londonlad Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 This has happened to quite a bit recently. I arrange to meet a girl/woman and then suddenly the date's off. I find this very very annoying. I'm quite a busy guy so when I mark my calender "Friday, Jess 7pm" that means I don't make other plans for that evening. Why do women change their mind like that? Also, I've been dating this girl and she's been giving mixed singles of interest. Now I'm getting the feeling her interest level is at zero for me. She's one of these very pretty types who love attention but I don't get at what stage she decided she'd had enough attention from me and why. I've been very relaxed about us seeing each other to avoid seeming "needy" but at the same time contacting her about once a week. Any insight for me?
Estate Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 You made no impression on her. Simple as that. Maybe she liked the idea of a date and agreed then when it came to the time she thought "Ugh, I don't even know this guy, I don't wanna do this". It's your own fault. If you made a bigger impression she'd be excited for the date but she obviously isn't. You know what you have to do, so do it.
FitChick Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 What do you look like and how much money do you make? Seriously, men do the same thing to women. Just move on.
JMCOSU838 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 This has happened to quite a bit recently. I arrange to meet a girl/woman and then suddenly the date's off. I find this very very annoying. I'm quite a busy guy so when I mark my calender "Friday, Jess 7pm" that means I don't make other plans for that evening. Why do women change their mind like that? Also, I've been dating this girl and she's been giving mixed singles of interest. Now I'm getting the feeling her interest level is at zero for me. She's one of these very pretty types who love attention but I don't get at what stage she decided she'd had enough attention from me and why. I've been very relaxed about us seeing each other to avoid seeming "needy" but at the same time contacting her about once a week. Any insight for me? Honestly, I'd stop trying to figure out what goes on inside a woman's head. You'd have better luck slamming your head through a concrete wall. Try to get to know as many women as you can. Eventually one of them will think you're pretty awesome and will let you know it loud and clear. 3
MrCastle Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 People flake on others because they lack consideration. They lack consideration because they don't like you. 1
SJC2008 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 What do you look like and how much money do you make? Seriously, men do the same thing to women. Just move on. Pertaining to the OP that's about as irrelevant as all the articles you post to prove that women in their 40's are still "viable". TBS I have red hair and contrary to what they say on South Park I do have a soul! I made about $25k last year working part time. Happy?
FitChick Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Pertaining to the OP that's about as irrelevant as all the articles you post to prove that women in their 40's are still "viable". TBS I have red hair and contrary to what they say on South Park I do have a soul! I made about $25k last year working part time. Happy? You totally missed the joke. Lighten up! 3
PhillyDude Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Obviously because someone else came along that was better.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Nobody on here can tell you what actually happened. She might not even know. Years ago, a good (and very attractive) female friend once told me: "Don't ask me to understand what other women do. I don't even understand what I do." In the years since, I've come to realize the wisdom in that statement. 3
Lani Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 We do this because we're women, and like to change our minds. That's pretty much all there is to it... 2
PhillyDude Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 We do this because we're women, and like to change our minds. That's pretty much all there is to it... And because of that men should only contact woman when they are in the mood for sex 1
truth_seeker Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Any insight for me? They're losers you need to ignore.
SJC2008 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 You totally missed the joke. Lighten up! My bad:( The one time you were joking I get it wrong...
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 1) Finding out we have nothing in common 2) Lack of attraction 3) Finding out about personality incompatibilities 4) Red flags popping up (friends with a ton of girls, showing signs of a huge ego, talking about his exes alot, finding out he goes to strip clubs for fun, finding dead bodies in his closet, getting vibes he might be secretly gay) In my experience, order of frequency of these reasons goes like this: 3, 4, 1, 2 I read somewhere it takes at least 2-3 months to get to know someone well, beyond their "best behavior" stage, unless its someone youve been friends with for awhile I usually like to show girls the dead bodies in my closet on the first date. Because of your post, I now know why I rarely get second dates. Thank you. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 what is wrong with you? I was kidding man. I usually wait til the third date to show off the bodies. 1
Nicomis Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 No matter how many times they justify it with all the things your supposedly not doing, It's just an excuse to be a rude bitch. I would stop talking to her. Or.. put sugar in her gas tank. :-)
Lani Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 which is distasteful at best and sometimes downright cruel. Changing your mind is distasteful and cruel? How so?
Desensitized Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 If they flake they're not interested in you. If they 'change their mind,' they weren't interested in you enough to be with you, date you, whatever.
Author londonlad Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Lol why is it if you ask a simple question about women people assume you have no success with women. I date loads of girls with much success. I just find it a bit odd that some girls kill things without giving them a chance, after seeming interested.
Shaun-Dro Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Nobody on here can tell you what actually happened. She might not even know. Years ago, a good (and very attractive) female friend once told me: "Don't ask me to understand what other women do. I don't even understand what I do." That was a boldface lie to keep you and other men out of the loop. It's one of the great advantages that today's women have over men is to keep them in the dark on what goes on in their minds and why.
phineas Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 This is why I no longer make plans with women who are not my GF on the weekends. Too much flaking. Nothing like lining up a baby-sitter for a date only to have her flake an hr before with "i'm sick" or some other retarded excuse and still having to pay the baby-sitter.
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 This is why I no longer make plans with women who are not my GF on the weekends. Too much flaking. Nothing like lining up a baby-sitter for a date only to have her flake an hr before with "i'm sick" or some other retarded excuse and still having to pay the baby-sitter. If a woman says she sick you should have said......"If I stick my dick in your mouth would that make feel better" LOL, because we both know that someone saying they are sick is BS
phineas Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 If a woman says she sick you should have said......"If I stick my dick in your mouth would that make feel better" LOL, because we both know that someone saying they are sick is BS They don't even call. they text & if a woman flakes on me with the "sick" excuse for a first or 2nd date last min. I do not even bother responding & ignore her until she goes away or gets annoying then I invite her over for a movie & tell her to wear something sexy. Then they usually get the idea and go away permanently. Though I did have a few come over.
apple OR orange Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Generally if you dont agree to a meeting, your not that interested in what that meeting was about... With dates, it means she wasnt bothered in the first place, i agree with you though, if you make a date stick to it. Some people (male and female) like the "idea" of dating, not the dating itself..
PhillyDude Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 They don't even call. they text & if a woman flakes on me with the "sick" excuse for a first or 2nd date last min. I do not even bother responding & ignore her until she goes away or gets annoying then I invite her over for a movie & tell her to wear something sexy. Then they usually get the idea and go away permanently. Though I did have a few come over. Based on my past history, if I don't chat with the woman the night before the date, then most likely we are not going anywhere
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