VolsGuy Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 So I was dating this girl , shes 23 I'm 30 and I've always been the playboy type. Never had trouble getting women, successful in business etc. she in the be.ginning was hesitant about me knowing my passed with women but decided give me a go. I never treated her like a real gf... Like ignored her fb request etc. but I did treat her great. She lived at her college but would come to her home.town to see me and I would do the same every two weeks. Truly we never fraught but as much as she wanted I was always stand off ish towards treating her great. I defiantly drank to much and had times where I knew she hated it. After x MAS I decided it was almost summer and I wanted lake season to be single so I looked for a stupid reason to end it and I did. She tried and tried to contact me but I ignored. She even sent me shift for being number one in my company a week after I ended it. She sent me amessage saying that she loved me enough to wait and I just took it for granted. Fast forward a month and she unblocked me from Facebook just long enough to see her pic changed to her and already in a fb relationship with a guy that looks just like me only younger he's 24. We even have the same lifted truck, although he is defiantly in the shape I was in when I was that age which is 6 pack and all. And she's a work out fern to. Anyways it sent me into a panic and tried contacting her. She told me she had waited for me to say the things I was saying but time had changed and she had changed... In one month. I told her I would move closer to her, move her in with me etc. she wasn't hearing it saying everything I was saying was the opposite of what I had told her the entire time we were together. Since then I've become sober and started working out like crazy hoping my change would make her miss me. After 2 weeks no contact I wrote her closure email apologizing for not treating her the way I should have and Ellington her I knew I had now lost my one. I told her I regretted it and always would and wished her happiness. Her response was shirt and just said thank u and she wished me happiness and hurt her to know I was hurting but that she would take all the life lessons I taught her with her forever. I'm looking to re locate now and told her this but she doesn't seem to care. My questions are many. Dies she really not care that quick? Could she really be over me that quick just because he's better looking? I mean he works at gnc and I make 100 plus a year, not that that matters I guess. Also does she miss me at all or she really just over me after saying I was all she ever wanted? I've tried to accept its over and I'm working to move and move on with my life. But I still look at my phone constantly hoping she will call or text but I'm convinced shes happy and I must move on. I'm seeing someone else but it's still hard not to miss her. I guess it would help to know that she still cares and just doesn't trust me vs she really lives this guy already. Any advice will help. Please know I've accepted she's not coming back so any getting over this will help because I've never thought I gave up THE ONE until now. Also why didn't I care until she got a new bf? Or maybe I did care but waiting for her to fight for me. All this is on me and I know that so please no I'm hurting with any responses.
KatZee Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 30 years old and this is how you write, and act? I'm sorry but the only thing that's hurting here is your ego. She moved on before you did and now you want what you can't have. You didn't even treat her that great so why do you REALLY want her now? 1
ThatJustHappened Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 You only want her because you can't have her. You treated her like ***** and she dumped you, and deservedly so. Consider therapy..it might help you find out why you treat women so poorly.
Author VolsGuy Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 I wish it were my ego... That would help me to know that I'm only jealous. But truth is I don't believe it is, sobriety has opened my eyes to how special she was and how much I miss and want her in my life. I am trying to accept shes gone, planning to move soon. It's all I know to do is run.
asdfasdf1234 Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Lol so the player got played. Dude, you can't be a playboy and care. And no she isn't special your ego is bruised because she is with someone who is in better shape / younger. That is all it is. You need to go out and find some new tail or you will end up on here everyday talking about how you want her back. Ew.
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