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If you are in a car with your significant other and their friend or family is driving, is it rude for them to sit in the front and leave you by yourself in the backseat? I was just wondering because I had always seen couples opting to sit together even with the front seat being available, and when the guy I was up until recently dating did this and I asked him why he wasn't in the back with me, he told me his brother wasn't a taxi cab driver. Was he just being an a-hole? Am I wrong in thinking he should have been sitting in back with me?

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Talk about being insecure to the HILT lol are you serious?? Swich places with me and my dating ventures and you'd of offed yourself many years ago :(. Grow up and stop worrying about such childish bullshyt seriously...

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Talk about being insecure to the HILT lol are you serious?? Swich places with me and my dating ventures and you'd of offed yourself many years ago :(. Grow up and stop worrying about such childish bullshyt seriously...

Are YOU serious? You don't have adult patience and politeness to answer me respectfully and empathetically despite the fact that you disagree? You grow up, and practice the golden rule.

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You know - I actually googled this:

 

If you are connected to the driver (Wife, fiancée GF) then you should automatically take the front seat by them, unless you take the initiative and offer them the front seat.

 

If you are the other passenger's partner, if you're female, chances are you will automatically be offered a back seat.

And it seems it's a subliminal protective gesture.

It puts you behind them and shielded from danger (and actually, providing you wear a belt, chances are in an accident, you will be better off. )

 

There is also the practicality of men usually having longer legs or being taller, and needing the footwell in the front.

 

I can see your BF's point.

 

I'm sure he didn't do it to slight you, but from his perspective, it just seemed a natural thing for him to sit next to his bro'....

 

I have to say, if my H and I are given a lift anywhere, I'm always happy to sit in the back....

We went on a nearly-two-hour car journey the other day, in this very situation...I listened to my own music on my headphones, played card games on my phone, and did not have to sit there listening to them drone on about 'the game'.....! :D

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Are YOU serious? You don't have adult patience and politeness to answer me respectfully and empathetically despite the fact that you disagree? You grow up, and practice the golden rule.

 

I'm sorry if my response was OTT but listen to what you're saying. How is he leaving you by yourself when he's 2-3 feet away in the same car?

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If you are in a car with your significant other and their friend or family is driving, is it rude for them to sit in the front and leave you by yourself in the backseat? I was just wondering because I had always seen couples opting to sit together even with the front seat being available, and when the guy I was up until recently dating did this and I asked him why he wasn't in the back with me, he told me his brother wasn't a taxi cab driver. Was he just being an a-hole? Am I wrong in thinking he should have been sitting in back with me?

 

If the front seat is open someone should be in it, he is right about not being a taxi driver.

 

as to who should sit there, it depends on up bringing. As a guy, I was raised to always offer the front seat to women, as it has a better view and more space to get comfortable. Additionally, I Learned to give precedence to age. In other words if it's me, my gf, and my grandmother, the order of dibs is grandmother, gf, me.

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I would feel more awkward if someone was giving us a ride and my husband and I both got in the backseat. To me, it treats the driver too much like they're your personal chauffeur (or cab driver, as your boyfriend said).

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What he did was entirely appropriate.

 

Even if it weren't, you have to learn to pick your battles. If everything results in outrage and argument, you won't be able to sustain your relationships for very long.

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I see nothing wrong with it. If my sister were driving me and my BF, I'd sit up front and leave the backseat to him. Like others (and your BF) have said, I think it would be awkward w/ both of us in the back, as though my sister were a chauffeur.

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I would much prefer sitting in the backseat. This way I can play games on my phone. :laugh:

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This is one of the most hilarious threads I've ever seen on this site. I can't believe some of the things women pretzel brain twist over.

 

If you are in a car with your significant other and their friend or family is driving, is it rude for them to sit in the front and leave you by yourself in the backseat?

 

No.

 

I was just wondering because I had always seen couples opting to sit together even with the front seat being available,

 

In a taxi? I have never once seen this in my entire 38 years outside of a taxi/limo situation.

 

and when the guy I was up until recently dating did this and I asked him why he wasn't in the back with me, he told me his brother wasn't a taxi cab driver. Was he just being an a-hole?

 

No. I think he's right.

 

Am I wrong in thinking he should have been sitting in back with me?

