Getting out of a long distance relationship, kind of.

[garnettandblack84]

Short story version. Dated my ex for about 15 months, we had a couple on and off moments. Met at a buddies wedding, we were 6 and a half hour drive apart. We would try and see each other once a month, amazingly making it work the best we could. Talking on skype, on the phone, etc. We had an amazing connection, but at times would get in assanine arguments which eventually led to our demise. Finally I had planned to move there, we got an appt with the 15th of february as a move in date, I was interviewing for a job there, things looked great. Then at the end of January we got in an argument and I got a text that its over, it isnt right, she cancelled the appartment and everything was changed. It has been about 7 weeks now, and I havent contacted her really since I was there for the 3rd interview of the job I had previously been trying to get. I still went down there as it is a great career opportunity, and collected my things from her. We talked for about 10 mins, did the goodbye hug stuff, held hands for a little, and basically said our good bye .She said the typical bS, I will always love you... Then she didnt respond to any of my texts while I was about 5 mins from h er home. I was trucking along with my life, and the other night I find out she already has a serious bf who has met her family and friends. That took all of abotu 3 weeks after we broke up, obviously this hurts. I am supposed to get a call about the next and final interview process and need some advice on this. Right now my emotions are telling me no, I couldn~t handle being that close to her knowing she has moved on. Also, i dont get how she has moved on so quickly. It doesnt make sense to me, any advice would be appreciated. Long distance is hard and we were finally going to live close and she called it off and now is dating some one else. Sorry for the rambling post, in a rush just wanted to post this to get some advice, first time! THanks

[will1988]

to me it sounds like she might have moved on long before you all broke up, and she just did not want to tell you that she cheated.

 

Personally, I would say if it is a great job, I'd go for it and just ignore the fact that she also lives in the same area... maybe try to get a place close to the new job, and hopefully on the other side of town... avoid places where you two use to go etc... you'll be fine eventually

 

good luck

[IfiKnewThen]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/244265-1-year-ago-today

 

please go to this link and read mcgrupps post. i fact i might put this post up for all to see. you have to keep reading what he wrote...scroll and follow the story.

 

 

i hope this helps you. first of all i think she had this all set up. she was desiring or had affection for someone b4 this break up didnt just go out meet a guy right after u and brought him home to mom and dad. i totally feel for u. not u have to go thru the grieving process. shock....denial...grief....anger.....acceptance. just dont get stuck in one emotion. thats the trick. shift the feelings dont get stuck. i dont think u should take the job or move there. it will feel lonely and u wont get any closer to her. she may even get spooked. rebuild ur life where u are at now for the time being and HEAL. good luck.