Why does a woman want a man that's "Serious" about his career?

[ltjg45]

Working for an oil rig doesn't require moving all your stuff and also doesn't have many requirements, beyond being physically fit and having a driver's license that's capable of driving the construction vehicles.

 

I don't have a driver's license. I had to let my copy expire 6 years ago because I couldn't afford the $30 to re-new it.

 

Besides, I doubt any regular driver's license will cut it anyway if you are referring to construction vehicles. I don't know what kind of training that needs or how much it costs but I'm confident it's not free by a long shot.

 

And that's my biggest problem: I don't have a dime to my name, in any way, shape, and form. Any money I do have, I got off of my brothers that lived here with me.

[tbf]

I don't have a driver's license. I had to let my copy expire 6 years ago because I couldn't afford the $30 to re-new it.

 

Besides, I doubt any regular driver's license will cut it anyway if you are referring to construction vehicles. I don't know what kind of training that needs or how much it costs but I'm confident it's not free by a long shot.

 

And that's my biggest problem: I don't have a dime to my name, in any way, shape, and form. Any money I do have, I got off of my brothers that lived here with me.

Rather than automatically say you can't, why not find out? Jurisdictional differences will apply.

 

Within my jurisdiction, all you need is the normal driver's license to drive construction vehicles, as long as any trailers or pups dragged, weigh less than 4600 kilos.

 

If this means a good paying job, I suspect you could borrow enough to cover the cost of retest and license.

[jma500]

An arrogant statement reflecting no knowledge of what is going on out there. It's bad. Moreover, some fields have been in the equivalent of a depression economy since 2008. Most fields require some experience to even get in the door. Employers are refusing to hire people who aren't already employed. Many people have given up looking entirely, which falsely inflates employed numbers. Our whole employment measurement stats are skewed in govt's favor to make things look better than they are. Our true unemployment rate now? Likely 15-20%.

 

So very, very true.

[kaylan]

Ive never heard of a no tatoo policy. Many people have them in various professions. Ive only heard of no VISIBLE tattoo policies.

 

I can cover my sleeve tattoo and chest piece easily with a nice dress shirt. No biggie.

[jma500]

For people who are still struggling to find jobs, have you considered relocating to less depressed or recessed areas?

 

I live in RI. I also look in Ma. (I could take the commuter train) and in CT but inside a reasonable distance. All my family, friends, and photo arts group is in RI.

[ltjg45]

Rather than automatically say you can't, why not find out? Jurisdictional differences will apply.

 

Within my jurisdiction, all you need is the normal driver's license to drive construction vehicles, as long as any trailers or pups dragged, weigh less than 4600 kilos.

 

If this means a good paying job, I suspect you could borrow enough to cover the cost of retest and license.

 

I will look into it but there is still obstacles in my way:

1. Since I gave up my Driver's License years ago, I'm sure I will be forced to re-take the Driver Ed. test to get it back. I don't know if that means additional costs right there or whether or not I'm capable of driving without training after not driving since high school 9 years ago.

2. I have to find a person that I can borrow money from. I don't have anyone and my credit is pretty bad so asking for a loan from a bank or even from a cash advance station is out of the question.

 

So I got almost everything working against me to the point where fighting for retail jobs is the best I can get unless I find a lot of people (and fast) who has money that they can loan.

 

I been thinking about other options for a long time. If there was any other viable way to tackle this issue, I would be all over it.

[PhillyDude]

Please post your studies, I would like to read them. And having tattoos make you less attractive ? I respectfully disagree. And yes, the employers who have a "no tattoo policy" come right out and say so, in the qualifications and job description, but as I stated, only profession I have seen this in is Law Enforcement. So you can read the minds of those who interview you ? Subliminal messages ? Wow I really thought I have read everything. What makes a better candidate ? Someone who is educated, tattooed, experienced, well spoken, knowledgable about his/her job and what it entails or someone who mumbles in his/her interview, but has the educational credentials to get the job?

