Steve11 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 All it said was - can you give my key to (friends name) when you next see him please. No mention of my stuff or the rest of hers. I asked if she was ok in my reply, she hasn't responded. Not contacting again.
seriously-let-down Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 I had the same mate, once you have everything, then NC can start. It was only her reason to text me in the end. Not had NC for 2 weeks. I'm expecting it, but there is no point. At least I now know I mean nothing to her anymore. May be thats how she sees it with me too. I'm not contacting her, she accused me of stalking her even though I was replying to her texts in the beginning. I don't need that woman in my life now. Its all about recovery. Take care, don't let it get you down. Think, how could a woman who supposed to love you treat you like that.
Author Steve11 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 I messed up at the beginning trying to get her back, now I couldn't care. She can have her key back, if she doesn't give my stuff to the mutual friend then I'll ask for it again. Then she can get out of my life. I'm done. Bored of it all now. She doesn't deserve me.
geegirl Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 All it said was - can you give my key to (friends name) when you next see him please. No mention of my stuff or the rest of hers. I asked if she was ok in my reply, she hasn't responded. Not contacting again. Instead of saying, "I'll give you the key through so and so in exchange for my things. When can he come and pick up?" Instead, you ask her if she is okay. I think somewhere in your thread Tara said to grow some balls. I hate to be harsh, but you need to. This is weak.
Author Steve11 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 I know what Tara said. I'm just being civil. Even if she doesn't want to be, doesn't mean I have to. My balls were packed up at the start of the breakup, they're now officially back out.
geegirl Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 I know what Tara said. I'm just being civil. Even if she doesn't want to be, doesn't mean I have to. My balls were packed up at the start of the breakup, they're now officially back out. Stop extending civility to people that don't care to extend it to you. After awhile, they just walk all over you because you're too concerned about being nice rather than creating boundaries to protect yourself. And asking if she is okay is not civility. You're trying to show her Mr. Nice Guy. Just exchange your things for the key and be done with it. Now you are going to wait for a few more days and ask for your things again, when you could have set the terms then and there to get your stuff back. People use "stuff" to keep that door slightly open. It's always an excuse to make contact. 1
Author Steve11 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 True. Can't fault that. I know it's all over & I've dealt with that. I'm not concerned anymore with the relationship. It's wether she's trying to play games with it all. She was supposed to of given my stuff back ages ago, an hasn't. I'll leave it a couple of days, then with a blunt message, no 'how are you's' ask it her to leave my stuff on the doorstep for me to collect. Simple as.
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