miss_jaclynrae Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 The whole point of being a couple [at least when things are serious] is to grow and work together as a team. I am just as invested in what my significant other does as much as my own work. I would expect things to be the same for him.
tbf Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Why does a woman want a man that's "Serious" about his career? Because it proves he's a consistent closer, who's competent and confident about his direction in life. A guy who's all over the place, uncertain where he wants to go in life, uncertain what he wants in life, will be all over the place when it comes to his emotional landscape. For myself personally, since career has been a huge focus in my life, it was important to find someone who understood the demands of a career. 2
Author irc333 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 I refuse to be with a guy who isn't capable of financially supporting himself (I can financially support myself, and do), but other than that, I don't give a **** what he feels about his job. <---woman Exactly...I mean, what is she going to do, come over to my workplace to evaluate ME as well?
Author irc333 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 Short answer? Because I'm very serious about mine and would have a hard time respecting someone who isn't. To me, someone who bounces from job to job, career to career, and doesn't really give a sh-t that they're working entry-level jobs when they could've accomplished more if they had been more serious about it likely has problems with focus and dedication. Actually, that's how it is in the real world, with this economy, no one will be staying with the SAME company for 20 years and retire with a pension. It was that way in the 80's maybe the 90's. NOT gonna happen.....going to be A LOT of job hoppers these days. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 What's the big deal? Why does she care about what he does on his job? Figured she'd be more concerned about he own job than her mates, right? The answer is simple, they want someone who gives a crap about something. Out side If sleeping, most people spend more time working than they do anything else. If you don't care about the thing you do the most, what are the chances your going to really care about anything else. 2
xxoo Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 The answer is simple, they want someone who gives a crap about something. Out side If sleeping, most people spend more time working than they do anything else. If you don't care about the thing you do the most, what are the chances your going to really care about anything else. Agreed, it is tied in with being a passionate, motivated person overall. People who live life fully are more attractive than people who watch life move past them. 2
ltjg45 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 The answer is simple, they want someone who gives a crap about something. Out side If sleeping, most people spend more time working than they do anything else. If you don't care about the thing you do the most, what are the chances your going to really care about anything else. That is starting to be a luxury these days. Jobs is not easy to find, they are not easy to acquire, the competition is getting really stiff and, to make things worse, the hiring managers can easily be your biggest enemy in the end. I hasn't worked in 4 years and I been filling out every job application I can find during that time frame. This job here has got me to call back for a possible interview after telling me to appear in person for an interview 2 days out of the last 3. I wonder if they will tell me to call back in another 2-3 days again once I call them tomorrow. I'm getting this from 3 places right now and there are nothing more than entry-level jobs. I'm disturbed jobs that only give you $300 every 2 weeks is this difficult to acquire. What in the hell is wrong with this economy if a job at McDonald's is now a luxury you will be lucky to get? I'm getting a bit annoyed I'm walking around in my interview outfit and have to wash them again because the "interview" got pushed back again. Apparently hiring managers think washing clothing like this is "free".
soccerrprp Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 (edited) Agreed, it is tied in with being a passionate, motivated person overall. People who live life fully are more attractive than people who watch life move past them. people who really "like/love" their jobs are fortunate, more stable and better partners. BUT, if the word SERIOUS is used I'm guessing she doesn't necessarily care if you're happy about it. Rather, you have a good job and are stable. Edited March 15, 2013 by soccerrprp 1
Desensitized Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Women are attracted to status. That is why. If you aren't high up the food chain, you have to present yourself as a high status male. It assures her that you are able to be a provider (a very primitive notion).
ltjg45 Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Women are attracted to status. That is why. If you aren't high up the food chain, you have to present yourself as a high status male. It assures her that you are able to be a provider (a very primitive notion). It makes no sense that women are attracted to status when women these days is making more on average than males is in this economy. Males these days are quite expandable. All of these high-end women is fighting for the few remaining high-end men left, if they are any even remaining. The rest of us probably won't get there because the females has the initial advantage. I got no issues with how society works but I do when women keeping asking for the one thing from males that the females has more control to change than the males actually do.
xxoo Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 It makes no sense that women are attracted to status when women these days is making more on average than males is in this economy. Males these days are quite expandable. All of these high-end women is fighting for the few remaining high-end men left, if they are any even remaining. The rest of us probably won't get there because the females has the initial advantage. I got no issues with how society works but I do when women keeping asking for the one thing from males that the females has more control to change than the males actually do. People are attracted to what they are attracted to. People (men and women) are attracted to fit, healthy bodies. That hasn't changed because 50%+ of adults are overweight. Similarly, people don't become less attracted to status in a poor economy. If anything, it may make status even more attractive. 2
ltjg45 Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 People are attracted to what they are attracted to. People (men and women) are attracted to fit, healthy bodies. That hasn't changed because 50%+ of adults are overweight. Similarly, people don't become less attracted to status in a poor economy. If anything, it may make status even more attractive. That isn't what I meant. What I mean is that women's expectations is getting very unrealistic. I don't fault them for wanting that. It's when that is the only thing they actually want and then you see them complaining that there is no good men left. It's like some of them just doesn't pay attention to how society actually works anymore.