 

 

Tattoos should never be on the

 

neck

face

hand

lower arm

 

 

They should always be on

 

the back

thigh

foot

shoulder

 

 

The End

[outsidethebox]

Tattoos should never be on the

 

neck

face

hand

lower arm

 

 

They should always be on

 

the back

thigh

foot

shoulder

 

 

The End

 

I'm not sure you're aware of this, but your end is serving double duty.

[PhillyDude]

Face and neck I agree with. But where a person wants to put there ink is up to them. Not up to you. Anyway this thread is not about tattoos. So I am done talking about them.

 

 

If they want a job then they would follow that advice

[kaylan]

Oh gosh kaylan... really? Because you know the ins and outs of the way our relationship functions. I'll try my best...

Honey I dont need to know the ins and outs. Ive seen situations like this come and go. Youre relationship isnt unique.

Struggling to get by on a Walmart salary? He makes OK money, actually brought in about 27k last year, which while isn't a LOT of money, is definitely livable. Who are you to say he doesn't have his life together? So because he works at a place that people deem "low" and he is still working on his college education makes him not have his life together? You see the relationship failing? Based on what? 26 huh? So you are only 3 years older, don't act so high and mighty kaylan, it is unflattering, not to mention pompous.

27K is ok money? Id say anything over 30 or 35K is "ok" money. Anything less is rather meager and leaves you scraping to get by, especially in a large city. I grew up in a household living on not much money...so I know the stress it causes. Especially if hes gotta worry about you and not just himself now. Nvm the fact that Walmart is a typically crappy employer with poor benefits and poor job security. Its even worse if hes not salaried and is hourly. Which makes his pay not a guarantee.

 

And no he doesnt have his life together. Hes poor at 32 and still in college. Hes getting his life together, but it doesnt seem entirely together yet. Most people can see that. And its not together if hes taking people into his home before getting himself set straight.

 

And you may think 3 years is a little, but talk to me again when you are 26. A lot of growing up, maturing, and growing into the person youll be happens from the ages of 18 to 25. And lets be real. Im not the first person to tell you some of the things Im saying. The older 30 and 40 somethings have given you the same warnings about your bf. You always leave out little details though. I cant imagine what theyd have told you if more of them knew hes still in school, works at Walmart, and wanted you to live with him.

 

So my age is the mere reason he is dating me? You can say that but ultimately he has been with women who were even older. Sure, the fact that we are in similar stages in life helps the relationship, he doesn't talk down to me like I am a child, which is exactly something you seem to do. I value that.

I didnt say your age was the only reason. It is definitely apart of it though. Any honest older man will tell you that guys their age put young women like you on a pedestal and feel like theyve lucked out if they can snag you. Your age matters here because its rare that he will have something in common with most women his age. Most quality women his age will have established careers and would look him over. So of course he looks better to a young college aged girl whos got no education or career yet herself.

 

I seem like I am talking down to you because you refuse to understand why people think you are being naive. Ive been where you are. And trust me, if you were on your feet, you wouldnt even be looking this guys way. But tbh, I find it kinda off-putting that you are living with this guy before he gets himself together. He doesnt need to worry about someone else being taken care of. If youre under his roof, he is responsible for you. Simple as that.

 

Both of our status' in life will make it difficult? What makes you think this is the end all? Keep talking about status because he works at walmart, but another thing I value about him is that fact that he handles his money well. He lives off of an ok budget, and manages to save at the same time. He is a smart man kaylan, I don't know what made you automatically assume that he is struggling in life. He has his own place, pays all his bills, pays for his own schooling, and still manages to be able to take me out every once in a while. I don't see things getting difficult what so ever. Wouldnt you agree that a man who is smart with his earnings already is in the right place?

Status will always matter in life. Money is how you get by and provide for yourself and others. Its not the end all be all, but its definitely something thats needed to get by in life.

