Biscous Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 She broke up with me last June. I went NC for roughly 5-6 months until we were both back in our home town around Thanksgiving We had sex a few times, said our love you/goodbyes, and left. No bitterness or anything. She still tried to maintain contact with me throughout early Dec where she cried on the phone and said she will talk to me later, but didn't call me. Long story short, the ultimate cause in our break up is our phases of life. She is unwilling to move to Texas it seems where I live now for my career, but she broke up with me and in a way to get away from her home she moved to NY with her ex and lives there now working at a bookstore. So I ignored her mid Dec - Late Feb, where I was in a better place...she texted me saying she had a dream about me. I told her cool and that I was in LA for work...just to let he know I'm not sitting around waiting for anyone. So we have been talking a bit on the phone and texts, quite friendly. Recently she has been sporadic on the phone. It's been tough getting her on the phone to talk. She says she's going through things...her sister attempting suicide...yet I know she has time in her day and she has gotten my calls. She called me this morning, very early for me (and we are in a different timezone mind you), so I think she is doing that to say she called me, but getting in contact with her in the evening is frustrating. I want to tell her to GTFO my life and stop contacting me. I thought I was OK with being slightly cordial, but she is showing me somewhat disrespect. I know things are going on, but damn have some decency. She knows the conditions...she moves here to be with me or no. Yet she wants to see me in April...I'm thinking part of it is sexual b/c she said she feels as though we are drawn away with our life, but at least she can see me from time to time. OK. Am I wrong in just telling her off and dismissing her from my life here? Or at least tell her to not bother any more. Just not sure what to do. I successfully ignore her and she comes back feeling as though she can't get me out of her life. It's irritating.
Desensitized Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 By telling her to 'get the f out of your life,' you are giving her power over you. Just keep ignoring her. Eventually, she will have to stop. If she doesn't, block her number.
ThatJustHappened Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 If she's irritating you, why would you keep her in your life? Just tell her you feel like she's disrespecting you and you don't want to talk anymore, and then block her if she doesn't stop. I disagree with the poster above. I think just ignoring her out of the blue is hypocritical. If you're angry about her disrespecting you, don't disrespect her back. Tell her.
Author Biscous Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 If she's irritating you, why would you keep her in your life? Just tell her you feel like she's disrespecting you and you don't want to talk anymore, and then block her if she doesn't stop. I disagree with the poster above. I think just ignoring her out of the blue is hypocritical. If you're angry about her disrespecting you, don't disrespect her back. Tell her. She keeps coming back into my life. Says she wants to be with me, but feels conflicted about what she wants to do in her life. Talks to me, then cries because she wants to be with me and feels like we won't be together...unwilling to move where I live because she doesn't like it. Doesn't want to do long distance again but doesn't want me to date anyone lol. Young 23 year old going through GIGS. I'm going to be 30 soon. She's not dating anyone, she just doesn't know what she wants in her life but I get tired of it. Might just drop her to borderline FWB with how she acts lol.
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