, is Sandra there?"

 

"Sir, what is your emergency?"

 

"Oh I get the vibe, rowwrrr! love a woman who gets right to it. My -emergency- is starting to bulge a bit from this convo, what is your -emergency-? maybe we should get together and compare -emergencies-."

 

and then they hang up?! Flakey bitches.

Edited March 15, 2013 by dasein

[kaylan]

Yikes. Tough crowd so far

Dude...what have you learned for life?

 

What women say on this forum isnt exactly how they actually behave in real life.

 

All you have to hit them with is "Hey Im Kaylan...whats your name?" After she replies say "Well *girls name*...gonna be honest and say I dont normally do this...but I couldnt help but notice you and I think we should get to know each other. I gotta run but give me your number and we'll chat sometime"

 

Dont think this works? With the right tone and body language youd get a lot more numbers than simply telling chicks to put their number in youre phone.

Edited March 15, 2013 by kaylan

[miss_jaclynrae]

No. It would take a wee bit more than that.

 

 

Some charm, some witty banter.

I wouldn't make it easy, it would depend on how he would interact with me after the 5 minutes of me having him give me a good reason as to why I should.

 

 

 

It would be fun though, and it is a bold, funny ice breaker.

[veggirl]

No. It would take a wee bit more than that.

 

 

Some charm, some witty banter.

I wouldn't make it easy, it would depend on how he would interact with me after the 5 minutes of me having him give me a good reason as to why I should.

 

 

 

It would be fun though, and it is a bold, funny ice breaker.

 

 

Agreed. It could open the door to conversation, like when the chick gives you a WTF look, "I'm just kidding, just wanted to come over and talk to you" and then go from there or something.