 

Sure he might budget well, shes he might not be struggling. But a smart man whos been rock-bottom before, would know better than to let some girl he barely knows live with him before he has all his ducks set in a row. Especially with his salary being the only salary in the household. Good luck being taken out anymore now that youre living there.

 

And by god, he is in no way responsible for me. No idea where you got that from. He is being emotionally supportive, but as you failed to notice, I happened to also be smart before I lost my job and have a pretty good nest egg. I pay my share of the rent, pay half the groceries, still manage to pay my bills and it is more than enough to support myself for a few months.

You live under his roof, so yes hes responsible for you. Are you working full time? If not, hes responsible for you. Sure you contribute, but what happens when savings run out? Ive been there hun. Savings only go so far, and theres no guarantee that youll find a job thatll right away or a good one. You have a few months worth of savings....um ok...depending on where you live, that can be gone quick with no job to fall back on.

 

Here you go again judging and having no idea what you are talking about. I don't know who he truly is? Please tell me kaylan, tell me where the line that divides the black and white lies? When will I be able to say that I know who he is? We have spent the entire last 5 months of our relationship inseperable. More time than some couples spend together in the first year. Sure, there could be some things that I will learn about him, but how dare you say that I have no idea who he truly is. We have REALLY been living together for 5 months. It hasn't been peachy constantly... but it has been pretty damn awesome. I've been without work for a month now, I would say that is a pretty big rough patch to work through, and he has been nothing but supportive and understanding. THAT is something I value more than status in a man as well.

Again. 5 months is NOTHING. Anyone with relationship experience will tell you that. Peoples true colors and true self rarely come out before the honeymoon stage is over. Talk to me again in a year. And yes, plenty of couples spend as much time together that you guys have. Ive seen them crash and burn as well from rushing things. Youre not being realistic here, but overly idealistic. Im not saying you guys will fail...Im saying its a possibility...and youre getting mad about it. Rushing isnt good...especially not the way you guys have done it. And Im the kind of rushing here. Been there, done that.

 

Him making a poor choice? That right there is what proved to me you are talking straight out of your ass. I think I have clarified that he is more than capable of taking care of himself, and that his life is in fact... in order.

His alcoholism almost killed him, and for 2.5 years he has not only battled and conquered a DISEASE but has also made a better life for himself. I am so proud and blessed to have him. Poor decisions my ass, he is a man who overcame a disease that takes many and has a life now where he is going to end up being someone rather than dead. The best part? The fact that he doesn't look back and wallow in it. He looks to the future, totally understands that this suckiness of working this hard to live and pay his way through school is all temporary, just as I know my situation is. So tell me, how does he not have his own life together? What more should I have expected from him?

If he was so good at choice making, he would have more foresight about rushing a relationship and letting a young girl live with him who has no job. And trust me, hes a man, so he will feel responsible for you.

 

Getting on your feet? Where do you get this **** from? How is he "getting on his feet"... my man is already standing strong, not to mention walking in the direction he wants his life to go. You got your **** together and went to school at 20/21, good for you, I got a late start and am doing the same thing. He got a late start as well. But by god, not only is he in school, but he is working towards something he is passionate about. You wouldn't know this, because you don't know him, but he happens to be an extremely intelligent man and was actually just accepted into a study abroad program through university. He also plans on getting a masters believe it or not, and he works hard, taking care of himself and his body, and his schooling. How is that NOT a man who has his **** together? Because he isn't in his career job yet? Because he is 31 and just 3 years ago got his life on track? Tear apart our relationship and him all you want but I can't think of anyone more STABLE. Stable doesn't always mean wealthy. Stable is more SMART.

Poor and rushed decisions... I will state again. You have NO idea what you are talking about.

Lmao...study abroad? Lets see your relationship survive that. I already told you my feelings about Walmart. Good on him for working and getting back on his feet some...but Walmart is hardly stable or secure. Nor will your relationship be stable or secure if hes going to another country. Good luck with that.

