FishgoM00 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Hello LS, New member here, found this place in light of looking for advice on my current situation and a lot of people give great advice on here. I met this girl 5 months ago, we started talking and things were going great. I actually went to HS with her, and we reconnected on Facebook 5 years later. She lives 3 hours south of me, so we were kinda forced to do the long distance deal, but we switched weekends on driving to each others places. Anyway, we hit it off, and truly enjoyed each other like no other. About 2 weeks ago, I spent 4 days with her, met her family, I got their approval, they loved me! Ever since I left, she has been acting distant, won't hardly talk, always has an excuse, and said "we moved wayyyy to fast" to which I agreed, and said we could slow this down, get to know each other more. The past 3 days, we have hardly talked, last night she called and I got the infamous "I'm not ready for this, I'm frightened" line. Mind you for the last 5 months all I ever heard was "I'm so glad you came into my life" "I'm so tired of dealing with bs guys" "I'm ready for a commitment". She does have a 4 year old son, and her "baby daddy" was abusive to her verbally and physically. Cheated on her numerous times. But this was 3 years ago. It's been 24 hours, no calls, no texts. After talking all day everyday the past 5 months it's rough. What do I do? Obviously no contact. But do you think she's gone for good?
LuckyShades Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Maybe something happened during those 4 days that set her off. Anything odd come to mind?But the best thing to do would be to just let her contact you. Don't come off as clingy. Let her have her space.
Author FishgoM00 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 No not at all. We went out for a nice dinner and a movie. Went and a few drinks with her friends one night, and went to dinner with her family as well. Her mom told her to not screw this up, that I was a really good guy. Her mother explained to me that she sabotages positive things in her life. She told me herself that when things go good, she runs. I miss her, a lot. Space is what she wanted, and space is what I'm giving her.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 My guess is that the distance problem became an issue. Yes, I know 5 months may seem like an investment, but you have to see that aside from a relationship, personal matters and problem can also get in the way. At times, it may even prove to be emotionally draining. I agree with the other poster, give her her space and go back to your life. This is an issue where you cannot force her to come around, but hope that she will come around on her own. Take into mind that if she doesn't come around, you will have to move on. For your sakes, worry about yourself and think about your own interests.
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Her mother explained to me that she sabotages positive things in her life. She told me herself that when things go good, she runs. Not a good sign.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 I'm generally against dating single mothers, so I'm a bit biased. But this does not sound like a good situation to begin with. Then she starts getting all weird on you. Definitely drop her and move on, man. Too much baggage here.
Author FishgoM00 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 I definitely agree. I really do care about her, a lot. She informed me, it's nothing I've done, it's all her own issues.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 I definitely agree. I really do care about her, a lot. She informed me, it's nothing I've done, it's all her own issues. No argument there.
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