KS11 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 For Christmas she bought us tickets to go see this theatre show and its a few weeks away. I'm just wondering if I should send her back my ticket. I feel kinda bad that she's spent money on it and now obviously we're not going. I was so surprised she got me it so it sucks to not be going. Just wondering what the best thing to do is. One of my friends said no way should I send it back, after all the things you've given her, plus can you imagine if you found out she went with another guy..
geegirl Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 It's pretty clear you're using it as an excuse to open the door to communication. You're looking for ways to test the waters, find ways to reach out in hopes of getting a reaction. That would tell you where you stand. If she wanted the ticket back, she would have asked for it. If she hasn't, I suggest you do not contact her about it. Stop trying to look for excuses to break the silence. A few threads on here about regretting breaking NC. You have three weeks under your belt. This is the most difficult stage. Keep pushing through.
CarrieT Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 It was a gift. Take someone else (even a parent or a sibling, so it doesn't feel like a date) and enjoy the show.
ThatJustHappened Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Do you only have your ticket or do you have the pair? If you only have yours, just toss it. Sending it back seems kind of passive aggressive to me. If I were her, I would think you were either trying to open the doors of communication, or trying to hurt me by sending it back, and it would just make me angry. If you have the pair, take someone else. They were a gift and they're yours to do whatever you want with.
Author KS11 Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 Yeah I think thats fair. As much as I'm telling myself i'm just doing it because it feels like the right thing to do, I think the hard truth is perhaps I am looking for a reaction of some sort. It certainly wouldn't have been to hurt her though. I only have my ticket, she has hers. I was so looking forward to going. Pathetic I know, but I imagined this 'Hollywood' scenario where I went anyway, and somehow she had decided to go on the off chance that I might to do the same and we'd have this great night and it would all be sweet again. I just don't feel like im getting better. I remember really early on I had this fear which I told her about, that we would become strangers. And she did everything to reassure me that wasn't going to happen. It kills thats happened, I was so certain that this person was going to be someone who'd be in my life for a long time, and now its like it might as well of never happened.
ArranHerry Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Well, as per my experience, you should take her to the theater. She will feel good for you. However you can take your cousin also if you don't want to go with her.
Recommended Posts