 

Here it is again, the assumption that just because I lost my job means that he obviously takes care of me entirely.

Then there is the fatherly tone again, how old do you think I am kaylan? Schools expensive? THANK GOD YOU TOLD ME, I would have never figured out ways to get financial aid, I should go tell him... Or not.

I may be a woman who is in love with a man who works at walmart, but I am not an idiot.

how the eff do you think I pay for school? I work the corner?

BTW, he isn't qualified for financial aid. Why? He makes too much money.

You are under his roof, and had no where else to go. Thereby he takes care of you and is responsible for you. Its like kids who live at home as adults. Just because they contribute doesnt mean their parents arent still partly responsible for them.

 

I cant wait to see your threads when the honeymoon phase is over and the rose tinted glasses come off. Maybe youll prove me wrong though. But Im rarely wrong in these assessments.

You may not think so, but you aren't the only intelligent person on this forum. You are 3 years older and I sort of pity you. You seem bitter and honestly jealous.

Jealous of your situation? Sorry, I wouldnt want to be living with a 32 yr old woman, myself having no job, with only a few months savings, while she nor I have our ducks in a row yet. Im glad where I am. Im realistic and practical about things. Love is good and all, but you also have to be logical. You seem to be getting rather emotional that I look at this in a very practical and logical manner.

 

I think of worst case scenarios through a realists eyes, and how to avoid conflict. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best. Im all about preparation nowadays. I dont quickly jump head first into situations anymore, as Ive learned thats not the best way to success. 3 years can teach you that. Talk to me then.

[PhillyDude]

Honey I dont need to know the ins and outs. Ive seen situations like this come and go. Youre relationship isnt unique.

 

27K is ok money? Id say anything over 30 or 35K is "ok" money. Anything less is rather meager and leaves you scraping to get by, especially in a large city. I grew up in a household living on not much money...so I know the stress it causes. Especially if hes gotta worry about you and not just himself now. Nvm the fact that Walmart is a typically crappy employer with poor benefits and poor job security. Its even worse if hes not salaried and is hourly. Which makes his pay not a guarantee.

 

And no he doesnt have his life together. Hes poor at 32 and still in college. Hes getting his life together, but it doesnt seem entirely together yet. Most people can see that. And its not together if hes taking people into his home before getting himself set straight.

 

And you may think 3 years is a little, but talk to me again when you are 26. A lot of growing up, maturing, and growing into the person youll be happens from the ages of 18 to 25. And lets be real. Im not the first person to tell you some of the things Im saying. The older 30 and 40 somethings have given you the same warnings about your bf. You always leave out little details though. I cant imagine what theyd have told you if more of them knew hes still in school, works at Walmart, and wanted you to live with him.

 

I didnt say your age was the only reason. It is definitely apart of it though. Any honest older man will tell you that guys their age put young women like you on a pedestal and feel like theyve lucked out if they can snag you. Your age matters here because its rare that he will have something in common with most women his age. Most quality women his age will have established careers and would look him over. So of course he looks better to a young college aged girl whos got no education or career yet herself.

 

I seem like I am talking down to you because you refuse to understand why people think you are being naive. Ive been where you are. And trust me, if you were on your feet, you wouldnt even be looking this guys way. But tbh, I find it kinda off-putting that you are living with this guy before he gets himself together. He doesnt need to worry about someone else being taken care of. If youre under his roof, he is responsible for you. Simple as that.

 

Status will always matter in life. Money is how you get by and provide for yourself and others. Its not the end all be all, but its definitely something thats needed to get by in life.

 

Sure he might budget well, shes he might not be struggling. But a smart man whos been rock-bottom before, would know better than to let some girl he barely knows live with him before he has all his ducks set in a row. Especially with his salary being the only salary in the household. Good luck being taken out anymore now that youre living there.

 

You live under his roof, so yes hes responsible for you. Are you working full time? If not, hes responsible for you. Sure you contribute, but what happens when savings run out? Ive been there hun. Savings only go so far, and theres no guarantee that youll find a job thatll right away or a good one. You have a few months worth of savings....um ok...depending on where you live, that can be gone quick with no job to fall back on.