 

In my opinion, yes.

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Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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Both front seats should be sat in. The spare goes in the back.

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If the front seat is open someone should be in it, he is right about not being a taxi driver.

 

This.

 

And typically the bigger people take the front seat.

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Really is a nothing serious, dont overthink it. Its only good manners to occupy both front seats if he driver isnt a servant.

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what a trivial matter to argue over. who cares. sometimes a couple will sit together. sometimes in certain cars the bigger or taller may sit where theres more room so everybody will be comfortable. but really arguing over seats in the behavior of a little bratty kid.

My, aren't we being presumptuous. I didn't pick an argument with him, I said 'I SEE' in response and nothing more. I've not been in a relationship before and I am relatively young and inexperienced. Anyone else who wants to respond by insulting me from this point on can shove it. I've had enough.

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It was a joke. Sorry, was not my intent to offend you.

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For me if I'm driving, I hate it when two people sit in the back of my car when the front seat is free.

 

So I would return the favor and sit in the front and leave my date in the back. I'd only sit in the front as I'm pretty tall (6'1.)

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dasein = concourse1? A sock-puppet? :confused:

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Everyone knows that whoever calls 'shotgun!' first gets to sit in the front seat.

 

Yeesh. It's not hard, people!!!

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You know - I actually googled this:

 

If you are connected to the driver (Wife, fiancée GF) then you should automatically take the front seat by them, unless you take the initiative and offer them the front seat.

 

If you are the other passenger's partner, if you're female, chances are you will automatically be offered a back seat.

And it seems it's a subliminal protective gesture.

It puts you behind them and shielded from danger (and actually, providing you wear a belt, chances are in an accident, you will be better off. )

 

There is also the practicality of men usually having longer legs or being taller, and needing the footwell in the front.

 

I can see your BF's point.

 

I'm sure he didn't do it to slight you, but from his perspective, it just seemed a natural thing for him to sit next to his bro'....

 

I have to say, if my H and I are given a lift anywhere, I'm always happy to sit in the back....

We went on a nearly-two-hour car journey the other day, in this very situation...I listened to my own music on my headphones, played card games on my phone, and did not have to sit there listening to them drone on about 'the game'.....! :D

 

 

maybe its old fashioned of me tara ...i agree with everything you said, i sit in the back seat over elderly or men, any other way to me doesnt feel right......in taxis if i travel alone i take the back seat because i dont feel comfortable in the front .......there is a reason for that though....is that old fashioned...not current....prehistoric ...who cares i dont mind the back seat...doesnt bother me in the slightest...i woudl expect a significant other to sit int eh frotn with his brother or family....i woudl just vague out in the back....enjoy the ride and the wind..........deb

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dasein = concourse1? A sock-puppet? :confused:

 

I wish that was true, especially since I'd already put both on my ignore list, so it'd be a hilarious coincidence :laugh:. But no, unfortunately I think dasein just posted in the wrong thread. Conversation flow doesn't make sense, and dasein usually types way better than concourse.

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When someone we both know is fetching us, the bf usually asks me if I'd like to sit in the front. If it's someone I don't know at all, he takes the seat. Either way, the front seat is always taken, as it should be. It'd be rude beyond belief for a couple to sit in the back and leave the front seat open. If I was fetching a couple and they did that, believe me that'd be the last time they get a free car ride!

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If the front seat is open someone should be in it, he is right about not being a taxi driver.

 

as to who should sit there, it depends on up bringing. As a guy, I was raised to always offer the front seat to women, as it has a better view and more space to get comfortable. Additionally, I Learned to give precedence to age. In other words if it's me, my gf, and my grandmother, the order of dibs is grandmother, gf, me.

 

 

This is generally how I was brought up, too. Grandmother always got the front seat. As for the gf, if she is young then she would sit in the back and not next to the brother as she is not his gf or wife where it could be misconstrued that she is his partner.

 

It's totally normal, OP, that your bf would sit next to his brother with you in the back.

 

It is plain rude and disrespectful to the driver to leave the front seat empty. The driver is not paid help or a taxi driver.

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If my GF actually blows up a fit over this, I don't want to be with her.

 

This is a pitiful and pointless thing to be raging over. I frankly don't care if I had to sit in the trunk.

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