Author Babolat Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Whew. This started off as a bachelorette auction gripe but with every subsequent post OP I really wonder what kind of relationship you had with this one. One where I was afraid to walk away because of all the good. I kept hoping things would be different....
HuffmanMontana Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 My girlfriend of 12+ months just told me she is in a bachorlette auction for charity. She said she did it because I will bid on her and it's for charity. My immediate reaction is WTF! It's men bidding on her for a date and why would you assume I would be there AND be the highest bidder? I could just make a donation to the charity...right? All I said was I am speechless, she got upset and said she will not be going home with them. Really? I am glad we cleared that up! Men, how would you feel? Ladies, what am I missing here? Thanks It's for charity and she already told you to bid. What's the problem? FYI, nobody is there to take your girl on a date. They are there to have a good time and donate to charity. The word "auction" doesn't really mean anything. Sidenote: Get over yourself.
HuffmanMontana Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 It's for charity. It's not a real date. It' very admirable that she agreed to do it as these things usually generate a lot of money for the given charity. It's not a real date, no matter who wins... it's all about giving the money to charity. Stop being so whiney and insecure. if you get this hot and bothered about other men looking at her then I'd be more worried about losing her other ways than a charity auction for crap sake. Exactly. I cannot believe how thin skinned some of the replies so far are. Terrible, awful advice. If you are a man you will support her and go help drive the bid up. These auctions clearly state no party is required to go on a date.
HuffmanMontana Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Oh, well after reading a little more history... I still don't know why you're shocked lol.
Author Babolat Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Thanks HuffmanMontana. In a healthier relationship this would have been a non issue for me; especially if she had talked to me about it prior to signing up. I am not hung up on myself, not at all. I am secure with myself and not a jealous type. It's all the history prior to this that caused the issue, which I now understand, and it's the event, the trigger, that allowed me to walk away from the relationship.
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