 

Again. 5 months is NOTHING. Anyone with relationship experience will tell you that. Peoples true colors and true self rarely come out before the honeymoon stage is over. Talk to me again in a year. And yes, plenty of couples spend as much time together that you guys have. Ive seen them crash and burn as well from rushing things. Youre not being realistic here, but overly idealistic. Im not saying you guys will fail...Im saying its a possibility...and youre getting mad about it. Rushing isnt good...especially not the way you guys have done it. And Im the kind of rushing here. Been there, done that.

 

If he was so good at choice making, he would have more foresight about rushing a relationship and letting a young girl live with him who has no job. And trust me, hes a man, so he will feel responsible for you.

 

Lmao...study abroad? Lets see your relationship survive that. I already told you my feelings about Walmart. Good on him for working and getting back on his feet some...but Walmart is hardly stable or secure. Nor will your relationship be stable or secure if hes going to another country. Good luck with that.

 

You are under his roof, and had no where else to go. Thereby he takes care of you and is responsible for you. Its like kids who live at home as adults. Just because they contribute doesnt mean their parents arent still partly responsible for them.

 

I cant wait to see your threads when the honeymoon phase is over and the rose tinted glasses come off. Maybe youll prove me wrong though. But Im rarely wrong in these assessments.

 

Jealous of your situation? Sorry, I wouldnt want to be living with a 32 yr old woman, myself having no job, with only a few months savings, while she nor I have our ducks in a row yet. Im glad where I am. Im realistic and practical about things. Love is good and all, but you also have to be logical. You seem to be getting rather emotional that I look at this in a very practical and logical manner.

 

I think of worst case scenarios through a realists eyes, and how to avoid conflict. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best. Im all about preparation nowadays. I dont quickly jump head first into situations anymore, as Ive learned thats not the best way to success. 3 years can teach you that. Talk to me then.

 

 

60K is considered OK money in 2013 LOL

[kaylan]

Accepting a low wage is fine. Im more concerned about her rushing a relationship, and rushing to move in with a guy while they dont have much salary to live on.

[xxoo]

Accepting a low wage is fine. Im more concerned about her rushing a relationship, and rushing to move in with a guy while they dont have much salary to live on.

 

They've got to live somewhere. Sharing resources saves them both money.

 

I wouldn't encourage living together that early, but that's their choice, and they seem pretty happy. Maybe it will last, maybe it won't....but as long as they don't get pregnant or get married, what is the big concern?

[fortyninethousand322]

For people who are still struggling to find jobs, have you considered relocating to less depressed or recessed areas?

 

I live in the DMV, not too many places better than that. At least according to all the stats...

[fortyninethousand322]

I think it's fine if a woman is willing to stick with a guy even though he doesn't have much money.

 

Guys without money are usually cool guys. Guys with money are usually the "uncool" guys (nerds, engineers, software geeks, etc.). So the money makes up for their lack of coolness. It's a pretty even exchange, like strength for speed.

[kaylan]

They've got to live somewhere. Sharing resources saves them both money.

 

I wouldn't encourage living together that early, but that's their choice, and they seem pretty happy. Maybe it will last, maybe it won't....but as long as they don't get pregnant or get married, what is the big concern?

No big concern. Its not my life. Just sharing an opinion. And lol...pregnancy would be terrible. But ive seen it happen in these situations and wouldnt be much surprised.

Somehow that didn't come through amidst all your talk of money.

 

But more importantly, she is a grown-up, you are not her father, and she didn't ask for your advice.

Think of it as added advice on top of her past threads asking about what to do regarding that relationship. Im not her father...but this is a relationship forum...and when you make your business known, people will voice an opinion.

