lolster Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Hello LS, I met this girl who i am very attracted to, we met at school and hit it off instantly. We would laugh and crack jokes and all of the other stuff, but ive been getting so many mixed messages which are hindering me to asking her out. Things she does for me: Ive been struggling with my homework and she said that she could help me by spending time after class to help me learn. helped me plan out things to do for the summer ( quite extensive might i add) shows that she cares. when we talk we laugh a lot. things that she confuses me with: does not initiate texts, i always have to start. Also, i get very mono tone responses from her. when we meet in class, then i feel like we connect. havent actually done anything outside of school too. Cannot tell if she thinks me as a friend or what.... im confused, female responses would help me a lot. i was told attractive females get 4-5 guys trying to win them over daily
Author lolster Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 Welcome to the friendzone. damn its my 3rd day talking to her ahaha really...
LuckyShades Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Well the never initiating miight not be a good sign. Does she at least seem happy to talk to you? Does she ask questions and keep the conversation stimulated, or do you find yourself reviving it a lot?
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Welcome to the friendzone. Speaking from experience 1
iKING Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Speaking from experience I've been in it once that I can remember, lasted a week or two before she randomly confessed she liked me. I think the problem was that she had a boyfriend. The signs aren't looking good OP but all you can do is try if you want. You have nothing to lose really. There really haven't been enough interactions to determined interest, but everything she's done so far that you noted could easily be written off as stuff you do/say to your friends.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Welcome to the friendzone. Agreed. But I say make a move anyway. In doing this, she will either: 1) Stop talking to you and, thus, not waste your time 2) Keep you as a friend, knowing you like her in the back of her mind (and if you play it right, this could lead to something down the road) Still, this is more than likely a long-term project, if anything. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 So she's not a texter? Make a move. I love when women give good advice. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Ask her out. That's the only reliable way to figure out whether she likes you. Everything else is speculation.
Divasu Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Cannot tell if she thinks me as a friend or what.... im confusedThat's because you're not doing anything, but "texting". What's the saying? "Go hard or don't go at all". That doesn't mean you have to rip her clothes off the next time you see her. But, you don't want to create a place for yourself that you don't want to be in (ie: her friend). If you're uncomfortable with asking her out, wait a bit. But the longer you wait, the harder it is and more nervous you'll be.
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