xxoo Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 That isn't what I meant. What I mean is that women's expectations is getting very unrealistic. I don't fault them for wanting that. It's when that is the only thing they actually want and then you see them complaining that there is no good men left. It's like some of them just doesn't pay attention to how society actually works anymore. The good news is, when a woman falls for a guy, the shopping list of wants goes out the window. Status is just one of many ways to attract a woman. Broke people fall hopelessly in love, too. 3
Forever Learning Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 The answer is simple, they want someone who gives a crap about something. Out side If sleeping, most people spend more time working than they do anything else. If you don't care about the thing you do the most, what are the chances your going to really care about anything else. Agreed, it is tied in with being a passionate, motivated person overall. People who live life fully are more attractive than people who watch life move past them. People are attracted to what they are attracted to. People (men and women) are attracted to fit, healthy bodies. That hasn't changed because 50%+ of adults are overweight. Similarly, people don't become less attracted to status in a poor economy. If anything, it may make status even more attractive. Great advice, I have to agree. No one is attracted to a sloth and under achieving couch potato.
ltjg45 Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 The good news is, when a woman falls for a guy, the shopping list of wants goes out the window. Status is just one of many ways to attract a woman. Broke people fall hopelessly in love, too. That makes no sense. How can you get women if you don't have status? Even if you have status and then lose it, are you telling me the woman is not going to bolt because of that? I find that highly unlikely. Something's foul and it's certainly not me, for once. It's like you are telling me that I, a guy who can't get a job at McDonald's even if my life depends on it, can attract and keep a woman. Come on now. I know women can be desperate but THAT desperate? If that happens to me, I wonder what her real motive for being with me is.
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 What's the big deal? Why does she care about what he does on his job? Figured she'd be more concerned about he own job than her mates, right? It's because some woman not all think they have a "golden vagina" and can request whatever lol
Sanitarium Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Dumb thread. Women want a man who is a stable and consistent earner so he can provide for her kids in the future, common sense
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I want to know why some woman expect a "PERFECT LIFE"
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 So wait a minute, a woman wants a man who is Financially stable Emotionally stable Tall Handsome Considerate Good in Bed Good Credit Guy who loves his job Guy who drives Guy who lives alone Guy who doesn't cheat Where is she going to find all of that? LOL
sweetjasmine Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Actually, that's how it is in the real world, with this economy, no one will be staying with the SAME company for 20 years and retire with a pension. It was that way in the 80's maybe the 90's. NOT gonna happen.....going to be A LOT of job hoppers these days. I'm not talking about staying with the same company for 20 years. I'm not even necessarily talking about staying in the same exact career path for 20 years. I'm talking about having the ambition, dedication, drive, and focus to actually succeed in a career instead of floating around here and there doing odd things and being "meh" about it all. I'm an overachiever going from one demanding career to another. I'm attracted to people who share those kinds of traits and values. It's really not that hard to understand.
Author irc333 Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 People who live life fully are more attractive than people who watch life move past them. Ah, I see....so that's why I keep seeing, in dating profiles, "I like to live life to the fullest!" or "I don't sweat the small stuff" or "I can wear a little black dress for an evening gala, to a pair of jeans, T-shirt, and an old ball cap outside!"
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 So wait a minute, a woman wants a man who is Financially stable Emotionally stable Tall Handsome Considerate Good in Bed Good Credit Guy who loves his job Guy who drives Guy who lives alone Guy who doesn't cheat Where is she going to find all of that? LOL It isn't always about having all of that now... My boyfriend doesn't have very good credit, and hates his job. He works at Walmart actually. Now if he had no plans to get out, the. I probably wouldn't be with him. He does though, he goes to school full time and is Planning on becoming a French professor. That job in itself doesn't make as much money as some other career choices, but he is passionate about it and ultimately we could have a pretty comfortable life down the road, as well as he would be a happier man.
Radu Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 It makes no sense that women are attracted to status when women these days is making more on average than males is in this economy. Males these days are quite expandable. All of these high-end women is fighting for the few remaining high-end men left, if they are any even remaining. The rest of us probably won't get there because the females has the initial advantage. I got no issues with how society works but I do when women keeping asking for the one thing from males that the females has more control to change than the males actually do. Just because feminism has bashed sense in some of the ares of society, doesn't mean that they have now or will ever have the power to change what is within our being, what we instinctively feel. The way around this that i have seen some smart women adopt is to stop identifying masculinity with 'provider'. Provider went out the window when women joined the workforce and the blue collar jobs went to Asia when the plants were moved. Unfortunately you are right, the men were the hardest hit in this economy because those were mostly in technical/mechanical jobs and they did not have a massive lobby to back them up. So find a woman who understands this. They are tougher to find, but they are still out there. At the same time, see what kind of free or dirt-cheap classes you can take to get yourself in another field of work. What many of the women who posted here have kept saying is that they want a guy who constantly tries to improve himself, adapt himself and who wants to go somewhere.
Radu Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 That makes no sense. How can you get women if you don't have status? Even if you have status and then lose it, are you telling me the woman is not going to bolt because of that? I find that highly unlikely. Something's foul and it's certainly not me, for once. It's like you are telling me that I, a guy who can't get a job at McDonald's even if my life depends on it, can attract and keep a woman. Come on now. I know women can be desperate but THAT desperate? If that happens to me, I wonder what her real motive for being with me is. Obviously you've never seen a hottie with a druggie loser. Not fair comparison, it all boils down to 'be motivated'. Be proactive.
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Ah, I see....so that's why I keep seeing, in dating profiles, "I like to live life to the fullest!" or "I don't sweat the small stuff" or "I can wear a little black dress for an evening gala, to a pair of jeans, T-shirt, and an old ball cap outside!" And that is what you call a FAKE profile
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