 

PS - Strong WKing lol

[jma500]

They are happy together and that matters so much more than anything else in this world. We should wish them all the happiness in the world and hope for the success of their relationship in the long term. Advice given when unsolicited is advice seldom heeded especially when incorrect.

Edited March 17, 2013 by jma500

[kaylan]

They are happy together and that matters so much more than anything else in this world. We should wish them all the happiness in the world and hope for the success of their relationship in the long term. Advice given when unsolicited is advice seldom heeded especially when incorrect.

Its just updated advice since OP conveniently left out certain facts when she first presented her situation to the rest of us here. Sure I wish everyone the best, but I can only be a realist.

[miss_jaclynrae]

Honey I dont need to know the ins and outs. Ive seen situations like this come and go. Youre relationship isnt unique.

 

27K is ok money? Id say anything over 30 or 35K is "ok" money. Anything less is rather meager and leaves you scraping to get by, especially in a large city. I grew up in a household living on not much money...so I know the stress it causes. Especially if hes gotta worry about you and not just himself now. Nvm the fact that Walmart is a typically crappy employer with poor benefits and poor job security. Its even worse if hes not salaried and is hourly. Which makes his pay not a guarantee.

 

And no he doesnt have his life together. Hes poor at 32 and still in college. Hes getting his life together, but it doesnt seem entirely together yet. Most people can see that. And its not together if hes taking people into his home before getting himself set straight.

 

And you may think 3 years is a little, but talk to me again when you are 26. A lot of growing up, maturing, and growing into the person youll be happens from the ages of 18 to 25. And lets be real. Im not the first person to tell you some of the things Im saying. The older 30 and 40 somethings have given you the same warnings about your bf. You always leave out little details though. I cant imagine what theyd have told you if more of them knew hes still in school, works at Walmart, and wanted you to live with him.

 

I didnt say your age was the only reason. It is definitely apart of it though. Any honest older man will tell you that guys their age put young women like you on a pedestal and feel like theyve lucked out if they can snag you. Your age matters here because its rare that he will have something in common with most women his age. Most quality women his age will have established careers and would look him over. So of course he looks better to a young college aged girl whos got no education or career yet herself.

 

I seem like I am talking down to you because you refuse to understand why people think you are being naive. Ive been where you are. And trust me, if you were on your feet, you wouldnt even be looking this guys way. But tbh, I find it kinda off-putting that you are living with this guy before he gets himself together. He doesnt need to worry about someone else being taken care of. If youre under his roof, he is responsible for you. Simple as that.

 

Status will always matter in life. Money is how you get by and provide for yourself and others. Its not the end all be all, but its definitely something thats needed to get by in life.

 

Sure he might budget well, shes he might not be struggling. But a smart man whos been rock-bottom before, would know better than to let some girl he barely knows live with him before he has all his ducks set in a row. Especially with his salary being the only salary in the household. Good luck being taken out anymore now that youre living there.

 

You live under his roof, so yes hes responsible for you. Are you working full time? If not, hes responsible for you. Sure you contribute, but what happens when savings run out? Ive been there hun. Savings only go so far, and theres no guarantee that youll find a job thatll right away or a good one. You have a few months worth of savings....um ok...depending on where you live, that can be gone quick with no job to fall back on.

 

Again. 5 months is NOTHING. Anyone with relationship experience will tell you that. Peoples true colors and true self rarely come out before the honeymoon stage is over. Talk to me again in a year. And yes, plenty of couples spend as much time together that you guys have. Ive seen them crash and burn as well from rushing things. Youre not being realistic here, but overly idealistic. Im not saying you guys will fail...Im saying its a possibility...and youre getting mad about it. Rushing isnt good...especially not the way you guys have done it. And Im the kind of rushing here. Been there, done that.

 

If he was so good at choice making, he would have more foresight about rushing a relationship and letting a young girl live with him who has no job. And trust me, hes a man, so he will feel responsible for you.

 

Lmao...study abroad? Lets see your relationship survive that. I already told you my feelings about Walmart. Good on him for working and getting back on his feet some...but Walmart is hardly stable or secure. Nor will your relationship be stable or secure if hes going to another country. Good luck with that.

 

You are under his roof, and had no where else to go. Thereby he takes care of you and is responsible for you. Its like kids who live at home as adults. Just because they contribute doesnt mean their parents arent still partly responsible for them.

 

I cant wait to see your threads when the honeymoon phase is over and the rose tinted glasses come off. Maybe youll prove me wrong though. But Im rarely wrong in these assessments.

 

Jealous of your situation? Sorry, I wouldnt want to be living with a 32 yr old woman, myself having no job, with only a few months savings, while she nor I have our ducks in a row yet. Im glad where I am. Im realistic and practical about things. Love is good and all, but you also have to be logical. You seem to be getting rather emotional that I look at this in a very practical and logical manner.

 

I think of worst case scenarios through a realists eyes, and how to avoid conflict. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best. Im all about preparation nowadays. I dont quickly jump head first into situations anymore, as Ive learned thats not the best way to success. 3 years can teach you that. Talk to me then.

 

 

 

You didn't even read half the things I said. Whatever though, you must be right, it seems as if all mighty Kaylan knows all and can do no wrong. It's no wonder you are single, you are a straight up douche bag. I don't know how much more clear I can make things but with you it's like beating a dead horse.

 

 

Just stay out of my relationship. You obviously understand NOTHING about it.

Edited March 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[kaylan]

Its just updated advice since she conveniently left out certain facts when she first presented her situation to the rest of us here. Sure I wish everyone the best, but I can only be a realist.

meant to say she, not OP

[miss_jaclynrae]

Not to mention Kaylan... Everything you said is weong. Glad to know you THINK you are an expert on my life though.

[miss_jaclynrae]

Its just updated advice since OP conveniently left out certain facts when she first presented her situation to the rest of us here. Sure I wish everyone the best, but I can only be a realist.

Certain fact?!? Wtf are you talking about??!?

 

 

 

Seriously. YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.

[kaylan]

 

You didn't even read half the things I said. Whatever though, you must be right, it seems as if all mighty Kaylan knows all and can do no wrong. It's no wonder you are single, you are a straight up douche bag. I don't know how much more clear I can make things but with you it's like beating a dead horse.

I read everything you said. Its just that none of what you said changes my opinion on the matter. The same way everything I said goes in and out of your ear, is the same way anything Ninja said went in and out of your ear. Basically, if we didnt agree with you and rain sunshine down upon you, you didnt want to hear it.

 

Ill be a douche bag, its pretty fun. Its hilarious how butt hurt folks get over honest opinions.

Just stay out of my relationship. You obviously understand NOTHING about it.

I understand enough. You just dont like honest opinions. God forbid someone not tell you itll all end in love and gumdrops. Again I say, hit us up with a new thread in a year. I can see why you left out the uneducated and Walmart part out of your threads regarding your bf. Clearly you didnt want us here discussing that.

 

But its good that money doesnt matter to you. Im not telling you it should. I would just rather a dude get on his feet before trying to play savior for some chick he met not too long ago. Remember when you blasted me for supposedly having no relationship experience and wanting to share my opinion in another thread? Well this is me blasting you for barely having any relationship experience with a guy who hasnt shown much career seriousness until 30.

 

xD

Edited March 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[jma500]

Its just updated advice since OP conveniently left out certain facts when she first presented her situation to the rest of us here. Sure I wish everyone the best, but I can only be a realist.

 

Those that call themselves realists are actually pessimists. I know as i used to be a realist myself. I am now an optimist.

[kaylan]

Those that call themselves realists are actually pessimists. I know as i used to be a realist myself. I am now an optimist.

Im not a pessimist dude. I wish for the best, but I can acknowledge when theres a strong possibility of not so good things happening. I see strong signs of that here. But I told this chick that I give props to her dude. Still think they are rushing things. But meh...*kanye shrug*